I've always had lots of one night stands and can't commit. Will this always be the case?
It sounds like you may be addicted to the thrill and conquest of new lovers.
I am 28 and getting concerned about my ability to commit. I’ve always had lots of one-night stands (I’ve slept with over sixty guys) and my relationships only last a few weeks because I get restless.
This has suited me fine so far, but suddenly all my mates are settling down and starting families, and I don’t want to be the odd one out. Will I ever lose this need to go out with new guys? I’m worried I’ll always end up being unfaithful and guilty.
You obviously haven’t met the right guy for you yet, and I’m sure when you do, you’ll feel different about committing to him - and staying faithful. Or maybe you’re not ready to settle down, but feel you ought to try, in order to keep up with your friends?
I sense that there’s a bigger issue going on here though, as it sounds like you may be addicted to the thrill and conquest of constant new lovers. Although this may be fulfilling on one level, it’s also stopping you forming any real or lasting bonds.
There’s nothing wrong with having a high sex drive, but if you feel your love life is getting out of control, you may want to get some professional help. Go to www.slaauk.com (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous) or www.sauk.org (Sexaholics Anonymous UK & Ireland). It isn’t easy to admit to sexual addiction, especially for women, but they offer confidential mixed or women-only meetings, where you can share experiences and gain valuable insights.