Reader Tips: Want to act out a fantasy with your partner? Talk about it first!
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If you have a fantasy which your partner seems willing to agree to, talk it through. Talking about it can be made part of your love play to stimulate both you and hopefully your partner.
Tell the story of what will happen/how you envisage it happening. This will accustom your partner to the concept. It also gives them lots of time and opportunity to refine it - especially if you ask them to talk about it to stimulate you.
It will give them the opportunity to modify the idea so that it appeals to them and gives you both a means of negotiating what precisely can happen. Define boundaries and set out the rules.
But be warned: before you actually carry out any of the ideas make sure they know that it is for real - remember, people talk big, but they will often go a lot further in fantasy talk and play than they will in real life.