First and foremost, thank you for the fabulous response to our first edition of 'Fetish FAQs With Jess' which launched in July.
It's been a roaring success and I'm so so pleased that I've managed to help a few people out there in the real world - Kink-Wizard Level unlocked!
With the UK summer being as brilliant as ever (groan) it seems most of you have been keeping yourselves busy in the bedroom to pass the time (and get some privacy from the kids!) during the holidays.
In this week's instalment, I'm answering questions on how to find beginner's bondage gear, how to dominate your boyfriend, and how to balance romance and kink in the bedroom.
Not to mention I make some pretty sweet analogies about sex and food - and who doesn't love both of those things?
So if you're baffled by bondage, stumped by S&M or flustered by fetishes, read on to be enlightened.
Don't forget to add a comment with your kink query and your question could be answered next month.
A lot of you lovely readers will already know who I am, but for those of you who don't, let me introduce myself.
I'm Jess; Lovehoney's in-house Bondage Expert. With a background in burlesque, pin up modelling, fetish event promotion and being a bit of a pirate-goth hybrid, my transition to Bondage Expert has been pretty easy!
As you can probaby imagine, I see a fair share of niche products, and every day have something new and fantastic on my desk. It's through personal research, experience and a keen interest in all things unusual that have led me to learn a tonne about a wide range of fetishes.
Every week I get asked questions about bondage and kink, but there are some questions which crop up (grooaan!) more often than others. That's the inspiration for this blog.
Every month I'll be taking the most common (or most interesting!) questions and answering them here.
Got a burning question about bondage, S&M or another fetish? Comment below and your question could be answered in next month's blog.
Picture the scene: the lights are dimmed, the candles are lit - and someone pulls out the silky satin restraints.
If you and your partner have decided to make your BDSM debut, then congratulations are in order! It’s great that you’ve found someone else who is on your wavelength and is up for some sexploration.
What could kill the mood slightly, however, is if you tie up your lover and then stand there staring awkwardly, while your lover lies there and just stares right back at you (also awkward).
Before you whip the handcuffs out, the best thing to do is plan your scene together. Planning will help clarify what sort of play turns you both on, what activities are off the cards, and what your safe word will be.
But exactly how do you plan sex, and keep it sexy? Here are 7 things to do with your partner (ranked from mildest to wildest) now that you've got them tied up.
Your skin absorbs over 60% of what you put on it. So if you're careful about what you eat, why shouldn't you be careful about what you put on your skin?
Lubrication is really important for safe, comfortable sex and masturbation. It eases penetration, making vaginal and anal sex more comfortable for men and women - and for circumcised men, a personal lubricant is often necessary to help prevent friction.
The vagina lubricates itself when you're aroused, but sometimes it doesn't happen. Stress, tiredness, diet and menopause can all have an impact on your body's natural lubrication - which is where a bottled lube comes in handy.
Even if things are pretty well lubricated down there, over 70% of women find sexual experiences even more satisfying with lube, so why not give it a go?
All of our lubricants are body safe, but they may not all be suitable for people with allergies or special requirements. We often get asked about all-natural alternatives to traditional lubes, so we've put this guide together to, well, guide you through the bewildering world of natural lubes.
Ever feel like your sex life could do with a bit of a kickstart? It's natural in relationship to fall into the same routine night after night, but luckily there are plenty of ways of spicing up your fun with minimal effort.
Sexy role play is a wonderful way to get out of a rut in the bedroom, and it's a great opportunity to try some new moves and techniques you may have been too shy to broach otherwise.
Putting on a sexy costume helps you step out of your own shoes and into another character, with a new set of personality traits and fantasies. In fact, in our recent Forbidden Fantasies survey, 59% of women said they were turned on by the idea of role play.
Don't know where to begin with role play, or worried you'll feel silly? We've outlined the most popular scenarios below to help you take the leap, along with the props needed to make the fantasy a reality.
Are you looking for some bedroom inspiration? Trying a new position is a great way to keep your encounters with your partner fun and fresh, and this one is a winner!
If you tried our last Sex Position Challenge then you should be prepped and ready for something a little trickier. Introducing… The Hammock.
This position requires a prop so remember to get it ready beforehand to reduce the mid-flow kerfuffle.
How to achieve The Hammock:
Begin with the man sitting on some form of foot rest or pouffe. A sturdy stool or the side of the bed would probably suffice. The woman then straddles him backwards, facing the floor.
Once you feel comfortable in this position, join hands and have her slowly lower her body forward while he leans backward to counteract. Lastly, the woman raises her legs so they are in the air. Sounds easy, right?
Let us know if you try The Hammock and how you got on in the comments section below.
We all go through phases of not wanting sex from time to time. But for many, this lack of libido can put a real strain on their relationships, causing some people to go to extreme lengths to boost their sex drive.
But what if we told you that the key to a better sex life wasn't a superfood or pill promising mind-blowing orgasms? In fact it's much more simple than that.
According to a new study, simply having an hour extra of sleep can boost a woman's sex drive by 14%.
That might not sound like much to those with a heightened sex drive, but for those needing an extra boost to get them going it can make a lot of difference.
Considering it is currently National Bed Month, there is no time like the present to catch up on your precious sleep. We're all losing an hour of sleep this weekend due to the clocks going forward, but it's important for your sex life that you catch up. A scientist said so!
So put down you smartphones, turn off your TV and get all tucked in - it's probably the sexiest thing you could do.
Nothing beats sexy lingerie when it comes to bedroom seduction, but after the first wear it's easy to throw everything in one drawer and forget about it, only to be met with a bundle of tangled stockings and bras next time you want to dress up.
If you've taken the time to hand wash and dry your sexy underwear, it's a good idea to spend an extra couple of minutes putting it away properly, too.
In fact, you can extend the life of your lingerie with a few tweaks to how you store your pieces.
Our lingerie expert Gemma has outlined some easy ways to sort and store your lingerie below so you can keep your favourite pieces ready for action at a moment's notice!
Looking for something to bring a bit more fun into the bedroom? Missionary position isn't quite cutting it anymore? We have the answer!
Today marks the start of the 'Lovehoney Sex Position of the Month' series.
This month's position will test both your balance and flexibility (so remember to do your stretches first)… say hello to Extended Pleasure.
How to achieve Extended Pleasure:
The man and woman stand facing each other whilst the woman raises one leg over her partner's shoulder.
The woman leans back slightly and holds on to her partner's arms or waist for support. He holds her leg and waist in position.
Let us know how you get on with this month's position in the comments section below.
Here at Lovehoney, we're all about sexual happiness, so anything that can help add a little va-va-voom to your sex life is a-okay with us.
It's that time of year when many people give up something, be it chocolate, smoking or alcohol, amongst many other morish foods and unhealthy habits.
We think that a good sex life is just as important as a good diet, which is why we've formulated a six-step guide to help you take up something new this year.
Now that New Year and Valentine's Day are out of the way, this is a great time of year to purge the things that don't contribute to a happy, healthy you. So if you're struggling to find a spark with your partner or sex just isn't quite pushing your buttons - we've come up with a range of products and sex positions to turn it up a notch for the next six weeks, and beyond.
You have approximately six weeks to try six new things. What have you got to lose? On your marks. Get set. Go!