Our drives are most similar in the early lust-filled stages of dating, when Nature is pumping our bodies with chemicals to make us mate and bond. But once that bonding has taken place (usually within 2 years) then the drive tends to drop.
It’s always tricky dealing with mismatched libidos. If you have a low sex drive and your partner is the opposite, you may feel pestered to have sex when you aren’t in the mood, whereas he feels rejected.Julie Peasgood
It sounds from your letter as if you’re not only missing this element of your love life, but that you really care about your partner’s welfare, so I hope this will help with both.Julie Peasgood
I can understand your frustration, especially as you have tried talking to her about the situation, but how about now diffusing the situation entirely and just offering whatever support you can – especially with your kids?
If you’ve bought yourself a magic wand vibrator, or are thinking of treating yourself or your partner to one, you might be wondering how to get the best use from it.
There are loads of ways to enjoy these powerful sex toys no matter what your pleasure preference.
By using your imagination and trying out some new techniques with your massager, you can make sure you enjoy varied stimulation and reight new orgasmic heights time after time.
Here are my top 10 tips for using your magic wand vibrator - enjoy!
Don’t compare yourself to porn stars - remember, they’re acting, and when they perform, there’s no emotional connection. Instead, look your man in the eyes as you move, and the chances are he’ll find it a huge turn-on.Julie Peasgood
He obviously finds the idea of you having sex with or being lusted after by other men a turn-on, but if it does the opposite for you, even as a fantasy, then you need to tell him.
Making a Vibrator Quiet
If you don’t want your housemates or family knowing that you’re enjoying a solo sex life or like using toys with your partner, the idea of using a vibrator in a shared house can be offputting.
In this enlightened age, few people will confuse the low humming of your favourite rabbit with a foot massager or an electric shaver, so for the self conscious it’s important that pleasure objects are as quiet and discreet as possible.
It is also true that silence is rarely synonymous with power, so if you have a favourite vibe that you love but it’s too loud for you to feel comfortable using when others in the house, how do you get around it?
Fear not, here are our top five tips for making your vibrator as quiet as possible.Julie Peasgood
It’s difficult to know what advice to give, apart from explaining to him how desperate this is making you feel – not just desperate that you’re missing out on the intimacy and fun that sex can bring, but also desperate because your feelings are not being recognised. Perhaps you need to ask him what it will take for him to start taking this problem seriously?
Things got a bit hot on ITV's flagship daytime show, This Morning, with sexpert Jo Hemmings dishing out her top sex tips for a better love life and, with the help of two frisky 60-somethings, demonstrating the best positions for lovemaking.
Jo's top tip was to "introduce toys to the bedroom" and demonstrated the brand new Lelo Insignia Tiani (£60.00) - a remote controlled vibrator that's designed to be worn by the woman and controlled by her partner.
If you want to watch the segment, you can watch The Sexperts Talk Libido on the This Morning website.