1. How Sex Makes You Happier

    How Sex Makes You Happier

    There are endless studies that show sex makes us happier.

    From improving long term relationships, to boosting our cognitive ability as we age, to even reducing physical pain, sex gives us plenty of reasons to smile

    But, how does it work? How does a cheeky romp between the sheets do so much for our well-being?

    In this blog we take a deeper look at sex and happiness, to discover why getting lucky makes us feel so damn good.

    Sex reduces anxiety and depression

    Let's face it, the world is a worrying place at the moment. Luckily, sex reduces anxiety and depression.

    This is due to the mood boosting chemicals that the brain releases when you bang.

    These lovely feel good chemicals include dopamine, endorphins and oxytocin, the latter of which plays a role in increasing compassion and social bonding.

    Sex helps you sleep better

    A good night's sleep can be the difference between jollily going about your day with a spring in your step, to having a full-on tantrum at the office. In fact, studies have found good sleeping habits are one of the most important factors of mental well-being.

    To add a cherry onto this already delicious news cupcake, sex before bed could improve your sleep. After an orgasm, the body releases the hormone prolactin, which often leads to drowsiness and a general feeling of relaxation.

    So, next time you can't get off, try getting it on.

    Sex relieves stress

    When you're feeling stressed, a cheeky spot of hanky-panky may be the last thing on your mind. However, regular sex has been found to reduce cortisol, therefore lowering stress and regulating your mood.

    Not only do orgasms release muscle tension, but studies have found that having sex every day for two weeks may lead to cell growth in the hippocampus, the part of the brain that regulates mood.

    All the more reason to leave that stress ball alone and give something else a squeeze.

    Masturbation works too!

    Don't think all this feel-good-fun is just for couples; solo-flyers can boost their moods in the bedroom too.

    A night in with your bits could help you to lower stress, enhance your body image and improve your physical health. In fact, a study found that men who ejaculated 21 times per month had a 20% lower risk of developing prostate cancer.

    It's no surprise that masturbation makes people happier, an orgasm is the biggest non-drug related blast of dopamine readily available to the brain - like you needed any more reasons to rub one out...

    Don't knock a cuddle

    While mind-blowing orgasms are a saucy way to turn a frown upside down, studies show that loving, physical contact is the real key to happiness.

    Just being close to your partner is enough to increase levels of oxytocin, bonding you together and making you feel happy and safe. In fact, embracing your loved one can lower your blood pressure, or even relieve pressure in stressful situations.

    Comments (144)

    • Pete: April 01, 2020 10:39
      I do agree that regular sex makes you happy , unfortunately my partner passed away last year so i been solo since and i do miss the closeness , is their anything else anyone can recomend for me , women do have lots of toys to choose from but for us men we are limited
    • Sean: April 01, 2020 10:42
      I suffer from PTSD and depression and anxiety and yes sex and cuddle help so much nothing better for releasing stress a nice evening playing and petting each other
    • Pam: April 01, 2020 11:14
      I was due to meet a new partner just as the lockdown was announced, so it is very frustrating not to be able to see them. Now I will have to wait until this is all over which could be another 6 months.
    • John: April 01, 2020 12:07
      Anyone fancy explaining this to my wife?
    • mark: April 01, 2020 12:09
      I love sex to much, i'm looking for a f buddy, my partner has extremely low sex drive and church gets in the way.
    • Mark Gardner: April 01, 2020 12:11
      Sex is amazing and hot
    • If you are a sexless woman you should read everyth: April 01, 2020 13:11
      The thing is that some woman should know this because I've had girl friends in the past that are just sexless & ive just said goodbye.
    • Mark Gardner: April 01, 2020 13:14
      Too right. Sex is amazing I couldn't live without it.
    • Lee Knapper: April 01, 2020 13:19
      My sex drive is high just wish my wife’s was !!
      I find it very frustrating at times ...
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 13:36
      I love sex. My partner makes me very horny all of the time and I get extremely wet. This seems to present problems for us. I want sex all of the time and he can’t maintain an erection because he says it’s too wet down there. Other men have found this immensely arousing.
    • Fab: April 01, 2020 14:21
      I love sex and sex games everything related to, I could do every day without being bored , but with my wife if I have twice a month I’m a luck man
    • Becca: April 01, 2020 14:44
      @pete, sorry to hear about your partner. You’re right tho, there isn’t any much out there for men. However, that being said, have you tried a fleshlight? Some are modelled on different pornstars ??
    • Kevin: April 01, 2020 14:51
      My partner loves to dress up during foreplay. She also wears high heels during sex which I find is a big turn on
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 14:51
      @beth.. thank you beth i have just seen them and thinking about getting one . Are they really .. yes their isnt much out there for men .. i miss the interaction and skin on skin and closeness ..thank you so much beth i will seriously consider one thank you
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 14:53
      @kevin my late partner used to love dressing up in heels or boots and stockings and lots of foreplay
    • Derek Rees: April 01, 2020 15:58
      Tell my wife that
    • Pattie59: April 01, 2020 16:01
      I just love sex, unfortunately for me my partner doesn't. I love him immensely but sometimes all I want is a quick bang, nothing like it to brighten your day.
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 16:11
      @becca so sorry for some reason i called you beth so sorry for getting name wrong.@pattie59 i agree their is nothing like a quick bang to set you up for the day. i used to regularly sort my partner out in the morning she loved it
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 16:19
      @Pattie59 I’m the same. I am very highly sexed and I have found that men say they want a woman who is always ready to go (me) but in reality when they get one they don’t know what to do with them. This has been my experience with men of all stripes.
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 16:29
      @taylor winni my late partner was same as you and @pattie59 and i always kept her happy in every which way . Yes some men say they love to find women like that but so do some women say same and when they get one they dont want it all the time its the same in both male and female
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 16:38
      @Pete I’m speaking from experience from the men in my age group late 20’s to early 30’s. I have noticed that it’s mainly men in this age group that feel threatened by sexually confident women. Men that I can have a future with who want the same thing. The men who I have found who say they want a sexually confident woman are men in their 40’s and 50’s. This only presents a problem when I want more from it like an actual relationship, but they’re not really wanting that. Usually getting over a bad marriage/relationship where the ex spouse has really put them through the wringer. They have taken these great men and have bled them dry. So sad as I find men in this age group make the best partners. They’re confident, sexually adventurous and love that you have a life outside of them. It’s just that because of what’s happened, they’ve been understandably put off. I don’t want marriage or kids. I’d be happy to share a house and have a relationship. I’m definitely for older men, but they mainly want different things.
    • Sid: April 01, 2020 16:41
      @taylor winni sounds perfect to me ;)and @pattie59 nothing wrong with a quick bang ;)
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 16:42
      @Sid thank you :)
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 16:45
      @taylor winni that explains it. My late partner was younger than me im 54 years old and my partner was 36 . I understand what your saying and agree 100% we was always adventurous we both would come up with new ideas and turned us both on and understood she had life too which i definately had no problem with and it certainly worked for us and we lived together
    • Sid: April 01, 2020 16:45
      @taylor winni what about us guys in our mid 20s have you experienced one of us ;) x
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 16:47
      @taylor winni if more people were open and honest relationships would work and from what you said it sounds perfect to me
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 16:47
      @Pete I was sorry to read about your partner. My heart has broken for you. You sounded the perfect match.
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 16:50
      @taylor winni thank you and we was perfect match and to try find that again is easier said than done
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 16:50
      @Sid haha yes I have and early 20’s. Early to mid 20’s seem to be the worst offenders of being intimidated by sexually assertive women. I was even called “aggressive” once because I’m comfortable with saying “I like this” or “I don’t like that.” If that makes me aggressive I’m fine with that haha
    • Sid: April 01, 2020 16:58
      @taylor winni! Well il have to disagree with that! I’m well into a confident and aggressive woman ;) what do you like? Haha x
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 16:59
      @taylor winni i dont see how anyone can say your aggresive your only stating what you like and what you want to try and what you dont like that to me is being open and absolutely nothing wrong with that at all .. i would be exactly the same as you
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 17:15
      &Pete exactly it’s not aggressive at all. It’s being considerate enough to the other person and taking the responsibility so you can both have a great time. There is a psychology behind certain men calling assertive women “aggressive.” It’s because they’re not secure in their own power and feel emasculated.
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 17:21
      @taylor winni exactly and if you dont say what you like or what you want to try how you supposed to be adventurous and agree because you talk about it you can both have fantastic time trying new things that you both comfortable with
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 17:24
      @taylor winni and if your in relationship then you should be able to talk about anything and tell each other what you want to try and what you want to do .. im 100% in agreement with you
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 17:27
      @Pete. You’re exactly right. Also, if you can’t talk about this, which Is basic stuff you need to be able to discuss in a relationship, how is that relationship supposed to grow and develop?
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 17:35
      @taylor winni so so very true .. i think thats why so many relationships break down because they are too scared to talk about it and yes i agree its basic stuff that you need to be able to talk about to keep relationship alive and glowing and to grow together which is what a relationship is about growing together isnt it xx
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 17:39
      @Pete. You’re 100% correct! It’s nice to see there are people out there who still value the things that make relationships work! Xx
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 17:43
      @taylor winni thank you and its lovely to see someone agrees but its still hard to find anyone they dont seem to be out there only on internet lol xx if more people talked about it openly and honestly it would be lot easier and i would be in relationship lol xxx
    • Duke: April 01, 2020 17:44
      I love going down on my wife and and making her cum twice.but sex couldn't make me any happier than I am already with her
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 17:46
      @taylor winni and also if more people talked openly and honestly their would definately be less affairs and less divorces and more people would find themselves happier with each other and happier with themselves too xxx
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 17:51
      @Pete I am in total agreement with you on all points. Affairs and divorce happen once someone feels they get shut down and invalidated by the other person. And it’s true that if you can’t find what you need at home, you will look elsewhere. Too many people think that certain things aren’t their responsibility in a relationship and they totally are. Like making sure your partner feels secure enough to voice their thoughts free from judgement and scorn. Xxx
    • Sid: April 01, 2020 17:56
      How’s everyone coping with being stuck at home?
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 17:57
      @taylor winni your so right on everything ..yes some people look elsewhere and instead of putting effort into stranger they should concentrate on the one they are with and talk . No one should be judged for being open and honest after all is all your doing really is letting the person your with know that you want to be adventurous with them no one else xxx
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 17:57
      @Sid not too bad. How about you? I’m working from home so I have no time to think about anything else haha
    • Taylor Winni: April 01, 2020 17:58
      @Pete amen to that!! Xxx
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 18:00
      @sid not too bad mate thank you im still out there delivering but on short week i deliver petrol diesel to supermarket garages
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 18:01
      @taylor winni definately amen lol xxx
    • Sid: April 01, 2020 18:11
      Glad to hear your both doing well! Yee I’m all good! Still working as a driver for a construction company! Weekends are good fun tho ;)
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 18:18
      @sid thats good to hear mate .. hopefully i will find someone who thinks and wants the same as me and then i can start having fun again lol
    • Simon Pike: April 01, 2020 18:25
      Sex is great anytime of day night always ready to go I seem to be more horny the older i get hard on 24/7
    • Debbie: April 01, 2020 18:29
      I’ve got a male partner who has not had sex with me in 2 years. I love him but find myself playing alone. He was in disgust when he found my toys. I love sex and feel unwanted
    • Randy: April 01, 2020 18:32
      Yes sex and masterbating dose make me feel happier. Some times I don’t feel like im in the the sexual mood at all and I come home from work mardy as ass then sometimes my wife want to have fun when I’m not in the mood evenchaly I give in we have crazy sex then I feel so relieved and a lot more happier the next day.
      I believe the hardest part is getting over that cba mood but once you motivate yourself to do it you fuck like crazy and in the end your glad you did. some of my best sexual experiences have been from the times I don’t feel up to it.
    • Simon: April 01, 2020 18:35
      Debbie enjoy your toys and maybe your partner will join in too as great fun to use toys together
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 18:35
      @debbie thats not good that your partner not been near you in 2 years and definately shouldnt be in disgust as you got toys if anything he should want to use them on you himself or watch you
    • Debbie: April 01, 2020 18:39
      @Pete he makes no attempt to encourage me to share the experience of the toys. His sex drive is zero, makes me feel very unattractive.
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 18:44
      @debbie dont you dare feel unattractive its not you its your partner who obviously got problem and you two should sit down and talk love but dont you dare think its you because its not and lot of men would be thrilled to be joining in with their partner with toys xx
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 18:49
      @debbie and for the record no one is unattractive and no one should ever be made to feel that way either
    • Maria: April 01, 2020 19:08
      Being a woman, I have a high sex drive.But unfortunately my partner has heart disease, so I hardly ever get any, it’s so frustrating
    • Debbie: April 01, 2020 19:13
      @Pete thank you for your lovely comments. I have tried to speak to him, he says he will try to be more attentive. It lasts about a month or so, that was over 2 years ago. I know he loves me but I need more at times. He’s missing out on so much !
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 19:23
      @maria im sorry to hear about your partner and understand frustration from both of you, have you talked about other ways of pleasuring each other
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 19:34
      @debbie your very welcome and no thanks needed love. Thats a long time to go without especially being in relationship. I think you need another talk especially as last one was 2 years ago and nothing happened you definately need to get to bottom of it especially as their is love there, be open and honest with him and hopefully you both get thru it and move forward and have more happier less frustrating times ahead. Yes he is missing out on so much and hopefully being open and honest will make him see what he is missing out on xx
    • Sid: April 01, 2020 19:37
      Debbie and Maria sorry to hear that it’s heartbreaking! Must be difficult! Hope both of you are well x
    • Mark Gardner: April 01, 2020 19:44
      There's nothing better than making the woman you with to cum first and squirt. Great feeling

    • Andy: April 01, 2020 20:44
      Nothing better than after a hard day coming home and licking my partner to juicy creamy orgasm then licking all her juices up, gets me so exited tasting and smelling her and seeing her get off knowing I’ve just caused it, then being able to enter her after and explode inside is phenomenal, going for round two when she sits on my face after is also fun
    • Simon: April 01, 2020 21:39
      My wife is the sexiest woman, we have children and yet i still can't keep my eyes, hands and tongue off her. Really still enjoy our sex after 10 years. But my goodness some of you need a reality check. @sid to quote "debbie and maria sorry to hear that it's heartbreaking". please. heart breaking is whats going on in the world right now. people dying alone and away from their families. heart breaking because they're not getting an orgasm atm? my goodness.
    • Sid: April 01, 2020 22:12
      Pretty sure Maria said her partner has a heart disease that’s what’s heartbreaking silly twat!
    • Marsy: April 01, 2020 23:05
      Loved reading all your comments, love getting lingerie from here especially crotchless, now I can't do without it it's like a ritual !! Ordered some other things from here ,same partner for 25 years great sex life ,every few days it's great for keeping that bond with your partner enjoying eachother etc I'm 39 and sex definitely gets better as you get older......well untill your 70 odd or so lol
    • Simon doesn’t say: April 01, 2020 23:07

      What an absolute weapon you are.

    • Pete: April 01, 2020 23:08
      @marsy thats fantastic to hear
    • Charlotte: April 01, 2020 23:20
      Hi I need advice. I have been in a long relationship (or feels like it). I am just not as sexually aroused as I used to be. How do I get the urge or feeling to want sex again?
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 23:28
      @charlotte have you tried spicing it up i.e role playing, being adventurous . Lot of long term couples go thru this stage
    • Marsy: April 01, 2020 23:35
      Thanks pete
    • Marsy: April 01, 2020 23:35
      How long is your relationship Charlotte?
    • Pete: April 01, 2020 23:36
      @marsy your very welcome
    • Mark: April 02, 2020 00:09
      I’m 46 and tried getting my wife back to the way we enjoyed sex before we had our son 10 years ago any tips I’ve tried lube cock rings vibrators she not interested thinking it’s time to give up and find a fuck buddy but there is not one sight out there that don’t wanna take your time and money and phish me off
    • Shaun Robert Glover: April 02, 2020 06:05
      I suffer with high blood pressure and the tablets I'm on make it hard for me to maintain a erection . This gets frustrating when we hit the height of passion and it becomes a flop
    • Carl: April 02, 2020 08:29
      I am massive into watching porn mainly squirting videos, I’ve tried over and over again to make my wife squirt but it just doesn’t happen....can people tell me, is it a case of you either can or can’t? I’ve had previous women squirt whilst having sex but not my wife....
    • Marsy: April 02, 2020 08:40
      @Carl think it's a case of some can some cant , no reflection on you or anything ....I've heard some say its actually urine !! But some say not lol
    • Carl: April 02, 2020 08:43
      @marsy cheers, not that I like golden showers lol just love it being very wet and the thought of her squirting while having sex is a massive turn on?? I’ve also wanted to take our sex life to another level by introducing another person male/female but she wasn’t having any of it! Anyone else into this or had the thought?
    • Marsy: April 02, 2020 08:59
      @Carl I'm sure lots of had that thought but not followed it through, and some are into that sort of thing. It's very different fantasy to reality though. Are you happy with your sex life ? Is it a long term partner ?
    • Carl: April 02, 2020 09:07
      @marsy I’d like our sex life to be more adventurous and I always say to myself ‘dirtier’...Yes it’s long term, married and we have 2 young kids..before we was married she used to sit onto my face and ride my tongue and ride my cock and then taste herself on my cock etc but everything seems to have stopped and it’s lazy sex we have to relieve ourselves...
    • Marsy: April 02, 2020 09:12
      @carl oh dear that doesn't sound very good ,have you spoken with her about this ? Is she happy ? Is she body confident? Think it's something to discuss first tbh ,I get what your saying though. I have 3 kids and been with mine 24 years you have to keep connected happy bonded etc that makes all the difference
    • Carl: April 02, 2020 09:22
      She doesn’t let me go down her anymore, even though she had csections, maybe it’s in her head that ‘things have changed’ even though it hasn’t. Yeh maybe I need to tell her more and try and make her feel confident! I guess it’s tiring for both after work and sorting kids to then have time for each other. Cheers marsy
    • Marsy: April 02, 2020 09:28
      @carl no problem ...I think I'd be asking her why she wont let you do that ,there is usually a reason .relationships can go thru dry spells but both has 2 want same thing. If you both love and fancy eachother I dont know what the issue is . We have a very good sex life and very varied and it's better now than when we were teenagers for sure .experiment with lubes lingerie oral every time we have sex and other things
    • Carl: April 02, 2020 09:36
      @marsy we have loads of toys and lingerie but she doesn’t seem fussed to want to use them. We like watching porn together that’s why I tried encouraging another partner but that was defo a no go! I’ll have to work on it and try and see how it goes. Love reading other people’s views????
    • Marsy: April 02, 2020 09:41
      @carl is she bothered about having sex ? I'm not sure she sounds that keen tbh, I can see why the other person suggestion didnt go down well....if mine suggested that he would know about it lol
    • Pete: April 02, 2020 09:42
      @carl morning .. to bring someone else in whether its male or female is a big risk to any relationship as you both need so much trust and to be able to handle it after mate. I would definately talk to her like you said before and build her confidence as a lot of women do lose confidence after baby and as they get older but we know they havent changed and they still beautiful as they were
    • Marsy: April 02, 2020 09:44
      @pete agree with you ,I'm not into watching porn with my other half at all ,we dont do that . She may feel threatened that she needs to live up to the women on there . She doesn't sound that into sex much tbh
    • Pete: April 02, 2020 09:51
      @marsy yes i agree it does sound like she lost interest and agree she probaly feels threatened and feels she has to perform like them and to suggest someone else coming in could make her feel she not enough even tho she knows carl loves her and trying everything to revive his marriage . He just needs to sit down with her talk to her and build her confidence up
    • Johnny: April 02, 2020 09:55
      My wife and I are in our 60s, we still have lots of intimacy, we have been married for over 40 years and still enjoy getting naked and having loads of fun.
      Don’t get me wrong, after my wife had our boys she went right off sex, I know it means a lot to most men but I didn’t pester her for it at all, please don’t be angry when you read this but I just used to masterbate when she was sleeping.
      Not once did I think about straying or having an affair, I was offered it on a plate with a woman at work who wanted me, I can honestly put my hand on my heart and say that I didn’t stray at all. The boys are both away now and we both just love to kiss and cuddle, sometimes we strip naked in front of tv and have sex in the lounge, we both are slim and quite fit for our ages, I’m 65 and my wife is 68 but looks fantastic naked, and with her clothes on. We have both always had a fantasy to do it outside but never ever got round to it, hopefully some day we can.
    • Pete: April 02, 2020 10:05
      @johnny thats fantastic to hear and no one will get angry with that at all, and its amazing you both keep it alive mate
    • Marsy: April 02, 2020 10:07
      @Johnny that's lovely that's you and your wife are still in love
    • Carl: April 02, 2020 10:11
      @pete yeh maybe she is trying to be like other women, maybe I need to stop watching porn with her but she does like to watch it, it’s not just me putting it on her to watch, she gets very wet watching it!
      @johnny that’s great to hear, sounds like you and your wife are lucky to have each other! Keep it up????
    • Marsy: April 02, 2020 10:13
      @carl ,only she can tell you what her issues are ,communication isnt always easy
    • Pete: April 02, 2020 10:18
      @carl well thats good if your wife putting it on too and getting very wet watching it, so she hasnt lost interest completely so you can both talk about it and work on it mate
    • Pete: April 02, 2020 10:23
      @shaun robert glover have you spoke to doctor about this as their is things out there that they can give you to get over this mate and you will be ok then.. a lot of men wont talk about it as they feel embarrased and their is nothing to be embarrased about mate talk to doctor asap and im sure you will be ok then
    • Andy timson: April 02, 2020 10:38
      Debbie babe,Tell him that you are going to leave him if he doesn't pull his finger out & love you treat you with respect & fxxx you good & hard
    • Andy: April 02, 2020 11:00
      Any couples here into cbt me and my partner just started experimenting a little we were 69 and as I made her orgasm she got a little Carried away squeezing but it made me orgasm very hard after, I know it’s not for everyone and many men would cringe, just wondering if any one has any tips or ideas from women on tips for inflicting it or men who also enjoy it done to them, Thanks
    • Debbie: April 02, 2020 11:01
      Andy, thank you for your comment. I have lost my body confidence so leaving him I would not gain anything.
      I feel playing alone is like having a dirty little secret. Although I do get very wet and have some amazing orgasms.
      I do miss a man penetrating me too
    • Andy: April 02, 2020 11:09
      Debbie no woman should feel there confidence knocked through a man not paying her the love and attention she needs he should worship you go find a man that will!!!
    • Pete: April 02, 2020 11:20
      @debbie unfortunately i have to agree with @andy as its been 2 years since he been near you and he makes you feel like that then maybe you should leave him and find a man that will be attentive and loving towards you , like i said to you before you are not the one with problem and you should not be feeling unattractive and no one should ever feel that way
    • Johnny: April 02, 2020 11:34
      @Marcy @Pete @Carl

      Thank you for your lovely comments, yes my wife and I had to work at it to keep our sex drive in top gear, Making love is not a chore, it’s something that you both want to do, when our love life started flagging we visited Ann Summers shops for real sexy Lingerie, my wife also loved me to wear a leather posing pouch which she saw one night at the famous Chipingdales stripper show with her friends. Lovehoney wasn’t online then so we got the pouch with a front zip from a shop in Birmingham, wow what a difference it made to our sex life. Some couples can’t tell each other what they like and fantasise about, what we done was write it down and exchanged notes, I got my eyes opened, and so did my wife. My wife loves the smell of leather and the feel of it also, hence the pouch with the zip. Please talk to each other, or write it on paper and swap notes, it works, trust me. Only last month we bought our first Magic Wand from Lovehoney, my wife loves it and I love watching her use it.
      Work at it folks, it keeps your sex life healthy, we are 42 years married and very happy with each other.

    • Pete: April 02, 2020 11:59
      @johnny thats fantastic to hear and brilliant way of finding out what each other wants to try as so many couples feel embarrased about what they feel when really it should be the most natural thing in the world
    • Andy: April 02, 2020 17:43
      Any couples here into cbt me and my partner just started experimenting a little we were 69 and as I made her orgasm she got a little Carried away squeezing but it made me orgasm very hard after, I know it’s not for everyone and many men would cringe, just wondering if any one has any tips or ideas from women on tips for inflicting it or men who also enjoy it done to them, Thanks
    • Andy timson: April 02, 2020 18:48
      Pete,that's ok mate
    • Andy timson: April 02, 2020 18:50
      Pete,that's ok mate
    • Debbie: April 02, 2020 18:57
      What’s good for orgasms in the way of toys for a female
    • Andy timson: April 02, 2020 19:04
      Debbie babe,lovehoneys wand
    • Lulu: April 03, 2020 00:49
      I have a high sex drive, my partner has none ! I long for a man to give me attention and cuddles discreetly .. But where do I find him ?
    • Sid: April 03, 2020 08:13
      I can help with that lulu;)
    • Mark Gardner: April 03, 2020 09:33
      I'm in the Wallasey area, my wife has extremely low sex drive. I get depressed. I'm only 52. She is youger than me.
    • John: April 03, 2020 09:59
      Me and my partner both love sex. We also enjoy masturbating together and watching porn. We have a selection of toys bought from love honey. It’s hard to get time alone having two kids though and have to wait for them to be asleep for the fun to begin and sometimes by that time we get tired. Our sex has got better and more frequent since we have been married. Any suggestions from anyone how we could spice things up even more?
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 10:02
      @john the best way of spicing things up is to sit down and talk about what you both would like to try or if you cant talk about it do what another member mentioned on here earlier in the week about both writing down what you would love to try and exchange notes
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 10:05
      @lulu their are various sites that can cater for your needs ie adult friend finder and just put your area and distance willing to travel.
    • John: April 03, 2020 10:08
      @pete great shout. We will give this a whirl and see where it takes us. Thanks.
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 10:14
      @john your very welcome im sure you both wont be disappointed. I used to write erotic stories about any fantasy my partner had and in great detail she used to love them
    • Anonymous: April 03, 2020 10:22
      My sex drive has never been so low. It's really concerning me now.
      Also, hope this doesn't sound crazy but it's like my brain and penis don't know each other. Nothing mentally going on upstairs, and as a result, nothing physically going on downstairs.
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 10:24
      @annonymous you should go speak to doctor about this as their is plenty of things they can offer you to rectify this problem mate
    • Lulu: April 03, 2020 10:25
      Interesting answers thank you ??
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 10:28
      @lulu your welcome and hope you find what your looking for . Im in chester area and on my own and thinking of joining couple of sites too
    • Lulu: April 03, 2020 10:30
      @Sid .. if only :)
      @Pete, I’ll check them out :)
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 10:32
      @lulu yes check them out .. if you lived near me i could help out too
    • Anonymous: April 03, 2020 10:36
      @Pete Thanks for reply Pete. I've been to doctors twice now. Had tests done i.e. testosterone levels etc. All normal. Got offered Viagra which I refused as want to get to the bottom of this before going down the pill route. A friend said this problem could be mentally. I wouldn't know where to start to combat this.
    • Lulu: April 03, 2020 10:40
      @Pete, there must be many couples who have incompatible sex drives .. it makes me very low and frustrated to not have sex, when I’m someone who would love sex on a daily basis
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 10:41
      @annonymous you should try viagra mate it might give you boost and recharge . Just because you take viagra it doesnt mean you will become reliant on them they can be used just to give you boost. I understand where you coming from tho mate but sometimes if you worry about it that will have impact on you as your thinking and worrying about it if that makes sense.think positive mate and i know you will get thru this
    • Anonymous: April 03, 2020 11:00
      @Pete You could be right mate. I may look into it again. Thanks for replying.
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 11:02
      @annonymous your welcome and yes definately worth looking into mate. Try to stop worrying too because the more you worry the more it will happen
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 11:06
      @lulu yes you will be surprised how many incompatible couples their are out there. Have you tried talking to your partner it could be he just in a rut and needs little nudge. I presume you got toys i know they are not the same but it definately take edge off rather than go down road of affair. Maybe just have talk with your partner you might get to bottom of it then xx
    • Anonymous: April 03, 2020 11:10
      @Pete it's bloody hard but I'll try to think positive. I'm only 37. Enjoy your day buddy
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 11:10
      @annonymous your friend could be right too about it being mental problem because if your worrying about it all the time and getting anxious this will have impact try to relax and not think about it doing this and taking viagra will definately help you mate
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 11:12
      @annonymous yes it must be hard but you will definately get over this mate . Thank you . You have good day too mate
    • Sid: April 03, 2020 12:38
      @lulu Why does it have to be if only ? ;) x
    • Jay: April 03, 2020 15:28
      Sex would make me happy if I got it more often.Wife is very boring in bed no adventure, before we got married she wore stockings the lot now nothing, I go near her she starts I got a belly ache or something else wrong.
    • Lulu: April 03, 2020 16:31
      @pete .. ive talked to my partner until I’m blue in the face, I’ve been patient for too long now. Now its time to think about myself. He won’t/can’t change :(
    • Lulu: April 03, 2020 16:35
      @Pete .. yes have toys, but I need the talk, I need the strong arms and made to feel beautiful
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 16:35
      @lulu their really is nothing else you can do and agree totally with you that its time to think of yourself now especially as he refusing to listen and change.
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 16:39
      @lulu yes i understand that toys are no substitute for the real thing. Yes obviously you will miss the intimacy the closeness and the talk too , i been on my own since last year when my partner passed suddenly and unexpectdly so i know i exactly what you mean as i miss all that too, yes you should be made to feel beautiful every day and be made to feel special too xxx
    • Rick: April 03, 2020 18:10
      Hi folks

      I cant get enough sex or self pleasure,I've such a sex drive but my wife is not so much into it & very frustrating

    • Lulu: April 03, 2020 18:28
      @pete .. I’m sorry for your loss Pete ??
    • Pete: April 03, 2020 18:30
      @lulu thank you xxx
    • Lulu: April 04, 2020 00:52
      @Rik .. thanks hun, will check it out
    • Ian: April 04, 2020 09:35
      My partner and I went through a long period where we hardly had sex. Things in the bedroom were stale. While watching tv 1 night, the advert for lovehoney came on. We logged on and spent quite a bit on different sex toys. We discussed how we could spice things up. I told her a few of my fantasies and fetish and now our sexlife is regular again. I was actually embarrassed telling her about my fetish and wish I had told her years ago.
    • Johnny: April 04, 2020 10:36

      Ian that’s exactly what we done except we wrote down on paper what we both fantasied about and what we both wanted. We swapped notes and we were both amazed at what we both liked, we both got our eyes opened up but it done wonders in the bedroom. As I have already mentioned in an earlier blog, we have been with each other since 1975, married 42 years and still enjoy getting naked and having fun, sometimes we do not have intercourse but we sure as hell satisfy each other, and we really enjoy it, I’m 65 my wife is 68. My wife had a very quiet upbringing and so did I, when we were young anal and other things were kinda taboo then, nowadays we both get our eyes opened at what we see on tv and read about. Kissing and cuddling along with loads of foreplay is absolutely brilliant, I know some woman and men just want a quickie and that’s it, I’m all for that if both parties agree, personally we tease each other silly through the day then end up naked having a fantastic time with each other.

    • Rosie: April 15, 2020 18:05
      I absolutely adore sex! I am up for it morning, noon and night and would be up for popping home for a quickie if I knew my other half was up for it. Unfortunately his sex drive is much lower than mine and whilst I am happy to reach for the toys he wouldn’t understand my need.