The female orgasm and penetrative sex can be an elusive combination. According to randomly harvested statistics, approximately 70% of women are unable to orgasm through penetrative sex alone. When reading through the spools of 'advice' on the subject, I find it quite alarming how little it is mentioned that this is NOT a big deal.
A lot of Agony Aunts have reams of advice on 'feeling more comfortable with your partner' and 'learning to relax' amongst other issues, but this just isn't applicable to a lot of women. We are comfortable with our partners. Some of us have squeezed out a sprog in front of the other half. Some of us have a sexual repertoire containing more tawdry acts than you'd find in a rockstar's memoir. Some of us, well, we just live to 'smack that'. Doesn't mean we get to orgasm through penetration alone (and no guys, it does not mean that you're doing it wrong).
Most women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm and unfortunately it's an anatomical probability that no matter which shapes and angles you pull, the alignment for clitoral contact just isn't always going to be there. If you can't arrange yourselves so that your partner is hitting your clit, you just need a little help from a friend.
If you want a quick and easy solution, you might want to reach for a cock ring. They come in a range of shapes, sizes, textures and styles and every one is designed to do different things. Traditionally, cock rings have been considered a male erectile enhancement aid and there are plenty of cock rings out there (and indeed on our site) designed for that very function, but there is also a bounty of other rings out there designed specifically to get you off during penetrative sex.
Just as with the hair on our heads, eyebrows, and faces, pubic hairstyles come in a wide array of shapes and colours. Some people like it balder than a US Congressman; some people like it neatly trimmed; and others prefer to follow the spirit of Woodstock, and let it run wild and free.
So, should you shave your short 'n' curlies? The truth is, there's no right or wrong answer to that question. Those who advocate for the full Hollywood (that is, to say, entirely bare) say that it feels cleaner, is less hassle for their sexual partners, and increases sensation.
The Full-Bush-Administration, however, would counter that pubic hair is there to protect your sensitive areas, makes you less prone to catching STIs, and also helps to retain libido-boosting pheromones that make you even more sexually appealing.
Many also find their partner's personal preference often influences their own choice, but when it comes down to it, the decision (and the razor) are entirely in your hands. If you are, however, in the staggering 92% of women and 83% of men who primp their pubes in some way, then just read on for our finest styling tips.
If you like the look of shiny clothing, you may have already tried PVC or patent leather. The next step for many people is trying latex or rubber. You don't have to be a hardened fetishist or fashionista to try latex and this guide will help you choose the right size latex wear and explain how to put it on.
Before you start: check that you do not have a latex allergy. Cut cheap latex gloves into strips and place them in various places against your skin (under a bra strap, inside a sock, inside a waistband) and, after an hour or two, check for any signs of irritation.
You may be thinking; “But I've used condoms, I know I'm not allergic.” You should still patch test various parts of your body before encasing yourself in the stuff, just to be sure.
Above: Watch fetish expert, Jess Wilde, explain all you need to know about wearing latex clothing.
For some of us, the words, ‘role play’ send a shiver of excitement down our spines; for others, it’s more a chill of fear that reminds us of uncomfortable team-building exercises.
But using role play in the bedroom is about much more than indulging your long-held and unspoken fantasy about that traffic warden who once fined you.
By adopting a different persona, many people find it easier to open up and explore situations and practises that they would never normally broach, allowing them to experience greater fulfillment and also bringing them closer to their partner.
But how do you get into it without feeling a little, well, ridiculous? Well, just read on below to see not only how you can choose the scenario (and outfit) that's right for you, but how to fully enjoy your foray into the world of character play.
Above: Want to know how role play can increase your sexual confidence? Lovehoney's lingerie expert, Sammi Cole, explains in this video.
When it comes to prostate toys, Aneros are leading the way. Their medically researched, designed and patented massagers have been specially created to stimulate the prostate gland, release prostate fluid and promote overall prostate health.
Aneros started in America and quickly gathered a cult following as men learnt how to find, stimulate and love their prostate gland using the ergonomic massagers. With many noted health benefits, incredibly stimulating shapes and numerous positive reviews, the Aneros brand has become the top name in prostate toys, leading to demands for products from all over the globe.
Running off mains-power, rechargeable power or large batteries, the sheer power of magic wand vibrators make them ideal sex toys when you find other vibes just don't cut it.
The classic magic wand design features (a large head to spread vibrations over a wide area, a flexible neck for extra precision and a rigid body that houses the controls) makes this toy ideal for intimate, as well as deep-tissue, massage - ideal as a couple's foreplay toy as well as your brand new favourite vibrator.
Collars are a visual symbol of submission and control, and are often worn in the bedroom (or fetish club!) by submissive partners to indicate their position. Collars can also be practical, often with hardware to allow leads and other restraints to be attached to them.
One of the questions we get asked a lot here at Lovehoney is “How do you buy a bondage collar?” This comprehensive guide aims to answer all of the questions that arise when you think about this seductive form of restraint, providing you with the information needed to enjoy collar and leash play with every sub and slave you meet!
Your nipples are two of the most sensitive and reactive parts of your body and it's well worth lavishing some extra attention on them during foreplay and sex.
Above: If you're thinking "forget how to use nipple clamps, why would I want to?!" just watch this video. Our resident bondage expert, Jess Wilde, gives you the low-down on all things nippy, including the lesser-known nipplegasm!
A recent study used an MRI scanner to show that stimulation of the nipples arouses the sensory cortex in a woman’s brain and in turn, arouses the genitals. Pretty cool. It’s also thought that approximately 1% of women can achieve an orgasm through nipple stimulation alone.
If your nipples aren’t receiving the attention they deserve, then investing in a sex toy designed for use on the nipples will help you experiment with different sensations. From gentle nipple suckers to sturdy nipple clamps which give you a firm but pleasant pinch, there are an enormous amount of nipple toys on the market and we’re here to guide you through all the options available
Looking to buy some sexy new lingerie but not sure where to start? Don't worry! All you have to do is figure out your body shape and we'll give you the best lingerie suggestions which will flatter and complement your body in the best possible way.
If you're buying lingerie as a gift for your lover and haven't found many clues in her underwear drawer as to the styles and shapes she likes, then it could be just the right time to spark a well-needed overhaul. This guide will help you to choose something that will look stunning on her, ensuring she feels confident and sexy.
Above: Need some help choosing lingerie? Watch Sammi Cole explain what you need to know about buying the best underwear for you.