10 Ways to Make the Most of the Cur-PHEW! by Oloni
With an award-winning online platform, over 100k Instagram followers, a podcast and a TV show, Dami Olonisakin – or Oloni, as she's known to her followers – is one of the UK's loudest and most important voices when it comes to women's sexual empowerment.
Here, Oloni shares 10 ideas on how the pub closing early can be turned into a 10pm cur-PHEW – by playing sex games together and boosting itimacy during the extra time spent at home.
1. Back to the start
Take on the mindset you had in your first week of dating. Imagine those early milestones: the first time you saw them, the first kiss and the first time you had sex.
Cherish those memories and try to recreate the excitement you both felt.
2. Kissing is key
A lot of couples underestimate the importance of kissing, which is a shame because it’s the perfect way to establish intimacy, and arguably the most important act of foreplay.
Because kissing usually kicks off any sexual activity, knowing how to kiss well can set the tone for the whole evening.
Whether it’s lots of tongue, no tongue, nibbling, light pecks or deep, romantic kisses, knowing what your partner enjoys is key to kicking things off right.
3. Make an effort
This could be anything from ordering some sexy new lingerie, to making sure there's some Champagne on ice.
4. An element of surprise
Both of you write down five sex suggestions/fantasies which can be carried out safely and legally and put them in a jar. Take it in turns to take out one of the notes and live it out for real.
5. Game night
Set aside the Thursday night Scrabble for a completely different experience. Nookii is the best-selling game that lets you play your way around your lover’s body.
The Lovehoney Oh! Kinky Confessions Truth or Dare Card Game is another fun sex game – prepare to answer a tricky question or avoid it with a sexy forfeit.
Or why not tie yourself in knots with Lovehoney Oh! Hot Knots Beginner's Bondage Game which has a stack of kinky ideas for couples new to soft bondage?
6. Erotic literature
Erotic literature is a great way to get you both in the mood. Read it together and return to your favourite passages. Even better, re-enact what you have just enjoyed in the book in the bedroom, even dressing up as your favourite characters.
7. Make a sexy movie
If you don’t live with your partner, why not film some of the action so you can relive all that passion when you are apart? If you do live together, film the action anyway – watching it together is a great form of foreplay. Only do this with someone you trust completely and know won't share the footage with others.
8. Foreplay fun
Foreplay isn’t just an appetiser – the problem with the term 'foreplay' is that it suggests an act you would indulge in before the real sex begins.
For many people, foreplay IS real sex, so don’t cut it short. The pleasure is in the journey after all.
9. Try a toy
Using sex toys may enhance a woman's chances of orgasming. Try this vibrating love ring, which is worn during intercourse. The stretchy silicone rings may keep the penis harder for longer, as the textured stimulator and intense vibrations unleash a whole new league of shared pleasure.
Introduce a bullet vibrator during intercourse so she can have some added stimulus during penetration.
10. Get in position
This is all about re-connecting, so any position that allows you to focus on your partner’s face is an opportunity for more intimacy.
After you have done as much eye-gazing as you like, you can fall on top of your partner for maximum intimacy.
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