8 Sexy Role Play Ideas to Spice Up your Sex Life

8 Sexy Role Play Ideas to Spice Up your Sex Life

by Lovehoney

on 29 May 2015

Ever feel like your sex life could do with a bit of a kickstart? It's natural in relationship to fall into the same routine night after night, but luckily there are plenty of ways of spicing up your fun with minimal effort.

Sexy role play is a wonderful way to get out of a rut in the bedroom, and it's a great opportunity to try some new moves and techniques you may have been too shy to broach otherwise.

Putting on a sexy costume helps you step out of your own shoes and into another character, with a new set of personality traits and fantasies. In fact, in our recent Forbidden Fantasies survey, 59% of women said they were turned on by the idea of role play.

Don't know where to begin with role play, or worried you'll feel silly? We've outlined the most popular scenarios below to help you take the leap, along with the props needed to make the fantasy a reality.

1. Naughty Nurse

Dreamgirl Triage Trixie Sexy Nurse Outfit SetSexy nurse costumes are some of the most popular sexy costumes for couples, and it's not hard to see why. Nurse/patient role play lends itself brilliantly to bedroom fun - all you need is a bed!

The Scenario: In this role play, the nurse performs a physical exam on the patient that slowly becomes more sexual. They begin by brusquely taking their partner's pulse before listening to their heartbeat. Slowly the exam turns from serious to seductive, as the nurse changes the tone of their voice and begins brushing against the patient during the checkup before taking it into the sexual realm.

The Outfit: The Dreamgirl Triage Trixie Sexy Nurse Outfit Set is a red-hot costume for complete transformation from civilian to naughty nurse. Team with a pair of stockings and see your patient's temperature soar!

2. Sexy Secretary

Dreamgirl Working Late Sexy Secretary OutfitAnother extremely common fantasy that explores power play while blurring normal professional lines is the provocative secretary who works late.

The Scenario: In this setup, one partner is the boss and the other is their sexy secretary who either can’t or won’t keep up with the workload. After hours, the boss calls the secretary into their office and things get heated over the filing cabinet. The key to this role play is to keep the play out of the bedroom - instead make love on a pile of papers on the desk, or even use a swivel chair as a makeshift position enhancer. If you want to incorporate bondage, take inspiration from Christian Grey and use a silky neck tie as a makeshift restraint to keep the fantasy authentic.

The Outfit: A simple suit and tie works well for him, while the Dreamgirl Sexy Secretary Outfit is a scandalous interpretation of office-wear for her.

3. Naked Butler

Tuxedo Boxer ShortsThe hottest trend for hen nights is hiring a naked waiter/butler to wait on the guests hand and foot, but there's no reason you can't replicate the experience at home.

The Scenario: After receiving a phone call for a booking, the naked butler turns up for the party where they are greeted by their client. After changing into their "uniform", they must begin to serve the client drinks, food, and whatever else they desire… As the physical attraction becomes tangible, the client can't help but get a little handsy with the hired help, for an extra tip, of course.

The Outfit: Pair a tray and smile with a bowtie and cuffs and Tuxedo Boxer Shorts for this low-effort (but high-effect) outfit.

4. Seductive Schoolgirl

Exposed Cheap Thrills School Girl 2 Piece SetThe fact most of us reached sexual maturity during our school years means many people have had fantasies revolving around this time. When played out between consenting adults, the sexy schoolgirl role play can be red hot.

The Scenario: The classic angle is that of the 'naughty' schoolgirl seducing her headteacher. Begin by sitting on a chair outside the bedroom, waiting to go into the headteacher's office to explain the bad behaviour. The headteacher should initially resist her advances, but eventually they let instinct takes over and and throw themselves into a passionate encounter.

The Outfit: For those looking for a skimpy take on a school uniform, the Exposed Cheap Thrills School Girl 2 Piece Set features a tartan micro skirt and tie-front blouse that does half the work of seduction for you.

5. Bunny Girl

Seven Til Midnight Satin Bunny EarsThe Playboy Bunny is a modern icon that countless fantasies have sprung from. If you want to make (and make out) like Hugh Hefner, try a role play inspired by the bunny girl waitresses at the Playboy Club.

The Scenario: One partner plays the bunny girl, while the other takes the role of customer. The bunny girl serves the customer drinks, and while there is an attraction between them, the Club’s strict no touching policy means she has to fight her feelings. The customer begins secretly touching her below the table and whispering in her ear. Finally she agrees to meet him in a free bedroom. Keep the bunny ears on during sex for extra thrills.

The Outfit: Unleash your playful, flirtatious side with these Seven Til Midnight Satin Bunny Ears. Wired from ear to tip, you can style these cheeky ears any way you wish.

6. Sex with a Stranger

Fever Rhianne 26 Inch Long Auburn Soft Curl Wig with Centre PartingLots of people fantasise about the anonymity of sex with a stranger, and a wig can transform your appearance immediately.

The Scenario: Have one partner slip on a wig to play the mysterious stranger. The other partner plays a business person enjoying a drink in a hotel lobby. They notice the mysterious stranger enter, and sit near them before ordering a drink. Gathering their courage, the business person strikes up conversation. The mysterious stranger should have a back-story prepared. Talking turns to flirting, which turns to gentle touches and strokes, before the business person gets up to leave, sliding their spare key across to the stranger without speaking…

The Outfit: Tumbling curls can be yours with the Fever Rhianne Auburn Soft Curl Wig, which affixes easily over your hair to alter your look instantly.

7. French Maid

Fever Naughty French Maid OutfitPower play, skimpy outfits and that gorgeous, purring French accent… This classic scenario makes cleaning the house so satisfying.

The Scenario: Try a play in which the maid is new to the country, and speaks little English. The maid is cleaning the bedroom alone when they discover their boss' dirty magazine collection. They are shocked, but then start to look through them, gradually becoming more aroused until they begin masturbating. As their pleasure grows they glance over to the door and realise their boss has been there the whole time, watching them. The boss then walks over with a smile and helps bring them to climax…

The Outfit: Thrills and frills are one click away with this gorgeous black and white Fever Naughty French Maid Outfit, cut daringly high at the hem to give the boss an eyeful as you lean over to dust the coffee table.

8. Sexy Cop

Fever Sexy Cop DressThere's such a wealth of opportunity for role play in this setup, so it's no wonder police officers feature high on so many fantasy lists.

The Scenario: To act out your very own sexy police sequence, the cop should pretend to recognise their partner as a suspect and begin questioning them on their movements. Any insolence should be met with a sharp rebuke. Next, the cop notices the bulge in the suspect's trousers (made by a vibrator in the pocket for female 'suspects'). The cop thinks it's a gun and demands a strip search, undressing the suspect and cuffing their hands before conducting a full investigation of their naked body.

The Outfit: Potential police officers about to uphold the law in the bedroom would be hard pressed to find a more arresting outfit than the Fever Sexy Cop Dress.

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Originally published on 29 May 2015. Updated on 5 Aug 2020