"Hair is one of the first big preoccupations of womanhood. It appears, unbidden, and so decisions must be made about it - decisions which signal to yourself, and the rest of the world, who you are." - How To Be a Woman, Caitlin Moran
The way we style ourselves is our way of expressing who we are to the outside world, and to most of us, sending the right message is very important. So what about our most intimate areas? We spend a lot of time and money looking after the hair on our head, so what about "down below"?
First impressions can make a huge impact, so it's important that the 'you' you choose to portray is the real 'you'. Finding a style which slots into your everyday life, as well as making you feel sexy in the buff, can be tricky. With lots of women believing that pubic hair is 'messy' and that our partners want us 'bald below' many of us end up shaving or waxing it all off.
In fact there are tons of people out there who simply love body hair, not to mention enormous fetish communities who find body hair utterly irresistible.
Having been called a "New York Times bestseller that will make a better lover of any man", Ian Kerner's comprehensive guide to cunnilingus, She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (£12.00) certainly lives up to its 5 star rating.
The Times sex columnist Suzi Godson declared that women should "Get yourself a copy of Ian Kerner's manifesto She Comes First and make sure your boyfriend reads it too."
A frequent guest on the TODAY Show and Dr. Oz, Ian Kerner Ph.D is a clinical sexologist and sex counsellor whose own issues with erectile dyfunction led him to develop a foolproof approach to oral sex.
His how-to guide on every aspect of cunnilingus for men has enjoyed phenomenal success worldwide, with many happy girlfriends and wives taking to the internet to sing Mr. Kerner's praises. One reviewer even asked "Is it too late to nominate Kerner for some sort of Nobel prize?"
With a 5 star rating, Lovehoney customers clearly share this enthusiasm!
Have you ever wondered who the people are behind Lovehoney's award winning Customer Care department, what we do and how we can help guide you on choosing the right Sex Toys, Lingerie and Essentials for you or your partner?
My name is Chelsea and I am one of the Customer Care advisers here at Lovehoney HQ. I'm here to give you an insight into our award winning Customer Care department.
Here's a who, what and how guide to Customer Care and the benefits we can provide to your quest for intimate pleasure and sexual happiness:
Who are Customer Care?
Quite simply: We are the Sexual Go-to Gurus! Any questions or advice you may need on an order or product, then please feel free to get in touch so we can help you with any issues or queries you may have.
Don't be shy… There's nothing we haven't already heard!
We encourage you to talk to us in the first instance as our knowledge and experience means you're in the right hands to make an informed decision.
Between silver balls, jiggle balls and Ben Wa balls, it seems like the world has gone crazy for Kegels.
Although we've known since the late 1940s that strong pelvic floor muscles, or Kegel muscles, means greater control of the vagina, it seems that only recently have people have realised that this means better sex - for both partners!
To help you get your Kegel muscles in tip-top shape, we've giving one lucky reader the chance to win a pair of Tracey Cox Supersex Toner Balls (worth £18.99). Simply comment below before May 31st to be in with a chance to win.
With 70 stellar reviews, these best-selling Kegel exercisers are designed to stimulate your pelvic floor muscles for a fun and effective workout.
Read on below for the latest Kegel tips and tricks.
You might think that sex toys are only solo play when your partner is away, but incorporating them into your sex life can be hugely rewarding and make for even better orgasms for you both.
When it comes to treating your other half, we’ve got everything you need to set the scene. Body oils, lingerie and sexy games are great to get you both in the mood, and if you’re after something different, scented massage candles not only smell great but melt to body-safe temperature and can be used for a deliciously seductive rub-down.
Vibrating cock rings make a great gift for couples. Designed to restrict blood flow, cock rings make his erection harder for longer, delaying his climax, whilst the vibrations stimulate her clitoris and increase the chances of the ultimate sexual goal: simultaneous orgasm.
One of the newest additions to the couple’s sex toy market designed precisely to aid climaxing together is the vibrating dual stimulator. Cleverly be worn inside the vagina during lovemaking, these toys provide amazing sensations to her clitoris and G-spot as well as his penis for hands-free pleasure during sex. Several of these are also remote control vibes, making the possibilities even more exciting.
Bondage kits can be a fantastic gift idea for both partners. Whether you’re submissive, assertive or a natural ‘switch’ between both roles, every couple can benefit from blindfolds and light restraints for gentle bondage play.
Sex toys are a great way for couples to get the most out of their sex life. Whether your partner is new to the world of gadgets in the bedroom or is a sexual connoisseur, we’ve put together a list of the top ten sexy treats you and your lover can enjoy together this Christmas.
Picking a sexy Christmas gift for your partner can be daunting - between the many different types of vibrator and dildo, there’s a lot of choice. Where to begin? Luckily, Lovehoney is here to help make sure your lover is all smiles on Christmas morning.
Whether you’ve been inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey to push boundaries in the bedroom or fancy spicing up your sex life, we have the perfect gift choice for you.
There are many classic products that are always popular - clitoral vibrators and rabbit vibes are sure to impress most women. However, 2012 has really been the year of the super-powerful Magic Wand vibrator and pleasure intensifying Ben Wa balls.
If you’re unsure what to buy for your lover for Christmas, think about what she likes in the bedroom. If she needs clitoral stimulation to orgasm, an external toy like a Magic Wand or bullet vibrator is a good bet. Rabbit vibrators are great because you get amazing internal stimulation while the rabbit ears pleasure the clit simultaneously. If she likes G-spot stimulation, think about a G-spot vibe or curved dildo.
If she read and loved Fifty Shades, chances are she’s lusting after a pair of jiggle balls - these amazing Kegel exercisers tone her internal muscles for greater control during sex and a more intense orgasm. The weighted balls jiggle as she moves, making the most everyday tasks a form of erotic foreplay.
Read on to discover our top ten Christmas gifts for women.
Put his pleasure at the top of your Christmas shopping list when you pick up a best-selling sex toy for men, the gift that truly keeps on giving.
Using sex toys is all about discovering new sensations and experimenting with different techniques to increase enjoyment and improve sexual satisfaction. Add variety to your bedroom antics by transforming masturbation, foreplay and penetrative sex for the better with an erotic Christmas gift.
Male sex toys aren’t just a great enhancement to his sex life, they’re fun for you to use together. A luxury male masturbator from TENGA or Fleshlight adds a new edge to foreplay, helping you to give a hand shandy to remember without the arm ache.
Better-than-real sensations come in different packages: some are anatomical, while others look more like a piece of art or a high-tech gizmo, ensuring you’re never put off by the look of a toy during play.
Vibrating cock rings prolong your shared pleasure by restricting his blood flow, engoring his penis for a thicker, fuller look and feel. The vibrations give you both additional stimulation, but while his approach to climax is delayed, yours is escalated, improving your chances of sharing a more intense orgasmic moment together.
Try toys that stimulate his glans and frenulum like the Cobra Libre Male Vibrator, or opt for full-length stimulation by giving him an erotic massage with a stroker from Lovehoney.
For he who dares, anal toys like butt plugs and prostate massagers add a whole new level of orgasmic potential into the mix, escalating his erotic response to dizzying new heights and intensifying his climaxes.
If Fifty Shades of Grey got you hot under the collar, experimenting with bedroom bondage will make an exciting addition to your sex life.
2012 has seen more couples experimenting with bondage than ever before, sending sales of bondage gear like spanking paddles, blindfolds, handcuffs, nipple clamps and floggers soaring. If the idea of bringing some kink into the bedroom appeals to you, but you don’t know where to start, this buyer’s guide will help you choose the best bondage toys to start your sensual exploration.
Start with a little tie and tease as a gentle introduction. Blindfolds and soft wrist cuffs give bondage a romantic twist, enhancing your emotional connection as well as your physical pleasure. Awaken the senses by tracing a fluffy feather tickler across your lover’s skin, before working your way up to teasing flicks and gentle caresses with a spanking paddle or flogger to heighten sensation.
Bondage rope lets more experienced partners experiment with a variety of different restraints. Suitable for tying up wrists and ankles, as well as making beautiful body harnesses, rope bondage is one of the most versatile styles of restraint. Complete beginners can use bondage tape to similar effect, using it as impromptu ankle cuffs, wrist cuffs or even as a sexy PVC outfit.
If you’re ready to try something new and exciting, take a look at our top 10 bondage buys to make your fantasy a reality.
Very little beats mind-blowing sex but when you’ve been with your partner for a few years the thrill factor starts to wane, even if you still enjoy a healthy sex life.
Keeping sex fresh, exciting and spontaneous is quite a task - even for the most adventurous couples as your relationship begins to feel as comfortable as a pair of old trackie bottoms.
Avoid the seven-year itch by making some minor changes to your sexual repertoire and keep the lust alive for years to come with these easy tricks and tips.
1. Shake Up Your Routine
One of the biggest passion killers is your day-to-day routine, especially if you’re cohabiting with your partner. Couples who spend their lives outside of work living in one another’s pockets tend to subconsciously schedule their sex lives, making sex a predictable event…
I spent 10 years working as a high-class escort, and in 2009 my autobiography The Girlfriend Experience was published documenting my sexcapades. I’m currently working on a sex tips book and a book titled Why Husbands Stray.
My sex experience is literally hands on, and I learnt a lot about sex and what men want during my time as an escort, and it’s probably not what you think!
Guest post by sexpert Rebecca Dakin