We’ve all had mindless sex at some point. I’m talking about the drift into mind-wandering that can happen during some of our greatest pleasures, consciously or subconsciously.
From picturing your favourite porn scene or delectable fantasy, to dealing with anxiety ridden evaluations of our bodies or performance, to fearing contraception failure, or your neighbours overhearing through your paper thin walls.
There are hundreds of opportunities for your mind to wander away from what’s happening in front of you, or to you.
I’m pretty much a stranger to mindfulness.
In fact, when trying to learn about what it was, I watched a video on x2 playback to take in the information more quickly. Ironic, huh?
From what I’ve learnt, I think that mindfulness could be the answer to those mid-sex distractions.
The thoughts will still appear, but rather than allowing them to absorb us completely, we can use mindfulness to bring us back into the zone to connect with ourselves, our sexual partner(s) and ultimately, experience more pleasure.