My new man is very good in bed but I feel boring in comparison. What can I do?
Why not tell him you’d like to give him as much pleasure as he gives you?
I’m 28 and I’ve only ever had one boyfriend who I met when I was 21. We parted recently because we just grew apart and we hardly ever had sex. I now have a new bloke who wants to do it every night, but I feel like I'm boring in bed as I don’t have much experience. He’s very good in bed and only wants to make me happy, but do you have some hints on how to make it hotter for him?
Lucky you - it sounds as though you’ve struck gold - enjoy every minute! I’m sure your new bloke doesn’t think you’re boring, in fact he probably finds your limited experience gives him the opportunity to open up whole new sexual horizons for you!
Obviously pay lots of attention to his penis, and find out what stimulation he enjoys most. And always remember he needs your hand, and mouth, to be as wet as possible, so if your saliva isn’t too forthcoming, increase the pleasure - for you both - by using a flavoured lube.
Also listen carefully for any clues about what he finds erotic - is he into sexy lingerie/sex toys/unusual locations? Having a couple of surprises up your sleeve will empower you, and help redress the balance. For instance, a place often neglected on a man’s body (even by men!) is the spongy area between the back of the scrotum and the anus, called the perineum.
Using two fingers, apply a firm upward pressure here - or massage quite strongly - whilst paying attention to his penis manually or orally. This will stimulate the prostate externally, greatly enhancing his pleasure. Practise till you find the level of pressure and preferred ‘hot spot’ that work for him.
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