Five steps to squirting... the secret of female ejaculation revealed!
Locating your G-spot (yes, it does exist!) can open up a whole new and orgasmic world of pleasure. The next step is to discover how to enjoy a G-spot orgasm… and then ejaculate.
Female ejaculation is not a myth. It may only be about 10% of women who have the ability to do it (and the jury is still out about exactly what the fluid is) but it certainly isn't an embarrassing display of orgasm-induced incontinence. Clinical analysis has revealed that although it's expelled from the urethra, it is in fact the female equivalent of prostatic fluid. So it's similar to male ejaculate - slippery in consistency, but clear or only slightly milky in colour, and obviously minus the sperm content!
Enjoy the learning process
I've given details about how to locate your G-spot in my tip Elusive but Effusive… how to find your G-spot. This is the type of orgasm that produces female ejaculate, although you can, of course, have a G-spot orgasm and not ejaculate. The important thing with all sexual exploration is to avoid putting performance pressure on yourself and just enjoy the learning process.
Grab a towel
When the spot is first touched it can be uncomfortable, because you will feel the need to pee, even if you've already emptied your bladder. You won't wet the bed I promise, but for peace of mind you might want to conduct any initial explorations with a towel underneath you. The urge to go to the loo will soon be replaced by a deeply satisfying sensation if you continue stimulation.
It helps to be feeling as turned on as possible, as the G-spot swells when it's aroused. It responds well to firm pressure, so start by stroking it gently and build up, using a circular, or a 'come here' beckoning motion. Better still, get your lover to do the massaging, especially if they can go down on you at the same time. It helps to stimulate your clitoris manually whilst using a vibrator specifically designed for G-spot massage - a good one is the Lovehoney Jessica Rabbit 2.0 G-Spot Vibrator which will guarantee the consistent pressure you need.
Doggy-style or on top?
If you're making love, the best positions are doggy-style and woman on top. It can be trial and error getting the exact angle for his penis to induce your orgasm - and smaller members are actually better for the purpose. (Told you big isn't always best.)
Get your guy in on the act
If you're a guy who's keen to help your woman ejaculate, you can give her a helping hand by stimulating her G-spot quite vigorously. With your palm face down on her pubic bone, keep your index and little fingers pointing straight downwards and your two middle fingers hooked up inside her vagina, then use a firm up and down motion. Make sure she's OK with this, and always remember to use loads of lube.
Congratulations… you're ready to squirt!
A G-spot climax can take some time to achieve, but it's worth the wait - it's an extreme, dramatic, limb-tingling experience - whether you ejaculate or not. And if you bear down, pushing your PC muscles out rather than clenching them in, just as you're about to come, then you'll increase your chances of squirting - and amazing your significant other. Congratulations! That towel might come in handy after all…
Refreshingly frank and funny, actress and presenter Julie Peasgood delivers practical information to transform your sex life. The Greatest Sex Tips in the World explores the world of eroticism, revealing secrets and techniques that will energise and enhance your enjoyment.