My wife (of 19 years) and I would like to know more about talking dirty. What do you suggest?
Talking dirty during sex can be a fantastic turn-on, and communicating with your partner about what specifically arouses you will bring you both closer.
I'm a married man in my forties. My wife and I have been together for 19 years and we have an amazing sex life. We'd like to improve even further.
We use sexy dirty talk during sex and would like to know more about this powerful tool - and especially expand on our dirty talk vocabulary.
Talking dirty during sex can be a fantastic turn-on, and communicating with your partner about what specifically arouses you will bring you both closer, and take your sex life up a notch.
Hearing your own voice describe exactly how you like to be touched is also an instant turn-on, as is complementing your actions with an erotic 'running commentary' on all the wicked, depraved things you're doing…
If you need some inspiration, try reading erotic stories or looking at porn to get you going. It's perfectly acceptable to plagiarise! The Big Book of Filth, published by Cassell, also has 6,500 slang words and phrases (should help to expand your vocabulary a little!)
You could also try talking dirty on the phone. Experiment with taking on a different character, imagine you've got the wrong number and just let go… (it's much easier when you're pretending to be someone else). To get each other in the mood, try whispering dirty nothings in your partner's ear in a very public place - by the time you're both home you'll be desperate to get each others clothes off.
To really up the ante - practise! Do it while you masturbate - imagine that your partner is there and talk erotically to them. With no holds barred, you're far more likely to describe exactly what turns you on and feel confident when you eventually say it to your wife.
And if you talk dirty often enough, then certain words and phrases can easily become a catalyst or trigger, to speed both arousal and climax… just think Pavlov's dogs!