1. Polyamory, Blindfolds and The Fifty Shades Effect - Lovehoney's Week in Sex News

    Lelo Tor II Rechargeable Multispeed Vibrating Cock RingBetween hipster dildos and small penis competitions, it's been an exciting week in the world of sex.

    But here at the Lovehoney office, we've only had one thing on our minds. Who wins the dozen limited edition TENGA eggs from our competition last week? You commented in your droves, but we could only choose 12 lucky winners - find out if you were chosen below.

    This week, we've decided to give away a luxury Lelo Tor II Rechargeable Vibrating Cock Ring, worth a whopping £78.99! Once again, we'll be choosing the winner from the comments, so all you have to do is give us your opinions on the blog below.

    To celebrate our luxury couple's toy giveaway, we have a couple-themed sex news round up for you this week. Enjoy, and remember to check back next Sunday to find out if you're a winner!

    • Lovehoney Tease Me Soft Satin Blackout BlindfoldOur word of the week for this Sunday is amaurophilia- arousal from having sex with someone who can't see you. Amaurophiliacs like their partners to wear a blindfold during lovemaking. Being unable to see is a great way of becoming closer to your parter emotionally and sexually. Read our guide to Using a Blindfold for Better Sex for hints and tips for explosive blindfolded sex.
    • We all know couples come in different shapes and sizes, can you have a couple with more than two people? Our very own Hella talks us through the world of Monogamy, Polygamy and Polyamory and explains what they mean to modern society. Do you think infidelity is good or bad for a relationships? Our favourite sex education vlogger, the wonderful Laci Green, breaks it down below.

    • Now, for the moment you've all been waiting for - the winners of last week's giveaway are LouLou22, Sue LolaPasha, Tom, Myke1982, Denice, Kirsty Mead, Cheryl, Amy, Emma Louise Garrett, Rie Luna, Bakewell and Alex. Congratulations! We'll be in touch tomorrow to get your delivery information. If you weren't one of the lucky winners this week, comment below for a chance to win a Lelo Tor II Rechargeable Vibrating Cock Ring. The winner will be announced next Sunday.

    Comments (68)

    • SubReiSkyeM: October 21, 2012 07:37
      I'd love one of those TOR II cockrings...

      Congrats to everyone who won a TENGA egg last week! I hope you all enjoy them!

    • Fluffbags: October 21, 2012 13:02
      Congrats to the winners! x
    • Orgaddict: October 21, 2012 13:08
      Exploring the site and this is my first visit to this section....I need to read previous weeks now and catch up!!
      LH site provides new ideas everywhere one looks, my bank manager will not be happy, but the Mrs is and if she is then I am :-) We have ordinary cock rings but that Lelo Tor looks like the Rolls Royce version...I would love to write a review ;-)
    • jenni: October 21, 2012 13:36
      would love to write a review for the cock ring ;) congrats to last weeks winners xxxx
    • dan: October 21, 2012 13:39
      Only discovered LH a few months back, and the blog today for some nice rest day reading :)

      Keep up the good work guys and girls

    • Avrielle_Aniko: October 21, 2012 13:43
      Interesting about the one night stands. My partner and I have been in a relationship for 6 years, but when we first met it was only supposed to be a one-off night of passion together. Guess it shows that the 'third date' rule is not that important to a successful future with your potential lover.
    • rag doll: October 21, 2012 13:59
      thanks Lovehoney, you now have me hooked on Hella's videos! there goes all hope of a productive day for me. :)

      also, i agree Avrielle, I've been with my partner for just over a year and a half and we had sex the first time i visited him. it would have been the first time when we met and shared a tent whilst camping if i hadn't been on my period and and at that point we were under the impression it would be the only time as we live so far apart.

    • cheer_up: October 21, 2012 14:16
      I lost my virginity in a one-night-stand with a good friend, and we ended up accidentally staying together for over three years.

      Congratulations to all the winners of the competition :)

    • J: October 21, 2012 14:27
      "All very interesting stuff. another great sexnews round up by nicole. well done
    • J: October 21, 2012 14:27
      "All very interesting stuff. another great sexnews round up by nicole. well done
    • Chris D: October 21, 2012 14:35
      Excellent word of the day - I'm going to have to try and drop amaurophiliac into conversation more often somehow!
    • goodgirl93: October 21, 2012 15:18
      well done egg winners! :D
      My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years now, after sleeping together once randomly in a swimming pool changing room eeekk! and i was crying half way through so theres devotion haha he stayed with the weirdo who took his virginity whilst crying, awkward much. cant say weve discussed it since in the past 3 years...
    • Suzy Kelly: October 21, 2012 15:46
      Well done to the egg winners!!!

      Loving the hipster dildos, and the bike....well that's a different way to ride.

    • Mrs JoJo: October 21, 2012 16:14
      I am glad that lh have decided to cover the poly subject. It is controversial but it's more common than people realize. I know of 3 poly couples who all live together and have done for years. They are all best mates in their couplings and they really are not judgmental at all.

      I think a lot of people could learn from them, They actually helped me take the step to come out as being a bi-sexual female, after hiding this for 10 years.

      I'd love to get my mitts on the LELO cock ring, it looks magnificent!

    • la83: October 21, 2012 16:14
      Fifty shades,ooh yes spot on for me, only a lot more than three times more sex. Gone from once every three month to daily, apart from the odd day missed. I feel so much more closer to hubby now as well. Just ordered the kama sutra cards to see what else we can get up to.
    • oxybeles: October 21, 2012 16:40
      Hmmm, now I can bring out the blindfold I've just bought from LH and sound like I know what I'm talking about!!! Just the name makes it sound 10x better!

      Would love the chance to try that cock ring with my OH, it looks brilliant!

      GL all!

    • pratstercs: October 21, 2012 17:52
      Damn, didn't win one of those eggs. The Lelo toy looks awesome though!
    • Tuesday Welsh: October 21, 2012 17:53
      Only just discovered this part of Love Honey and its Brilliant! fingers crossed for the competition!
    • Gail Taylor: October 21, 2012 17:59
      I slept with my partner on our 1st date, that was 7 years and 2 kids ago and we still find new ways of pleasuring each other :-D
      Love all the toys on this site xXx
    • NaughtyNursey: October 21, 2012 18:10
      Another great Blog guys, well done l do so love my Sunday read :o) As someone not too long out of a sexless Sleeping with the Enemy style marriage, seriously that's no joke, I have rediscovered the absolute joy of sex with a certain young buck and lemme tell ya we make 50 shades look like The Sound of Music! I would seriously love to get my hands (and his cock) on that Lelo Tor 11 and would be quite happy to give an indept review post some bedroom gymnastics so hit me up with that baby lol ;-)
    • Labyrinth: October 21, 2012 18:11
      oOo loving the look of the cockring.

      I originally refused a one night stand from my OH, and we've now been dating for 9 1/2 months ^_^

    • andrew: October 21, 2012 18:15
      Congrats every one that won

      this toy would rock :)

      Keep up the good work lovehoney :P

    • AliMc: October 21, 2012 18:33
      My partner and I slept together very early on in our relationship so I'm relieved to see that our chances of a successful relationship together are the same as if we had waited! I sometimes wonder if it would have been better if we had waited but it was a great experience anyway.
    • Rebecca Matthews: October 21, 2012 18:44
      amaurophilia sounds like fun, i think i'm going to fill my Sunday night with a session ;)
    • PS: October 21, 2012 19:00
      Wouldn't mind one of those Lelo Tor II Rechargeable Vibrating Cock Rings. They look like they would rock my wifes world.
    • Jess: October 21, 2012 19:25
      Ooooh, would love to get my hands on one of them!

      Congrats to the winners :)

    • ruskers: October 21, 2012 19:41
      My wife recently read the first few pages of 50 Shades but stopped as she said it was badly written. I wish she would finish the while book so we can experiment more. Can't believe there's a name for blindfolded sex!
    • DNhoneyrider: October 21, 2012 19:53
      I am soooooo tempted to do one of those hipster floor pics, well, it's laminate not real wood but it'll do.. I wonder which sex toy I'll use!
      I love the colour of the Tor, it's very "this season".. WANT
      I can't believe half the people who rave about 50 shades would even THINK about trying BDSM in real life, I find that the most interesting effect of the phenomenon.
    • Pixie-Murree: October 21, 2012 20:01
      I must admit I don't like the idea of being with someone blindfolded during sex (foreplay maybe) I think a big part is the facial expressions and the eye to eye connections.
      Congrats to last weeks winners xx
    • cala sharp: October 21, 2012 20:08
      I've had 3 one night stands in my life but all 3 turned into relationships that lasted 3 years+
    • Nymeria: October 21, 2012 20:16
      I read the article about one night stands by Tracy Cox from another site and I agree- it can work just as well as those with non-one night stands.

      Congrats to the lucky winners.

    • nicola: October 21, 2012 20:48
      My fella's working abroad,haven't seen him since start of September. Would love one of these for when he gets home. Although we did wear out the last one we had!
    • Gerard V: October 21, 2012 21:55
      What fun would be had with Tor 2. It could shake my man and vibrate his best friend until they are both happy and satisfied. The joy it would give is indescribable.
    • Claire: October 21, 2012 22:29
      Married 23 years and sex life was virtually non existent until I read 50 Shades. Hubby didn't know what hit him but hasn't complained! Would love to win the Tor 2 for him x
    • Delphi: October 21, 2012 23:24
      As a poor student who can only afford the cheap 'disposable' cock rings, the Tor II looks like an absolute treat! I'd love to try it out (:
    • 180bpm: October 22, 2012 02:23
      would love to try one of these out :)
    • Karen: October 22, 2012 08:15
      Wow. That looks cool. Would be great for my OH while I'm using my Mia. Matching his and hers sex toys. What a fab idea. There is a lack of sex toys for men. They all look very 'samey' and cheep but this looks a little more up-market than most cock rings. Would love this for him.
    • LouLou22: October 22, 2012 08:59
      I slept with my partner earlier than i might of usually (couldn't help myself :) ) but been together 4 years now and like to think it would have worked out if we'd slept together on the first night or if we'd waited. Think it entirely depends on the individuals.
    • LouLou22: October 22, 2012 09:24
      Sorry for posting again :) Also wanted to add that it seems strange that in todays society cheating on a monogamous relationship which can end up with many people getting hurt, while obviously not something people generally agree with, many find more socially acceptable than a poly relationship where all parties are aware of the situation and is something they go in to willingly
    • Rie Luna: October 22, 2012 10:07
      Omg omg omg!!
      I want to please and surprise my man with that awesome cockring.

      It looks good and I'm preeeeetty sure it can do some magic tricks too.

    • Vi: October 22, 2012 10:27
      That cock ring does not look as though it would work- but I think I am imagining it to be bigger than it actually is.
      I like to wear a blindfold during sex, the dark helps me concentrate on feeling rather than seeing more than anything :)
    • Lovehoney Nicole: October 22, 2012 15:17
      DNhoneyrider, if you do decide to try one of the floor photos, please send us a picture!
    • JDW: October 22, 2012 16:14
      TORblimey, I like the look of the hipster bike! ha!

    • Kate s: October 22, 2012 17:59
      Wow! £79 for a cock ring! That's a lot... Would love the chance to see if it's worth it. Promise to review if I win!
    • Rebecca R: October 22, 2012 19:05
      My husband has always liked kinky sex but 50 Shades of Grey has just given him more ideas on what to do to me. I'm not complaining though ;-)
    • Charlie Kiss: October 22, 2012 20:59
      OoO O me likey :) please can i have!! and just reading through totally agree about what you have to say on the fifty shades of grey book ;) Just wish i could get my fella to read so he could understand better - maybe I'll have to show him :p

      xXx mwaaa peace lovers

    • Amy: October 22, 2012 22:44
      I think Fifty Shades has done a lot of good for both women and men across the world.
      In my office alone, more people are being open about the things they like & dislike in the bedroom - it is certainly making a more interesting working week!
      I think it can only be good that people are more willing to experiment with sex - it should be fun, it should be enjoyable for all parties.
      I can't wait for the film!!!!
    • Silverdrop: October 23, 2012 01:03
      I like the idea of the "Make Love Not Porn" site, but I have to wonder how the site will keep out the professionals that pretend to be making "amateur" porn. I have nothing against professional porn, but when I'm looking for amateur, I want amateur!
    • Wolf Simpson: October 23, 2012 01:09
      Oh I love to win this to pleasure my beloved. ;-)
    • Brittany: October 23, 2012 01:54
      Love the bit about relationships working out of one night stands!! Going on month 9 of a serious relationship with a boy that I had a one night stand with a year and a half ago. It can totally be done women!! Maybe not recommended but definitely not impossible :D
    • Riina: October 23, 2012 11:30
      Hmm, maybe I should give Fifty Shades a go after all - I have been put off by so many people saying it's a little tame and not so well written. If it works, though...
    • mamee: October 23, 2012 16:11
      make love not porn is a fantastic website ! <3
    • david: October 23, 2012 19:14
      i naver had a Cock Ring befor but i love to have one
    • denice: October 24, 2012 19:54
      I would love to make my husbands cock ring with the Lelo on a lilo here in Spain!!!
    • steve: October 24, 2012 19:57
      I would love my wife to `` put a Lelo ring on it `` (Beyonce)
    • BBG: October 24, 2012 21:03
      Wow, never read the blog before, I'll be up all night going back through previous posts, interesting stuff
    • SelectZen: October 25, 2012 00:06
      This looks amazing. We own a few lelo toys like the Iris and Gigi but would love to add one of these to our collection :-)
    • kathryn: October 25, 2012 11:25
      each to their own but poly not for me - im too selfish lol.

      would love a lelo toy though

    • Ness: October 25, 2012 13:38
      Another fab news round-up =)

      I think Hella's post is very informative too.

      Still don't own a silicone rechargeable cock ring, crazy I know!

    • Al Doc: October 25, 2012 17:51
      Despite being of advanced age, I am always finding out now things on this site!.
      Happy days and keen to explore more happy nights also with new "twists" to intimacy.

      Good luck everyone.

    • lou: October 25, 2012 23:48
      Me and OH started as a one night stand, and we're open to trying pretty much anything now! We enjoy watching porn but we do agree with the "make love not porn" thing and that it gives a false representation of "real" sex, we counteract it by making our own "pornos" and watching them back! definitely more fun than real porn!
    • Rose: October 26, 2012 17:07
      Ooh the cock ring sure looks nice and much more better then those one use ones! Sure would love one of those to try with my bf!
    • Kirstie Vaughan: October 28, 2012 14:30
      every toy I own is from Love Honey :) Really would like to win this :)
    • LandC: October 29, 2012 10:26
      Ooo. Lelo things just look so sexy. I've recently bought the pleasure bead system and its just so classy! Need to put my review up soon.
      The idea of the 50 shades toy range is appealing, but I'm worried that the products won't be as good as other more established toys but, because of the link to 50 shades, the price will be whacked up - I do hope not though. Although a 50 shades box would be good, with the toys featured in each book - maybe with the book or extracts where each toy is used.
      I love the idea of make love not porn. My oh and I will occasionally watch porn - I find it gets me in the mood more and obviously he likes it, but he is much more into real sex so that would be good for him.
      Hopefully my body will stop hating me soon and we'll be able to get cosy on a cold, dark winters night (would be helped by the wonderful giveaway you're doing *hint**hint*)
    • JxExM: October 29, 2012 22:49
      Firstly, what a lovely luxury prize :o)

      I really think that non-monogamous relationships can be beneficial for some and my partner and I have discussed it as an option for us in the future. It would have to be very openly and honestly discussed but I think sharing our lives with another person would have a positive influence on our relationship.

      50 shades of grey really disappointmented me. I felt it was too tame, badly written and I grew fed up with the two characters falling out and making up again over the same things. I'm told this goes on throughout the next two books as well.
      I have been reading erotic fiction for a few years and have read much better stories in the past, many for free online. However, credit where its due; 50 shades must have had an amazing marketing strategy and has made erotic fiction much more acceptable to the masses, making sex less of a "hush hush" subject amongst many women.

    • Redkitsune: October 30, 2012 08:28
      Congratulations to the last round of winners!
      I love that I have a new word of the day - amaurophilia. I must try to use it at least once in a conversation today! :P
    • Alice: October 31, 2012 14:10
    • Jane saunders: November 08, 2012 13:22
      This could be just the job for my gorgeous man to try. Sounds powerful and looks good.