1. Lubrication, Lubrication, Lubrication - Say Goodbye To Vaginal Dryness Today!

    Lubrication, Lubrication, Lubrication - Say Goodbye To Vaginal Dryness Today!

    Just because you're not wet it doesn’t mean you’re not interested. A little lubrication can go a long way in improving your sex life.

    Vaginal dryness can be caused by many factors - it’s a very common condition that affects most women at some point in their lives. And just because you’re not wet it doesn’t mean you’re not interested. It’s also possible to be dripping one minute and then weirdly dry the next (this often happens after climaxing).

    The amount of natural lubrication a woman produces varies according to oestrogen levels, and can be affected by your menstrual cycle, childbirth, breastfeeding or the menopause.

    As a woman matures, it also takes longer for her to become aroused, and her lubrication is not so acidic (which can make her more susceptible to vaginal and urinary tract infections, like cystitis).

    Medications like antihistamines, antidepressants and the Pill, together with your stress levels and how much you drink and smoke, can also have an influence.

    Adding saliva to your own juices is a help, but spit dries out quickly when it’s exposed to air, so keep a glass of water nearby to moisten your mouth. Better still, invest in one of the umpteen specially formulated personal lubricants now on the market - these can transform painful intercourse into slippery bliss, and they’re great for pleasuring both of you.

    ID Glide Lube Squeeze Bottle 155mlTop tip! Sometimes the idea of using lubricant can make a man feel uncomfortable - he may wonder why he isn’t enough to turn you on, and feel insulted that you should need any extra help. Spare him the biology lecture - you don’t want to spoil the mood.

    Instead massage his bruised ego with the following advice from ex-call girl Tracy Quan: “Tell him he’s more, ahem, challenging than average. You really need that extra lube to keep things comfy, because you’re not accustomed to a man of his hugely impressive dimensions.”

    The Greatest Sex Tips in the WorldRefreshingly frank and funny, actress and presenter Julie Peasgood delivers practical information to transform your sex life. The Greatest Sex Tips in the World explores the world of eroticism, revealing secrets and techniques that will energise and enhance your enjoyment.

    Comments (5)

    • Alicia D'amore: August 18, 2010 02:25
      I can't quite believe what I'm reading...lie to your partner to spare his blushes? Really? Maybe that would be a good idea with a one night stand or casual shag, but a long term partner who you love and trust should be lied to?

      And anyway...there is nothing wrong with vaginal dryness...lying implies that there is, when in reality, surely it's better to educate people that it's not problem?

    • LivingFire: August 18, 2010 02:57
      I'm afraid I'm inclined to agree with Alicia here, Julie. I don't buy Tracy's advice at all - as Alicia mentioned, maybe for a one night stand etc, or in Tracy's former line of work - but in a relationship? Honesty is the best policy and surely someone who you're dating should be able to handle his/her girlfriend having vaginal dryness problems?

      Sorry, it just seems a little... dated and unnecessary.

      LF x

    • Tigerlilies: August 20, 2010 17:57
      Yep, I think a lot of readers aren't going to appreciate 'Spare him the biology lecture - you don’t want to spoil the mood.' Very few women will be inclined to 'lecture.' What is more likely, is that the woman in question will be insecure about bringing this issue up. I can also think of something worse than a biology lecture: a woman who shuts up and has painful sex because she doesn't want to 'rock the boat.'

      There's a grey area between 'lecturing' and dressing up your needs to shelter your man's ego.

      I've had a few points in my life where painkillers have made lube a necessity. It was really simple and easy for a man to accept that I needed it because he placed his concern for my welfare way above any qualms he had about his mister-lover-lover potential. And I didn't have to wrap it up in 'you're so big and mighty' package that most men would raise an eyebrow too.

      If a man feels differently, don't worry about how to make it less awkward for him, just start sleeping with grown ups instead.

    • KittyPurry: August 21, 2010 11:15
      I also agree lying sends out totally the wrong message. You don't have to give him a biology lecture, in fact during sex I don't see why you have to say anything at all - just whip out some lube, slather it all over him, then you then hop on! I can't see any man being upset or intimidated by a lubed up hand job and a voyeuristic peek at you rubbing yourself before sex! If it's an ongoing problem maybe just mention it but that's all it really merits - a mention. "Hunny my homones sometimes stop me getting wet even when I'm really turned on, why don't we pick out some different lubes to try together next time it happens?" It might be a bit annoying but thanks to lube dryness is not a hinderance to great sex. Why make it a big weird secret by pretending it's not happening?
    • Julie P: September 01, 2010 16:32
      Hi everyone - you’re absolutely right about the Tracy Quan advice. Anyone who’s read my answers here and elsewhere will know (I hope) that I’m a big advocate not only of lubricant, but also honesty with a partner.

      I was being slightly tongue-in-cheek here (as I think Tracy Quan was) but on reflection, it would probably have been more appropriate just to reiterate the value of both the above. Thanks for your feedback though - it's always appreciated. Love Julie x

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