I am worried that my boyfriend is anorexic and is denying he has a problem. What can I do?
I realise how concerned you are, but nagging him to eat will only continue to be counter-productive.
My boyfriend is getting thinner each week and I’m worried that he’s anorexic. When we first got together a year ago he had biceps and was slim but strong, and now he’s really skinny and weedy looking, even though he exercises all the time.
I don’t fancy him so much anymore. He’s always been a fussy eater but it’s got much worse recently. He gets really stressed and just denies it when I question him (he says blokes don’t get anorexia) but he’s also resisting every attempt I make to fatten him up. I’m 36 and he’s 29.
Poor guy - you talk about him like he’s a turkey you’re plumping up for Christmas! I think the fact you’re a few years older than him is relevant, as it sounds like he might be a little intimidated by you?
I realise how concerned you are, but nagging him to eat will only continue to be counter-productive - a gentler, less critical approach will enable him to open up and share his anxieties more readily.
Both anorexia and bulimia are by no means an exclusively female problem, and it does sound like your boyfriend may have some food issues he needs help with. Let him know he has your unconditional love and support, and encourage him to get proper treatment from his doctor, or an organisation such as Beating Eating Disorders on 0845 634 1414 (www.b-eat.co.uk)