There is an interesting discussion going on in the Orgasm Army forums on the acceptability of wearing sex toys while out in public. With the coming (heh) of toys like the VibraExciter and the VibraExciter for Men, getting off or at least getting phenomenally aroused while you're out in town has never been so easy. But while people tend to give a blush and a twitter when considering a couple using such toys to spice up their sex life, people can feel a little ooky when considering a man using these toys on his own - especially when the toys are less vibrating and more insertable.
So what difference? It is still someone getting aroused in public… why does it seem seedier if it is a man alone, without a woman attached to the other end of his toy?
Captain Jezzer tries to tease out the differences:
Now there seems to be some people in the outside world who think wearing toys is only a good thing if its women doing it,it seems a lot of people say if a man is wearing one and he cums using one, it's a bit on the sick side etc.
It seems more acceptable for women to wear Toys and orgasm and get wet, but if it's a bloke doing it well it's a No-No.
What are your views??
There is some discussion on whether or not it turns 'pervy' if you're fantasizing about someone you can see while you're out, and whether or not it is rude to be interacting with other people while getting your rocks off. It's an interesting subject, when you start to peel back why some things are hot and some things unsettle you. The discussion continues, so head on over to the Army and join in.
Suzi Godson in The Times answers a question about erectile disfunction and, among other things, recommends that couples use sex toys to reduce the pressure to perform in the bedroom.
"Some couples dealing with erectile dysfunction find that sex toys alleviate the pressure to perform," she says. "If you haven't explored the wonderful world of vibrators before, the Hitachi Magic Wand (about £60) is reliable, effective and won't offend if discovered by the cleaning lady."
Even though it's quite a big vibrator, the Hitachi Magic Wand doesn't look like a sex toy because it was designed as a back massager. It's purely coincidental that it happens to be orgasmic.
Our Hitachi Magic Wand reviews show that it's a hugely popular vibrator with couples and also offer some tips for using the vibe.
The size of the vibrating tip makes it hard (if not impossible!) to use the Hitachi Magic Wand for internal stimulation. For that, you can use one of many Hitachi Magic Wand attachments which fit over the vibrating dome and have smooth, rippled or curved ends for vaginal stimulation.
All all in all, a brilliant way to alleviate the pressure to perform!
We're massively expanding our range of Fleshlights to make Lovehoney the number one place to come and buy male sex toys. We're the largest (and, we like to think, best) UK Fleshlight stockist, offering the biggest range at competitive prices with free delivery.
Our new Fleshlight shop has all the information and advice you'd expect from a leading UK Fleshlight stockist.
You can browse complete Fleshlights and Fleshlight inserts by colour, opening style or insert style, making it easy to choose the right one for you. With just a couple of clicks, you can narrow down the Fleshlight choices and hone in on the one you want.
We've recently brought back the popular Ice Fleshlights and even persuaded the Fleshlight manufacturer to start making the awesome Gold Fleshlights again - now exclusively available from Lovehoney.
We'll be bringing you lots more new Fleshlight sex toys over the next few weeks, so be sure to book mark the Fleshlight shop or subscribe to the Fleshlight blog feed in your RSS reader.
And so begins the season of new products coming to Lovehoney that fill me with burning desire and a desperation to own - I don't know what cycle the new purchasing at LH is on, but I know the site is suddenly chock-full of items that are innovative, sexy, or just darned needed.
I love the thought behind these Karmasheetra Bed Sheets - like the Twister duvet before it, the Karmasheetra manages to make putting linens onto your bed into something a whole lot more fun. I want to own this if only for the jolliness of the little butt prints.
From the pictures, there aren't too many positions to try out - it looks like about seven--but that doesn't change the fun of those positions. I love the idea that you can try out new positions without having to go through the misery of explaining what you want - has anyone ever successfully explained wanting to try out the more advanced positions without falling back on hand gestures and elaborate diagrams? With these, you just pick a number and go to town.
They fit a standard double bed, but they also look like flat sheets, so if you're lucky enough to have a larger bed, you can still make them work for you. Or use it on the floor if you don't have back problems. Or… if you do have back problems. I can never remember if the hard surfaces are considered good or bad. Don't take medical advice from a sex toy blogger, peeps! Not ever!
The Sun has discovered that sex toys are the most common item left for landlords to chuck out when tenants leave rented properties. This causes us great distress.
If you're leaving rented accommodation, no sex toy should get left behind - send them to us instead and get a new one half price sent to your new address.
Check out our Rabbit Amnesty sex toy recycling scheme to find out how.
It's not every day that you spit out your cornflakes because the Body & Soul section of the venerable Times is answering a question about artificial vaginas and Fleshlights. But it happened today.
A reader writes in to ask if her husband is losing interest in her because he's acquired an artifical vagina. Dr Thomas Stuttaford and Suzi Godson give their usual replies based on medical thinking (him) and sociological reasoning (her).
While it's a wonderful watershed moment to see the Fleshlight discussed so openly in the pages of a national newspaper, it's a bit weird that neither correspondent chooses to celebrate the husband's decision to buy a Fleshlight as simply a way to have a better wank - which, after all, is the point of a Fleshlight.
If you're sensible like some people, you may have realized that a Valentine's on a Thursday is just not as much fun--you are aware that you have to get up for work the next day, so you have to keep things a little bit early and a little light on the alcohol (or you just don't fear being fired--I don't judge!)--or you may be even more sensible and realize that Valentine's is a holiday that should be celebrated all the way through the weekend (like some bloggers *cough*).
Order by 4 pm today and you'll still manage to get something a little naughtier for your Friday night…and Saturday morning…and Saturday night…and Sunday afternoon…
Over on the forums, the Naughty Knot is getting lots of praise as being the perfect gift (and how bold you would be to wear it! you sex kitten, you)--but there are plenty of gifties to choose from all around the site. Have a great weekend…
Time is fast running out for picking up a sexier gift for Valentine's Day (not that your plan to pick up flowers and a chocolate bar at the garage is bad, per se) - though you do have until 4.00 pm TODAY to order and still have it arrive in time. So let me help you out with a fast and furious list of gifts if you haven't been able to choose something.
For a more romantic evening, I adore the look of the above Bijoux Chocolate Lovers Pen Set. Not only does the feather quill have a gorgeous look to it, but I am also seeing potential to use it as a tickler on its own. Inspiration cards means you don't lose steam after writing your name on your lover's back.
Along the same romantic lines is this elegant Kama Sutra Weekend Gift Set. I am a long time lover of the Kama Sutra range and I would be over the moon to be gifted with this. The quality is always high and you don't have to worry about putting your lover off with something kitschy or tacky. And honestly, I would pay this price for the Honey Dust alone. I've had it and I can say it is just as silky smooth on the skin and sweetly tasty as you could ever want. The options for how to spend your Valentine's are nearly limitless with this set.
This one strays a little further into the erotic side of things, but if you're looking for a toy that will work for both of you, you can't do much better than the Synergy Pleasure System Vibrator. It benefits from being non-sex-toy looking, being mains rechargeable, having about a billion different tips and heads, and oscillating rather than vibrating (the sensation is less numbing than a full on vibration for some reason). I've got one of these in my bedside table and I recommend it highly.
I had a fun night out a couple of nights ago - I went with three friends to a specialist hair salon for a serious round of waxing (no, we didn't all go in together - those not being stripped stayed outside guzzling wine for courage). After joshing each other around and giggling over getting a 'special', it got us thinking about the various… hairstyles we've tried out for our men. I won't go into what I chose in the end, or what I've done in the past, but I will say that one thing the waxer said to me stuck out - it is much much harder to get a fun shape with wax than it is with a trimmer.
It is surprisingly rare to find good reviews on traditional styled handcuffs. When you buy them as a sex toy, you often get a poorer quality item - they will fit poorly and frequently feel like you could break them by giving them a good tug. Since most of the people who want to feel as though they can get away if they need to (I have my hand up here) tend to stick to Bondage Tape or scarves, that isn't a plus for metal handcuffs.
So when I see a set getting not one but two 5 star ratings, it is worth noting.