1. Sapiosexuality, the Human Mating Season and an Island Called Dildo: Lovehoney's Week in Sex News

    Anyone for Coffee?

    Working with sex toys every day means strange and enlightening things pass ours desk regularly (the Jack Boot Spanking Paddle springs to mind) but at least once a day we'll see something that makes us exclaim "Well that's quite interesting…".

    Bearing that in mind, we decided to round up the best writing on the web about sex, sexuality, relationships and, of course, sex toys for your enjoyment this dreary August Bank Holiday.

    So grab a cup of coffee and a comfy seat and indulge in some lazy bank holiday reading (and viewing).

    Here's what we've been talking about this week…

    Photo by ruffledsheets.

    • We’ve just found out that there’s a island called Dildo off the coast of Canada - sounds like an ideal holiday destination to us! Who's up for exploring Barry's Cove?
    • Over on BlogHer, they're pondering the question: Do Humans Have a Mating Season? Check out the blog for a full and in-depth analysis, but for the executive summary: “It looks like there's a six-month cycle, and the 'vacation and holiday effect' is in force.”
    • According to our recent survey (Think You’re Noisy in the Bedroom? You’re Not Alone…) 94% of women feel they are louder than their partners in bed. There are many theories behind why this may be, and this interesting wiki article on Female Copulatory Vocalization explores a number of them (the article does presume a male-female pairing, we wonder if there’s any research about female copulatory vocalization in lesbian relationships?).
    • This week, we were discussing being sapiosexual on the Lovehoney forum. Sapiosexuality is the idea that intelligence is the single most important factor in sexual attraction to another person - and everything else falls into an order after that. Check out the thread.

    • And finally, as it's a bank holiday and Nicole and I are working, we thought we'd run a special competition to give us a warm glow. We'll be giving away a TENGA Red Flip Hole (worth £69.99) - all you need to do is leave us a comment on to enter. Our winner has now been picked - congratulations Tap Sum Bong!

    Comments (41)

    • Phillip Allen: August 27, 2012 12:43
      Nice little round up, the sapiosexual piece was very interesting. Now, when do I win?
    • Badgirlbites: August 27, 2012 12:46
      Hi to all at Lh ,It's not nice having to spend bh in the office.I must say I absolutely loved the wonderland video very clever.I wouldnt want to fall down that hole lol.My favourite has to be the Kinky kat he's cute and I like the shape.The pleasurepillar came a very very close second again I love the shape it's different to anything else I've seen.
    • sexy little minx: August 27, 2012 12:51
      So who is all going to Dildo for their holidays? Can count me in!
    • Marisha Chaplin: August 27, 2012 12:51
      Genuinely wouldnt mind any of those :) x
    • Abi: August 27, 2012 12:53
      The wonderland collection looks so cute, especially the kinky cat! I think I'm probs hornier during summer and winter too!
    • Cheryl Gauden: August 27, 2012 13:01
      very intrested being a beginner fab blog a island called dildo sounds intresting
    • Hellkat: August 27, 2012 13:13
      Fab blog you should be very proud, and I have the pleasure pillar its super cute and knows just how I like it lol
    • Gordon Elcock: August 27, 2012 13:15
      All looks absolutely fascinating for a bonk holiday read
    • terry harrington: August 27, 2012 13:27
      wow that looks so nice
      in red as well my favorite colour
      i bet that brings you off quite nicely yum yum
    • gunther: August 27, 2012 13:35
      I think the article on a human mating season didn't give enough significance to the fact people have holidays in winter and summer. I believe people get married in summer because the sun shines not because of a change in libido.

      The Doc Johnson toys look good but the colours are a bit garish, at least the packaging looks nice.

      I am surprised any men are noiser than their partners (if our neighbours are anything to go by.

    • Kelly: August 27, 2012 13:44
      I want to holiday on dildo just to see the inlaws faces when I tell then where I'm taking their son on holiday lol
    • Tap Sum Bong: August 27, 2012 13:59
      IN place names, there's a place called Minge Cove, also across the 'pond' =)

      And I would also think, as a general thing, women are more vocal than men. I have yet to read an article (see todays papers about a couple being arrested for their noisy bonking sessions!) where a man has had to be told to quieten down. It may be out there, but I've not yet read it.

      And as for the DJ toys . . Well. I'd have to have a bash at the Pleasurepillar, and actually have a G spot toy for our bedroom box!

      And intelligence as being a sexual attractant?

      You have to ask though, you notice someone, across the room/club/work, and you don't think 'mmmm Nice intelligence' do you? you will probably check him/her out (backside, breasts, face, general appearance) it's only when you speak to that person, do you actually realise if they're any good at stringing a sentence together.

      Personally, IQ, although a nice thing to have, doesn't rate high on my list. I'd prefer a good personality more. But hey, that's just me!

    • princess: August 27, 2012 14:08
      Love Love Love the Wabbit and heart, just too damn cute! X
    • Jessica Krupenie: August 27, 2012 14:45
      Very interesting indeed.
    • Ian: August 27, 2012 14:51
      White Wabbit - I can think of a few wabbit holes this could disappear into!
      Pleasurepillar - wiggle, wiggle, wiggle!
      Mystical Mushroom - well they do like warm, wet places!
      Kinky Cat - so that's why Cheshire cats have such big grins!
      Heavenly Heart - now I can be sure my heart's in the right place!
    • Heather Smith: August 27, 2012 15:08
      Very enjoyable read, made my tea break so much more interesting.
    • mark Purdy: August 27, 2012 15:17
      Tenga, very nice prize, sorry to hear your slaving away at work on a bank holiday.
    • Fizzy: August 27, 2012 15:18
      The wonderland video looks great I love the cat vibrator! I like the news round up idea ts been a good read.
    • Nymeria: August 27, 2012 15:54
      Ooh, love the photo by Ruffledsheets!

      You can't beat the cheeky Kinky Kat! Would have been more interested if it had more power though.

      Good luck everyone. =)

    • AliMc: August 27, 2012 16:17
      I think the Kinky Cat is the most visually appealing of the new vibes but I imagine the Pleasurepillar would be the most effective in use.
    • Michelle: August 27, 2012 16:32
      I'd love the Pleasurepillar - it looks so cute!!! xx
    • Mr S: August 27, 2012 17:03
      Think I'd rather go to Brest than Dildo Island :)
    • MrGreyLover: August 27, 2012 17:08
      The Island Dildo sounds fun :P x
    • Cherry__Leopard: August 27, 2012 17:09
      Wow! The Kinky Cat and Pleasurepillar definitely look like my cup of tea!
      Currently looking into booking flights to Canada .... Island dildo sounds too good to miss :P
    • True Pleasures: August 27, 2012 17:14
      Love the photo!

      Dildo Island looks like a rather nice place to visit, although I'd probably be sniggering whenever I'd have to say where I'm going/where I went on vacation.

      I remember you bringing up the mating season question on Twitter. Really, it seems only natural that we would have a mating season. Afterall, women do go into heat, although it's not as obvious in our species than in others. After I had suspected myself of a cycle of horniness, I decided to do a little research:


      As for being louder in bed, I know I am. My husband has said I'm a screamer. I'm not that loud... lol I may be noisy, but I doubt the neighbors can hear me.

      The topic of intelligence relating to sexual attraction is interesting. I remember, when I was just dating my husband, I had thought he was the smarter one. After a couple of years of living together, I've found out otherwise and it's been very trying with my patience. And, of course, sexual desire goes down the tube when I'm annoyed at him for doing something stupid. If he does/says something smart, though, that doesn't necessarily mean I'll be all over him. I guess I fell more for the geeky look and personality, because I didn't exactly get the geek brains to go with it.

      The Kinky Kat is adorable, but I can't help thinking I'd need to get a toothbrush out every time I'd need to clean it. All those little nooks and crannies...

    • Satoshi: August 27, 2012 17:24
      After visiting Dildo, you could plan a trip to one of these places:

      Wank, Germany - Intercourse, USA - Fucking, Austria

      Erect, USA - Long Dong, China - Climax, USA

      Anus, France - Beaver Lick, USA - Cockplay, Scotland

      Condom, France - Bald Knob, USA - Muff, Ireland

      And if you are brave enough, you could always try the Reckturm Torture Tower in Salzburg...

    • Mr C: August 27, 2012 17:54
      Not sure about the mating season unless it lasts 365 days a year.
    • Imogen: August 27, 2012 18:17
      I do love the look of the Wonderland vibrators, especially the Wabbit :)
    • Wild172: August 27, 2012 18:22
      Just working on bank holiday deserves a round of applause! The Wonderland toys look great but really not sure how they will work?
    • Badgirlbites: August 27, 2012 19:12
      The sapiosexuality article was very interesting to say the least.Personally I think the summer,winter scenario is more fiction than fact.I have 3 children first born was December,secon in august,third in September.Obviously more couples tend to stay in more during the winter months because it's to cold,therefore spend more alone time together hence more sex.and it's also been proven that people use up more energy when it's cold so therefore are more likely to feel to tired after work to go out.As for summer people are more highly sexed due to an increase of vitamin D from the sun.in general majority of people are on a high when the weather is warm ,theres also an increase of alcohol consumption leading to a higher libido and lots of sex.Im not to sure about the noise difference between the male and female species I think that all depends on how good a partner you have lol.well I enjoyed the read and I must add I thought the pic of the lips by the coffee cup was hilarious well done for that .x
    • sinmanbones: August 27, 2012 19:19
      can wait to try and have some personal lips service,cant wait to win thanks for running the competition !
    • Graham Simpson: August 27, 2012 19:26
      Dunno about mating seasons for humans, mines 24/7, 365 days a yr & includes leap yr. Love to win a Tenga Flip, it'll help my days when on me own. Love the new Wonderland range, so want a White Rabbit for my partners pleasure, shame there's none for men to explore our holes. ;-)
    • Hazy: August 27, 2012 19:44
      definitely want to holiday in Dildo! I've been at work all bank holiday and could do with a break :)
      loving the wonderland toys too :)
    • GeoScotland: August 27, 2012 21:34
      Like the video, love the look of the toys. Sure my wife would enjoy.
    • Kasumi: August 27, 2012 23:07
      "Dildo Island is the largest of three islands located at the entrance to Dildo Arm"

      Dildo arm, would that mean this? ;-)

    • SubReiSkyeM: August 27, 2012 23:50
      What an awesome photograph! I do hope you sent it in to ToyWithMeTuesday!
    • Abots: August 27, 2012 23:59
      That sapiosexuality thread is very interesting! Somebody made a good point here that you can't check out someones intelligence but you can with looks.
    • Michelle Gregory: August 28, 2012 00:00
      Thanks for hosting this giveaway. I hope to win.
    • Gerard V: August 28, 2012 07:52
      Dildo island, where it's always wet. Lucky theirs not a renga or fleshlight island as well!
    • Ms K: August 28, 2012 07:58
      The wonderland collection looks so cool!
    • Lovehoney - Alice: August 28, 2012 08:23
      @SubReiSkyeM - The photo is incredible, isn't it? I love it! It was taken by ruffledsheets (see the credit in the main blog post) who is a sex blogger and I believe it has been a ToywithmeTuesday in the past :-)