This is a bit of a ‘Moral Maze’ dilemma - there’s no easy way round it. I wonder how you’ve found out - and if you’re 100% sure?
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You’ll be pleased to hear that help is on the way for your girlfriend… but unfortunately it’ll probably be another 18 months before ‘Flibanserin’ is with us.
I’m all for a sexy two-day growth, but it hurts like hell when it’s in direct contact with the delicate female vulva (the words sand and paper spring to mind).Julie Peasgood
Assuming you use common sense in not over exerting yourself, there’s no reason in the world why you shouldn’t be doing it - and yes, it is quite safe!Julie Peasgood
It would be unusual for a couple, however much they still found each other attractive, to still want sex every day after 16 years together.Julie Peasgood
If you mean can it do you any harm, the simple answer is no. I would only be concerned if it was interfering with your everyday life or relationship.Julie Peasgood
You definitely tick all the boxes for creativity and variety - good on you! How about giving him an exciting visual treat with a striptease?
If you’re sporting a tangled Brillo pad between your legs, guys, then it could be time for some pubic grooming.
The female orgasm and penetrative sex can be an elusive combination. According to randomly harvested statistics, approximately 70% of women are unable to orgasm through penetrative sex alone. When reading through the spools of 'advice' on the subject, I find it quite alarming how little it is mentioned that this is NOT a big deal.
A lot of Agony Aunts have reams of advice on 'feeling more comfortable with your partner' and 'learning to relax' amongst other issues, but this just isn't applicable to a lot of women. We are comfortable with our partners. Some of us have squeezed out a sprog in front of the other half. Some of us have a sexual repertoire containing more tawdry acts than you'd find in a rockstar's memoir. Some of us, well, we just live to 'smack that'. Doesn't mean we get to orgasm through penetration alone (and no guys, it does not mean that you're doing it wrong).
Most women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm and unfortunately it's an anatomical probability that no matter which shapes and angles you pull, the alignment for clitoral contact just isn't always going to be there. If you can't arrange yourselves so that your partner is hitting your clit, you just need a little help from a friend.
If you want a quick and easy solution, you might want to reach for a cock ring. They come in a range of shapes, sizes, textures and styles and every one is designed to do different things. Traditionally, cock rings have been considered a male erectile enhancement aid and there are plenty of cock rings out there (and indeed on our site) designed for that very function, but there is also a bounty of other rings out there designed specifically to get you off during penetrative sex.Julie Peasgood
This is not a great idea. I’m not standing in moral judgment here - I applaud anyone having broad horizons, but not when it compromises safety.