Lisa Turner's Top Tips for Living Orgasmically
The entirety of June is orgasm month here at Lovehoney and what better way to celebrate than with some top tips from Lisa Turner - the UK's first Orgasm Coach.
Using some special techniques and your own personal energy, you can learn to not only enjoy longer, more intense orgasms but use the energy they create to lead a more fulfilling life too.
We caught up with Lisa and asked her to give us her top tips for living orgasmically:
Lisa Turner: An orgasm is just for relief right? Sexual tension increases until you feel compelled to do something about it, and then you masturbate or have sex to achieve that orgasmic relief. But are there other things you can do with your orgasm and sexual energy?
We put in so much effort for that 30 seconds of bliss but have you ever wondered if there could be more to it or wished you could make it last?
What would it be like if you could maintain that state of bliss and feel energised and enlivened by it all the time?
Remember that peak moment of ecstasy just before you come. Imagine being able to sustain that for longer and longer. That is what you can learn to do with Orgasm Coaching.
And when you do learn this, you become magnetically attractive to everyone - after all, we are all intrinsically attracted to energy and this is what people mean when they talk about "chemistry".
Here are some things you can do to harness your orgasmic energy in the bedroom and beyond:
Suppress it. I don't recommend this in the long term, but next time you are feeling a little aroused simply delay gratification for a few hours or even days and notice how other people react to you. Make sure you don't suppress your sexual energy for too long though as it will eventually demand release and it might do so at a time that is not convenient or appropriate. Too much suppressed energy will always leak out somewhere!
Delay your orgasm. I recommend this to all my clients. Next time you make love or masturbate, when you reach that moment just when you think you are going to come - hands off! Take a few very deep breaths, and then continue. Once you master this technique you are ready to learn one that will move energy up your body and turn into an amazing full body orgasm! Master your orgasm first, then ride it.
Not only that, but simply delaying your orgasm will eventually have you gagging for it so that when you do come - it will be excruciatingly pleasurable!
Surrender. Once you have delayed your orgasm several times it's time to treat yourself. Surrender to the pleasure and be fully conscious of every pulsing wave of bliss as it moves up your body. As you begin your orgasm contract your pelvic muscles. By holding that contraction, your orgasm will last even longer - which is why I give my students exercises to tone these muscles ready for the intense full body orgasm.
Transmute your orgasm. This is an advanced technique that I teach my clients once they have mastered the basics. As you begin your orgasm you start to move the sensation upwards.
You spin and cycle the bliss, energy and orgasmic pleasure pulses up your body. You will feel it in your back, your heart, your mind, your fingertips and even your hair will feel like it is coming too! As you continue to practice this full body orgasm technique you never return down to the normal post orgasm low. You stay on that orgasmic high for longer and longer.
There are other advantages beyond the orgasm too - when you begin to live orgasmically you become calmer, more balanced, and more secure in yourself and as a result become more confident and charismatic. Others will wonder what it is about you, and you can choose to keep or share your secret.