How does being attracted to a trans or non-binary person affect your definition of your sexuality? Our Head Board guest author, trans woman and plus size model Shay Neary, is here to share her words of wisdom on trans attraction and sexuality.
Because of a fundamental lack of understanding of gender structure and identity, we're sometimes mystified by the matters of attraction - especially when it's in regard to TNBGF* individuals.
Part of the problem is that we tend to look at gender as if it were like a single pair of shoes, in which you have only left or right, and nothing in between.
But gender identity is more like the entire shoe deparment, with an enormous array of individual styles for you to choose from based on what you feel most comfortable in and what most suits your individual tastes.
So how do you navigate the world of dating a trans person?
We all want to be swept off our feet in the bedroom.
It just so happens that some of us want to be swept off our feet a little bit more than others.
The foot fetish has been the butt of many jokes on television and in comedy. Its typically portrayed as the predilection of so-called ‘nerds’ or social outcasts. This worn-out trope is, at its worst, kink-shaming and at its best, woefully inaccurate. Having a fetish for feet and for foot play is extremely common.
Britney Spears, Idris Elba and Quentin Tarantino are but three of the many celebrities who have openly given foot play the seal of approval. (Tarantino is so comfortable with his love for feet, that he pays homage to it in his films. Watch his big scene in ‘From Dusk till Dawn’ if you don’t believe me!)
I knew very little about this fetish prior to conducting my research. However, I was determined to put my best foot forward. I am so glad that I did because now, I can lay another fantastic fetish bare for you!
Picture the scene: the lights are dimmed, the candles are lit - and someone pulls out the silky satin restraints.
If you and your partner have decided to make your BDSM debut, then congratulations are in order! It’s great that you’ve found someone else who is on your wavelength and is up for some sexploration.
What could kill the mood slightly, however, is if you tie up your lover and then stand there staring awkwardly, while your lover lies there and just stares right back at you (also awkward).
Before you whip the handcuffs out, the best thing to do is plan your scene together. Planning will help clarify what sort of play turns you both on, what activities are off the cards, and what your safe word will be.
But exactly how do you plan sex, and keep it sexy? Here's 7 things to do with your partner (ranked from mildest to wildest) now that you've got them tied up.
It's movie night. Lights are dimmed, the popcorn is burning in the microwave and it's time to forget about studying for a couple of hours (it can be done tomorrow, right?).
Back in the days before binge watching a whole series was possible to do, without getting up from the sofa every four hours to put in the next DVD or VHS, movies ruled.
We spent many hours in front of the screen, even though we were told we'd get square eyes. Recreating musical dance routines, crying over a doe dying, gasping at the daredevil stunts of the action heroes and marvelling at the tightness of the Goblin King's trousers...
We are taking a trip back down cinematic memory lane, to look at some of the characters who inspired more than respect for their range. In fact, you could argue that some of them don't even have a range. But they sure were pretty.
If you're a big fan of British comedy, then chances are you've stumbled across the brilliance that is the Channel 4 sitcom, Peep Show.
This cringe-inducing series follows the lives of housemates Mark Corrigan and Jeremy Usbourne as they navigate love, life, and Business Secrets of the Pharaohs.
And though there are no plans for Mark, Jez, and Super Hans to come back to our screens any time soon (sob), their legacy lives on.
So we picked out a dozen of our favourite Peep Show moments which we think accurately sum up several moments during our sex lives, and, we hope, yours.
Somtimes, sex can be very awkward. It’s unfortunate, but it’s true. When you’re naked and getting it on with your partner, whether it’s your long-term squeeze or a one-night stand, a single wrong line can kill the mood entirely.
Of course, if you’re super comfortable around someone there’s nothing wrong with some jokes and giggles during sex, but if it’s a new partner or you don’t know them particularly well, knowing where the boundaries are isn't always so simple.
So to help you avoid any awkward silences in the place of heavy breathing and contented moans, I’ve put together a list of some of the most cringey, awkward, and uncomfortable things that you should definitely never say in the bedroom.
Got any of your own? Be sure to add them to the comments!
Are you someone who loves the idea of watching other people while they get down and dirty? Then you might just be a voyeur.
The term 'voyeurism' comes from the French word 'voyeur', which means one who looks or one who sees.
Voyeurism is most commonly used to describe the practice of watching others for one's own sexual gratification. (Voyeurism can be used in non-sexual sense as well. People often refer to society's love for reality television as a kind of voyeurism, for example.)
There are a variety of common scenarios that a voyeur (the one who looks) may find arousing - and if you're someone who'd like to introduce a little 'spectacle' to your sex life, then we've got some top tips for you.
"My girlfriend's really shy about her body. I love the way she looks, but is there any lingerie I can buy her to help her feel sexier?"
When we asked you to send us your sex questions, tons of you wanted to know how to help your partner feel more confident in their own skin. So we asked body-positive blogger and Instagram sensation,CurvyGirlThin (aka Charli) to give us her finest tips for lingerie to make anyone feel fab.
Feeling sexy is definitely linked to being empowered. If a woman doesn’t feel empowered, then she’s unlikely to feel confident and sexy in her own body.
For me, empowerment definitely starts at the base - and that is lingerie. However, my mood really affects what lingerie is going to make me feel my sexiest.
Read more below to see Charli's top lingerie tips and choices.
Giving up control isn't always easy to do, but it can lead to lots of fun – especially when it comes to sex.
Discreet, versatile, and super fun to play with, remote control sex toys are one of our favourite inventions aside from Netflix (although, we should probably take a moment to appreciate the creator of Netflix, what a legend).
Opening up a world of sexual opportunity, remote control toys challenge your ability to keep calm and carry on – even with things not at all calm down below.
They're also an easy way to introduce outdoor adventures into your sex life, and explore power play without restraint.
Lovehoney has an unbelievable variety of remote control sex toys on offer, and here are some of the ways you can use them!
Why a Magic Wand?
'Cause they're magic!
As well as being magical, wands are wonderfully versatile and can be used for all sorts of play, from romantic massage right through to kinky fetish fun (and everything in between).
They're a great non-intimidating introduction to bedroom accessories, particularly for couples who'd rather steer clear of anatomical toys, and offer loads of play options without looking like a body part.
Plus, with just a couple of attachments in your midst, a wand can bring the pleasure of several toys, in one neat package.
This allows you to explore a whole world of pleasure, without dedicating your whole wardrobe to sexy products.
(Not that there's anything wrong with that!
*Admires bedside unit spewing with dongs*)