Are You 30 or 46? Then You're Probably Having The Best Sex Of Your Life...
Our Best Sex Survey asked you about the frequency and quality of sex you’ve had over your lifetime.
The results are in, and it’s good news if you’re approaching the big 3-0. On average, people had the best sex of their lives at the age of 30.
But that’s not the end of the story…
Quality, not quantity
Of the 1,281 people who responded, 40% of people believe they are having the best sex of their lives right now, with 78% saying it’s been within the past 5 years.
However, only 17% of people say they’re having the most sex of their lives right now. So although the majority people are having less sex right now than at the peak of their sex lives, on the whole they think that the sex they’re having is better quality.
For most people, the best sex of their lives did not happen when they were having it most.
On average, people had the best sex of their lives a whole three and a half years later than the most sex of their lives. Maybe practice does make perfect?
Good things come to those who wait…
On average, people had to wait 13 years after losing their virginity before having the best sex of their lives. The wait for great sex was longer for men at 15 years, while it took women 11 years to have the best sex of their lives after the first time.
Assuming both partners lost their virginity at 17, the average age for this survey, does this mean the perfect age gap for ultimate male-female sexual compatibility is three years?
On average, people have to wait 13 years after losing their virginity before having the best sex of their lives.
The survey highlighted a shift towards losing virginity earlier. Interestingly the average age of virginity loss was 17 for those in their 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s, but those in their 60s waited until they were 18. On average, those aged under 20 were almost two years younger than those in their 60s when they lost their virginity, having sex for the first time when a few months shy of the legal age of 16.
… and the best is yet to come
But even though most people think they are, are we really having the best sex of our lives?
As Dr Brooke Magnanti (otherwise known as Belle de Jour) explained in her book The Sex Myth, “people [are] not only living longer lives, but healthier ones too, [with] the expectation of continuing to have fulfilling sex”.
People in their 50s and 60s said they had their best sex when they were 46.
When we looked at the responses from people in their 50s and 60s, who were therefore able to look back over a longer lifetime, we found that they had their best sex at the age of 46.
Sexual happiness is key
Although there is a definite peak for frequency of sex, quality of sex tends to be perceived to be best in a person’s present, or their recent past. It's heartening to know that people are making the effort to keep sexual happiness and satisfaction on the agenda throughout their lifetime.
This complex and fascinating topic is very subjective and working on averages simply can’t take into account the variety of relationship types and lengths that could impact on frequency and quality of sex. We also know that Lovehoney customers, who mostly own at least one sex toy, are twice as likely to say they’re satisfied with their sex life (Prescient research) in the first place than non-sex toy owners. But, we hope this will prompt some interesting conversation and show that the best does not have to be behind you.
Thanks to everyone who took part!