Has the secret to sexual happiness been unlocked - and is it all in our heads?
A new study has shown that when it comes to sex, we're happy when we we're keeping up with the Joneses and even happier if we think we're having MORE SEX than our peers.
Tim Wadsworth, associate professor of sociology at the University of Colorado Boulder says, "Having more sex makes us happy, but thinking that we are having more sex than other people makes us even happier."
The results of Wadsworth's study of how sexual frequency corresponds with happiness noted:
- Respondents who reported having sex at least two to three times a month were 33 percent more likely to report a higher level of happiness than those who reported having no sex during the previous 12 months.
- Those reporting a once-weekly frequency were 44 percent more likely to report a higher level of happiness.
- Those reporting having sex two to three times a week are 55 percent more likely to report a higher level of happiness.
- If members of a peer group are having sex two to three times a month but believe their peers are on a once-weekly schedule, their probability of reporting a higher level of happiness falls by about 14 percent
So while matching our peers (and bettering them) makes us feel happier, it would appear to be a dicey game. The fact we're social creatures and engage in social comparison often leaves us feeling lacking. As Wadsworth says, “We’re usually not looking down and therefore thinking of ourselves as better off, but we’re usually looking up and therefore feeling insufficient and inadequate.”
What do you think? Is it quality over quantity? Do you feel happier if you think you're having a better sex life than your friends? Are you one of the rare few who don't let comparisons with other people influence your happiness?
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Everyone has a sexual fantasy.
Whether it's sleeping with a celebrity, having sex outdoors or exploring your kinky side, we all find ourselves thinking "What if?" at times.
The great thing about fantasies is that you're in charge - you decide the setting, the characters and the choregraphy.
But are fantasies ever as good in the flesh?
The new book by sexpert Tracey Cox explores common sexual fantasies, and what happens when they're made a reality.
We're giving away 5 signed copies of Dare: What Happens When Fantasies Come True by Tracey Cox (worth £6.00). Simply comment below before April 19th to be in with a chance to win.
Read on below for the best fantasy-related articles from around the web.
My new book Dare: What Happens When Fantasies Come True is based on the real life experiences of 30 women who dared to turn their erotic daydreams into reality.
The general consensus? Be careful what you wish for!
I don’t think I’ve ever enjoyed writing a book more. Some of their stories are steamy and lustful, many are laugh-out-loud hilarious and others are embarrassing, disappointing or plain disastrous. But they’re all endlessly fascinating - because they’re real.
Each story is written in three parts:
The fantasy is the glossy version of what each woman imagined the encounter would be like.
The decision is when the story switches from fantasy to reality and when we find out why she decided to act it out.
The reality details what happened when she did.
This extract gives a taster of what Dare is like, to tempt you into wanting more - and this is one of my absolute favourites.
I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it!
Between Receptionist's Day and National Garlic Day (which is coming up on April 19th, by the way), it seems like Hallmark has a different card for every obscure holiday.
One we can definitely get on board with, however, is Cake and Cunnilingus Day, which falls annually on April 14th.
Coming from the from the Neo-Latin words cunnus (meaning vulva) and lingua (meaning tongue), cunnilingus refers to oral sex performed on a woman - so get ready to be treated by your partner next weekend, ladies!
To celebrate Cake and Cunnilingus Day, we're giving away a Sqweel 2 Oral Sex Simulator (£39.99) to one lucky reader. Simply comment below before April 12th to be in with a chance to win.
This clever sex toy has 10 silicone tongues that simulate oral sex for her.
With only a week left to brush up on your oral skills, we've scoured the web for the best oral sex guides to ensure you both enjoy Cake and Cunnilingus Day
Although it was unseasonally cold outside this March, members of the Lovehoney Community certainly weren’t shy about getting their legs out on camera!
This month’s user-uploaded images were all about long legs, sexy stockings and seductive high heels.
Every month, we give aspiring models the chance to win a £100 voucher to spend on lingerie and sex toys at Lovehoney.
This month's Model of the Month is vision2play, with this stunning shot.
We love her classic bedroom look of plain white shirt, heels and handcuffs.
Her seductive pose is enhanced with the stylish Bondage Boutique Leather Buckle Wrist Cuff Restraints.
A downward glance is a great way of protecting your anonymity while emphasising submissive sex appeal.
Read on to see more sexy stilettos and lovely legs, and find out if you were a runner up for March.
Each month, we choose our favourite user-uploaded review to win £100 to spend on sex toys and lingerie on Lovehoney. Runners up receive 2,000 Oh! Points to spend or save.
Review of the Month
Top of the bunch this month is pedal pusher's review of the Fun Factory Cobra Libre Luxury Male Vibrator (£124.99). We loved his helpful advice to take it slowly and relax - which is often key to reaching orgasm.
"I also told myself to relax and let the Cobra do all the work. I was rewarded - and how! Without even getting as far as the most intense setting, I experienced the most fantastic orgasm! It was incredible! I really do recommend this masturbator. But take my advice and don't rush - instead, enjoy every sensual second…"
Read the full review by pedal pusher.
Read on to find out if you're a runner up…
Did you celebrate National Cleavage Day this week? At the end of March every year Wonderbra encourage women the world over put on their lowest cut tops and push-up bras and flaunt their cleavage.
With the news that the bestselling bra size in the UK has grown from 34B to 34DD in the past two years, we're anticipating seeing plenty of cleavage around this year.
All the men reading this needn't feel left out - cleavage has several meanings, so if you're sporting a tooth gap or going beltless, you could be celebrating Cleavage Day too!
To help you celebrate National Cleavage Day, we're giving away aBluebella Tatiana Open Cup Bra & Brief Set (worth £20.00) to one lucky reader.
This luxurious lingerie set is available from sizes 8 - 18 and frames your, or your partner's, breasts perfectly for optimal cleavage. How do you nab this fantastic prize? Simply comment below to be in with a chance to win.
Read on below for the
breast best cleavage-related news from around the web.
While it's still unseasonally nippy outside, we like to think the sun might be lurking round the corner and it's always good to be prepared!
What better way to enjoy the sun (when it finally shines) than with sex in a public park - at least, that's what 36% of women think, according to a recent survey!
A further 73% percent revealed they had sex in a car, while a surprising 11% have had a sneaky play on public transport.
Have you ever had sex outdoors? This week we're investigating the appeal of al fresco sex, and as usual we've scoured the best of the web for the best tips and tricks to help your sex life.
To celebrate the change in seasons, we're giving away a Lelo Insignia Lyla 2 Remote Control Vibrating Love Egg (worth £129.99) to one lucky reader. Simply comment below before March 29th to be in with a chance to win.
This luxury couples vibrator is operated by remote control and works up to a distance to 12 metres, making it the perfect toy for a bit of public fun with your lover.
Read on below for your chance to be a winner, and for the best sex-under-the-stars advice and information.
As the days get lighter and the weather becomes (slightly) more forgiving, the Wedding Season draws ever closer. With June and July the most popular months for tying the knot, most of us will know someone who has enjoyed a Summer wedding.
But before the big day comes an event just as fabulous, and what's more, it's just for the girls. It is, of course, the Hen Party!
We want to know all your thoughts on Hen Dos - your ideal location, duration and price range, as well as whether a Hen Do is ever complete without a hunky man taking his clothes off.
Take our 60 Second Hentastic Survey and you could win a Luxury Lelo Bundle containing:
A Lelo Smart Wand Medium Rechargeable Vibrator in purple, a Lelo Flickering Touch Massage Candle Snow Pear and Cedarwood and a bottle of Lelo Personal Moisturising Lubricant.
Worth over £100, this luxury prize has everything you need for a romantic night in. Competition closes 28/03/2013 and the winner will be contacted via email.
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