I've just bought an anal dildo but I'm having trouble finding my P-spot. Any tips?
The prostate is small, highly sensitive and well tucked away, so you’re far more likely to ‘hit the spot’ with a specialist toy.
I have recently bought an anal dildo from Lovehoney to try and explore and enjoy prostrate stimulation. Can you give me some tips on finding this?
I can't seem to get the dildo in the right position and also it's a little uncomfortable. I use lots of baby oil.
An anal dildo may be an enjoyable toy at some point, but for discovering and exploring the prostate, you’re not doing yourself any favours. I’m not surprised it’s uncomfortable - it’s far too big! This is a case where - as so often - size isn’t everything. The prostate is small, highly sensitive and well tucked away, so you’re far more likely to ‘hit the spot’ with a specialist toy designed for the job.
The safest and most effective is the Aneros MGX Prostate Massager. It’s a simple plastic device, not much bigger than a finger, with a curly T-bar to rest snugly against the perineum (and to avoid any risk of it disappearing upwards). It was originally invented as a medical massage aid to promote better anorectal health, but it’s now also widely enjoyed for the intense sexual pleasure it offers.
Like learning anything new, patience will reap benefits. Follow the instructions and go slowly. The beauty of it is that once inserted, it settles into the correct position simply by you rythmically contracting and relaxing your sphincter muscles - there’s no need for any pulling or pushing.
You should find the Aneros far less invasive than a dildo, but far more satisfying, as it’s designed specifically to touch and gently massage the prostate. This creates deeply satisfying sensations, which with practice can extend to ‘P-spot’ or ‘Super-O’ orgasms, (widely discussed in the Aneros users’ forum).
Finally, don’t use baby oil. Choose a thicker, water-based lubricant, preferably one made specially for anal use - and keep re-applying it.
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