My boyfriend thinks I'm unhappy with our sex life as I'm shy in the bedroom. How can I reassure him?
Not by thrashing about and screaming - and pretending to be something you're not!
I am quite a shy person and tend not to go overboard about anything really. This is also how I am in the bedroom, and although I am the silent type I do enjoy myself!
My new boyfriend can’t seem to believe I am happy though, because I don’t express my satisfaction vocally. Apparently every other girlfriend has been very noisy in bed and he likes that. How can I reassure him but still be true to myself?
Not by thrashing about and screaming - and pretending to be something you’re not! I wonder if your boyfriend is quite noisy himself and he’s unnerved that you’re not joining in - or maybe he wants all the neighbours to know how much he drives his women wild?!
Seriously, he may be unsettled by your silence because he needs more feedback, in which case it’s a good idea to indicate when he’s getting it right - but only turn up your volume to a level that’s comfortable for you.
You could also practise being more vocal when you’re alone. If you experiment with making sounds when you’re touching yourself, you’ll find it becomes easier to express yourself that way when you’re with him.