Learn 10 Easy Ways to Improve your Climax
We all know orgasms are amazing, but what if there was a way to make them even better? Well you're in luck: I've compiled my top ten tips for improving your orgasm below. What better day to try out everything on the list?
Check out my top advice for making your orgasms even better, and don't forget to tell me your top tips in the comments.
1. Grab Some Kegel Balls
Many women find that a toned pelvic floor helps them keep control during sex, leading to stronger orgasms. Kegel balls, also called Ben Wa balls, are the easiest way to tighten your pelvic floor muscles. Just add some lube, pop them in and clench your muscles around them. For starters, try some beginners jiggle balls like the Tracey Cox Supersex Kegel Toner Set (£24.99) or if you're up for more of a challenge, nothing can beat the Fifty Shades of Grey Inner Goddess Silver Pleasure Balls (£29.99). For the best effect, use your kegel exercisers regularly and over time you should see a huge difference.
2. Remember To Breathe
It's easy to get distracted by what's going on around you during sex and forget the most basic things. Breathing properly is actually really important to ensure your body is getting enough oxygen to send blood to the all-important pelvic area. In fact, taking shallow breaths could be preventing you from reaching orgasm. Try taking long, deep breaths and focusing on maintaining a steady rhythm.
3. Try Some Orgasm Gel
The clue is in the name! Dab a little orgasm gel or balm on your clitoris a few minutes before play and enjoy arousing tickles that you won't be able to ignore. I'd recommend something discreet like the Pin Ups Bombshell Orgasm Balm (right, £6.99). The lickable balm comes in mint, chocolate and cherry - yummy!
4. Get Vocal
If you're playing with a lover, make sure to communicate to them about what you like and don't like. Let them know how they're doing, either with words, or by responding to their touch with moans or movements. Sexpert Tracey Cox explains, "Nothing will improve your sex life more than learning to open up about what you need and want to be satisfied. Talking about sex isn't just a turn-on; by being honest about your needs and wants, you'll improve your relationship."
5. Tie Up And Tease
It may not be to everyone's tastes, but some sexy restraint can really add extra excitement to couple's play. Beginning with something small like furry handcuffs is ideal because it's so non-threatening. Take turns cuffing each other to the headboard and gently teasing their bare skin with a feather tickler or flogger. Adding a blindfold to the mix maximises the sensations. If you enjoy experimenting with bondage, check out our restraint kits which offer more possibilities for play.
6. Vary It
You wouldn't eat the same thing for lunch every day, so why keep the same bedroom routine for years on end? The wonderful thing about sex is taking the time to explore your lover's body. Try experimenting with different ways to orgasm, like G-spot or anal play. There are no rules!
7. Add Lube
My number one sex tip to my friends, whether they're male or female, single or in a couple, is to invest in a good quality lubricant. Adding a little bit of lube to sex makes every touch feel so much better, and you may find it's been the missing ingredient in your sex life. Choose one that's safe to use with condoms and sex toys, like Lovehoney Enjoy Water-Based Lubricant (£4.99). If you're confused about which lube you can use with condoms, check out our "Which Is The Best Lube?" guide.
8. Share your fantasy
Everyone has certain turn-ons or go-to fantasies, so why not incorporate that into masturbation or sex? A great way of doing this by yourself is to find erotica that suits your taste (Fifty Shades of Grey, anyone?) If you're in a couple, why not experiment with roleplay? Choose a scenario that gets you excited, put on a sexy costume and get down to business. Perfect!
9. A Little Pain…
…to boost your pleasure. Adding a spanker or nipple clamps to play can add a whole new dimension of pleasure for you to enjoy. As Tracey Cox explains, "Pain causes of rush of adrenalin, which turns us on and heightens excitement. It’s one of the strongest sensations you can feel – and it doesn’t diminish once you’re accustomed to it. Light and consistent stroking or touching is screened out by our subconscious, pain stays in our awareness. It’s absolutely healthy for couples to try - so long as both people involved are happy with it and it’s being done to excite not coerce."
10. Have fun
Last but not least, don't forget to enjoy yourself! Sometimes stressing too much about orgasming can actually hinder your pleasure. Just relax, enjoy the sensations and see where it leads you.
I hope you enjoyed these tips to making your orgasm even better! Don't forget to leave your comment below.
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