I have been using vibrators for years but my new man isn't into sex toys. What can I do?
Try and get him to view it as a toy for both of you to enjoy.
I have been buying vibrators for the last few years and they have saved my life! I have now met a new guy but he just isn't into sex toys. He can't understand why I need a vibe when I have him but it's not that simple! What can I say to put his mind at rest?
You need to explain that there’s no way any battery-powered friend is in competition with him. Say you’d prefer his handiwork, but a vibrator can be a practical help sometimes.
The majority of women need clitoral stimulation to climax and it’s tricky for even the most dexterous of lovers to always keep their finger on the button, so to speak, during intercourse.
Try and get him to view it as a toy for both of you to enjoy. Remember that the sight of a woman coming is a huge turn-on for a man, and a vibrator can also save time if it’s a quickie, as they can take you to your happy place with minimum effort for him.
You could also invest in a vibrating cock ring such as the Tracey Cox Supersex Silicone Love Ring so you both benefit from the buzz, or persuade him to let you try your vibe on him. Gently massage his nipples and perineum (the padded area of skin between his scrotum and anus – a major erogenous zone) and that might get him more interested! Vibes feel good - whatever the gender.
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