My girlfriend has a low libido but mine is high. Are there drugs available that increase libidos?
You’ll be pleased to hear that help is on the way for your girlfriend… but unfortunately it’ll probably be another 18 months before ‘Flibanserin’ is with us.
My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly three years. Ever since I have known her she has been on anti depressants - Effexor. These drugs virtually remove her libido whereas I have always had a high sex drive.
I am starting to become drained of trying to get her excited. Consequently, we don't have sex very often. She has never orgasmed with me and, when she uses a vibrator, she needs it on really high for at least 10 minutes.
We have tried taking ginko, tried different sex toys but to no avail. If there are drugs out there that reduce libidos, there must be something that increases them! We have thought about taking Viagra - both of us. What do you think.
You’ll be pleased to hear that help is on the way for your girlfriend… but unfortunately it’ll probably be another 18 months before ‘Flibanserin’ is with us. This is the pill that was originally developed as an antidepressant, but was later discovered to have libido-boosting side effects - and it’s now being hailed as the new ‘female Viagra’ (and interestingly Viagra was originally intended as a remedy for high-blood pressure).
What Viagra does is help a man’s ‘engineering’ - it relaxes the blood vessels in the penis, which allows blood to flow into the penis, causing an erection. It will only help your erection if you’re already aroused though - it’s not something that increases your sex drive, so in that sense it won’t help.
However it also gets blood flowing to a woman’s genitals, so it may help women who are suffering a loss of sensation, dryness or difficulty climaxing - but it’s very important to stress that Viagra isn’t licensed for use with women, and it hasn’t been proved to be safe for women to take.
Has your girlfriend tried a topical treatment (for her clitoris) like the Flower Power Lip Balm Orgasm Booster or Durex Play O? These will make her vulva more sensitive, which should send all kinds of racy signals to her brain - definitely worth a go. It might be worth her investing in the Hitachi Magic Wand too - it’s the big guns vibe-wise, and it doesn’t take no for an answer…
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