Before joining Lovehoney I had never man-handled a fake pussy and ass or any other exclusively male sex toys before. I've owned vibrators for over a decade but it had never occurred to me that during the whole of my adult life I had never been with a man who had owned or even used a self-pleasuring device on himself. I can barely name a female friend who hasn't.
When researching the joys of couple's toy play it seems to be the general assumption that women will bring the hardware and men are on the learning end of the bargain.
Advice and sex tips geared toward introducing toys to your relationship have a tendency to mirror this assumption with scores of sex experts opting for the female-friendly suggestion of bringing along some lube and one of your favourite vibrators. There's nothing wrong with that advice per se, but where's the balance? It seems that all camps are failing to champion the benefits of sex toys for men for both solo and couple's play… until now.
Letting us peek into his goodie drawer is risqué blogger Jake Holden who writes one of our favourite sex blogs, Facts and Friction. Jake's a 20-something straight male who writes about university life, sex and his own debauched experiences. Guest blogging for us today, he's recently single and looking forward to getting back into the swing of things…
"I think sex toys (and as a wannabe connoisseur of the slippery stuff, I’m going to include lube in this category) are fantastic because everyone can do with a little bit of a helping hand in the bedroom. Whether it’s a cock ring to keep you hard, intensify your orgasm, and stimulate your partner’s clit while inside her, or a TENGA Flip Hole to give the most intense ever orgasms, there are toys for any taste, any activity and any for single individual or couple. Finding the right ones for you is all part of the fun."
"My sex toy collection is relatively modest, as you can see from the photo above. I’ve only been buying toys for about the last three or four years, the time I have been at university and writing about my sexual experiences there on my blog Facts and Friction. At the moment, the majority of my toys are at my house at university, and some less favourite or bulkier toys like my Fleshlight, older lubes and cock rings that can’t compare with the Lelo Tor are at my old room at my parent’s house."
"With my collection I’ve tried to go for high quality toys based on positive reviews on blogs and Lovehoney, rather than amass a collection of plasticy junk toys that will just waste space. My bank balance has also benefited from the reduced range of toys that are available for men, although I do have my eyes on the somewhat pricey Fun Factory Cobra Libre to be the next addition to my collection."
"I store all my toys inside an IKEA cabinet that’s near my bed. Lubes, condoms, my two bullet vibes and a few constant favourites (the Lelo Bob butt plug, Lelo Tor cock ring) are kept in a top drawer, and bulkier or less frequently used toys (such as my beloved TENGA Flip Hole) are kept in the bottom drawer. I adore silicone lube for its silky, never-drying lubricating properties, but do have to be careful to make sure that the perpetually slippery bottle stays away from my silicone Lelo Bob - if that guy got ‘melted’ by the dreaded silicone lube and silicone toy reaction then I’d be very upset. Sadly departed toys such as my TENGA Soft Air Cushion Onacup and TENGA Egg toys are, unfortunately, currently stored in a landfill somewhere :(."
Gulp! It's been another week of you telling it to us straight in your sex toy reviews - and thank goodness everything seemed to meet your approval.
This week's sex toy review round up
Feeling a pang of adult Twilight fever was author Madeline Moore reviewing her own grown-up vampire thriller Lust at First Bite."In all honesty, false modesty aside, this is the vampire short story collection you really want to read, keep, and read again." Read the review.
Reviewing a Lovehoney favourite, Mewsical gave some excellent tips on how to play the Kama Sutra Foreplay Cards. "The winner of each round was allowed to pick a card at random from the losing player's hand, and whatever the card depicted was acted out immediately." Read the review.
Soon-to-be-penniless Pobby relished her Leg Avenue Darling Dorothy Gingham Dress and laments, "if all Leg Avenue kit is this good quality, I will soon be penniless." Unfortunately yes, it's all that lovely! Read the review.
Maybe expecting a little too much from her Adam and Eve 8 Inch PleasureSkin Dildo was capetonian, though her partner will probably be glad to hear it! "My boyfriend could very well become redundant - pity it doesn't do kissing." Read the review.
Giving us our one-liner this week was f-bomb fan phuckmuppet. The Fleshlight Sex in a Can O'Doyle's Stout "got me so hot and I couldn't believe I was f-ing a bit of rubber in a beer can". The review speaks for itself!
Do you have any opinions on your sex toys, good, bad or indifferent? Why not test out some sex toys and let everyone know how it went by adding a new review.
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Spend a little more on a luxury vibrator and you'll find the best features and highest quality materials. But why would you spend more, when you can get a similar toy so much cheaper? Are luxury sex toys worth the extra cost?
This guide explains why luxury vibrators are a brilliant investment in your pleasure, explains the benefits of choosing a designer sex toy and why your decision to spend a little more will pay off for years to come.
Starting life as a salon-only treatment, the popularity of vajazzling has exploded. Rather than worry about styling pubic hair to make 'down there' look more interesting, women can now opt for a vajazzle - a beautiful arrangement of self-adhesive sparkling crystals.
Vajazzle kits are as simple to use as those temporary tattoos we all loved when we were kids, but no rubbing stick or water is required.
Each set features a little cluster of crystals with an adhesive on the back that sticks straight onto the skin. You don't necessarily have to stick them to your intimate areas, they also look great on your shoulder, ankle, hip bone, bust, back and upper arm.
Did you watch The Joy of Teen Sex on Channel 4 last night? Or have you caught up with the programme on 4OD? If you're wondering which toys and lubes the experts were suggesting, look no further.
Bodystockings. The great sexual divide of our nation. Whether you've tried them or not, you've probably got an opinion about whether bodystockings are sexy. And once you've fallen into the 'sexy' or 'not sexy' camp, you tend to stay there. But maybe they're worth a re-think?