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  1. Everything You Need To Know About Strap-Ons

    The very definition of a couple's plaything, strap-on sex toys are designed to switch up the sexual dynamics in your relationship. They can be used by straight people, gay people, bi people, pansexual people... pretty much anyone!

    In this guide, we'll cover all the need-to-know information you need if you're looking to introduce a strap-on to your playtime, including how to choose them and how to use them.


    Overview


    What's a Strap-On?

    Strap-ons are a great sex toy for both mixed- and same-sex couples. They allow you to penetrate your partner, while keeping your hands free for other fun. Hooray!

    The majority of strap-ons come with a strap-on harness that sits around the wearer's hips to give greater control over the toy during use.

    But how do you choose the right strap-on for you?


    Different types of strap-ons:

    Strap-on harness kits

    These all-in-one bundles contain everything you need to start your experimentation with pegging and penetration play. (And if you've not heard the term 'pegging' before, it's used to refer to the act of a woman using a strap-on to anally penetrate a man).

    Most strap-on harness kits have either a hole or an O-ring that you slot the dildo into, and usually come with at least one dildo to start you off.

    Once you discover the joys of strap-on sex though, you'll be hungry to try dildos in new shapes and sizes - or may be be ready to go bigger.

    Strap-on dildos

    These dildos are compatible with a range of harnesses, allowing you to switch up your strap-on fun. You can also use them without a harness as you would with a standard dildo.

    Vibrating strap-ons

    Strap-on vibrators are like standard strap-on dildos, but they vibrate!

    Hollow strap-ons

    Suitable for using both flaccid and erect, hollow strap-ons ensure you'll always have a strong, long-lasting erection.

     Use them as a penis extension and enjoy new ways of lovemaking, or as an aid to erectile dysfunction, allowing you to continue an intimate physical relationship with your partner.

    Strapless strap-ons

    If you're more experienced, there's also the strapless strap-on to bear in mind. With one of these, you can get a greater sense of closeness as there are no straps to get in the way.

    The strapless strap-on variety of dildos are suitable for someone with a vagina looking to penetrate their partner either vaginally or anally.

    Usually firmer than other types of double-ended toys, they are easier to control and most feature adjustable angles that allow for a good fit for both partners, enabling a variety of positions during wear.

    The smaller shaft, or 'pony' as it is commonly referred to, is worn in the vagina of the penetrating partner, who grips it in place to thrust it into the partner's anus or vagina.

    A big bonus for some strapless strap-ons is the addition of a bullet vibrator, introducing oooh-inducing vibrations into the mix for both partners to enjoy.

    Double penetration strap-ons

    Enjoy double penetration completely hands-free or create the illusion of a third party in the bedroom with a double penetration strap-on.

     Held in place with a stamina-aiding cock ring, our double penetrators add a second shaft into sex sessions so you can fully satisfy your lover with each and every thrust.

    Vac-U-Lock strap-ons

    The incredible Vac-U-Lock system is a range of harnesses and strap-on dildos that allow you to mix and match a huge variety of dildos, butt plugs and other sex toys.

    Unlike most strap-ons which require an O-ring set-up, Vac-U-Lock strap-ons feature a unique plug system which securely holds your attachment in place for penetrative fun. By using a plug instead of an O-ring, Vac-U-Lock harnesses are compatible with all Vac-U-Lock attachments, no matter the size or girth of the attachment you'd like to use.


    Which is the best strap-on?

    Whether you're looking to add a bit of kink to your relationship, or are well-versed in the fun and versatility of strap-on play, Lovehoney has a selection of the most popular, best rated and expertly picked strap-ons to fulfil your every need.

    So strap yourselves in, lube up and dive in to our stellar selection.

    Best for Pegging:

    Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit

    Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 5 Inch Pegging Dildo

    Pegging pleasure awaits with this perfectly proportioned strap-on set. Adjust the strong harness to fit, then indulge your penetration desires with the lusciously smooth silicone dildo, which curves up to gratify your internal hot spots with ease.

    What they say:

    "This strap-on was the perfect size for our first try [pegging] and we both really enjoyed the experience. We found it really easy to use, the silicone is smooth and inserts easily. The straps are very comfortable and easy to adjust to the perfect fit.

    I would definitely recommend this toy to anyone wanting to join in on the pegging experience, it's a great toy to start with."


    Best for Lesbians:

    Lovehoney Double Wow Strapless Strap-On Dildo

    Lovehoney Double Wow Strapless Strap-On Dildo 7 Inch

    Perform your own magic trick and achieve Dynamo-style levitation (without straps!) with the Double Wow Strap-On. Held in place with just your kegel muscles this double ended dildo creates maximum intimacy with minimum fuss for super strap-on sex.

    What they say:

    "We tested the toy recently and it was amazing. The "giver" end is big enough to hold in securely and gives the person some pleasure too. The little nodules which stimulate the clitoris are something else and feel absolutely wonderful. It fit perfectly inside both of us and allowed for that little deeper penetration in certain positions.

    Overall, I'd recommend this as a strap-on for both beginners and those that are more advanced as it is all round superb and would urge people not to be put off by the strapless element! Fantastic toy!"


    Best for Versatility:

    Lifelike Lover Realistic Pleasures Strap-On Kit (4 Piece)

    Lifelike Lover Realistic Pleasures Strap-On Dildo Kit (4 Piece)

    Encompassing 3 different dildos and O-rings from our Lifelike Lover collection, this 4-piece kit gives you impressive, high-quality cocks at an incredible discounted price of 35% off RRP. The complete package for your super satisfying bedroom playtimes.

    What they say:

    "This kit masterfully brings together the best dildos of the Lifelike range and it came a step further making it the ideal kit that every couple needs on their nightstand to fulfil all their fantasies. All the dildos are made of high-quality PVC that really feel lifelike. Not too flexible, not too firm, just perfect.

    This is a perfect kit to enjoy as a couple: the harness provides that versatility that makes it an indispensable kit. We have both enjoyed the best vaginal and anal sex with toys that we have ever had."


    Best Kit:

    Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On Kit

    Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 7 Inch G-Spot Dildo

    Strap-on adventures beckon with our advanced harness and dildo set. Fully adjustable straps give the wearer a tailored fit and the 7 inch dildo seeks out G-spots or P-spots for fulfilling penetration play.

    What they say:

    "The harness is comfy and easy to put on and adjust. There's loads of room for adjustment in it which is great as my fiancée and I are different sizes. It doesn't make you feel silly when you're wearing it, mostly the opposite!

    It also has a slot for a bullet vibrator (which we bought with this kit) and it feels amazing! It also comes with different rings to hold other dildos. We've had this for a while now and it's still holding up fantastically!"


    Best for First-Timers:

    BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit

    BASICS Strap-On Harness Kit with 2 Dildos

    The adventure begins here. Whether it's pegging play or strap-on sex, this set will set you up for a great first-time experience. A sleek, stylish and comfortable harness holds your choice of 2 dildos for differing sensations so you can mix it up.

    What they say:

    "This is a great starter kit if you're thinking of trying pegging and don't want to break the bank. The harness was comfortable and versatile enough to allow us to use another dildo we had that was a midpoint in size between the two supplied.

    We were both really impressed with the quality and I'm sure it will bring us hours of pleasure."


    Best for Comfort:

    Broad City Pegasus Strap-On Kit

    Broad City Pegasus Pegging Kit

    The Pegasus Kit is some high class sh*t. Pull on the hot briefs, slot in the luscious, curved 7 inch dildo and turn into a rampant, pegging she-stallion, all ready to pleasure your eager lover's holes. There's even a bullet vibe for adding buzzy thrills.

    What they say:

    "First of all I love how the briefs fit. They're slightly high-waisted and I promise you will make your butt look amazing. I love the bullet vibe it comes with: It's surprisingly powerful. It also comes with two sets of batteries! So far I have only used this with my boyfriend, so I used the bullet vibe in the pocket of the undies. It can also be put in the base of the dildo. Hello, vibrating strap-on!

    The dildo is really smooth. I thought it might be too big to use with my partner, but he loved it. It was our first time pegging and I highly recommend this toy!"


    Best for Overcoming Erectile Dysfunction:

    Lovehoney Perfect Partner Unisex Hollow Vibrating Strap-On

    Lovehoney Perfect Partner Unisex Hollow 10 Function Vibrating Strap-On 8 Inch

    Like a Tabasco-soaked pillowcase, the Perfect Partner's a saucy way to bring extra spice into the bedroom. The 8 inch unisex vibrating dong is perfectly proportioned for advanced strap-on penetration, with a wired controller accessible for either partner.

    What they say:

    "I bought this product as I suffer from erectile dysfunction and I missed the closeness with my wife. After looking at the different hollow strap-ons I chose this one as I wanted it to be bigger than me (when it worked) as a treat for the wife...

    It is used regularly now and it's great for me as the vibrations feel good and to be in the position of being intimate again is fantastic. The wife loves the feeling of being full and stretched out. Highly recommended."


    Choosing a dildo that fits your harness

    The girth of the dildo that you want to use should be measured around the thickest part of the shaft. But O-rings are measured in diameter, rather than circumference, so you'll need to do a little bit of maths to ensure the best fit.

    It's really easy, though - just open your phone calculator and divide the girth of your dildo by pi (that pesky number from high school geometry) to find the size of the O-ring that'll best fit your dildo.


    How to put a dildo in your harness

    Take our word for it, it's easiest to get your dildo in place before you put your harness on! If your harness has an interchangeable O-ring, make sure the O-ring is attached to the harness before you start.

    If your dildo is long and smooth with a flat, flared base like the Lovehoney 7 Inch Curved Silicone Dildo, you can just slip it into the O-ring.

    If your dildo is large, has a big kink in it or has testicles like the Lovehoney Lifelike Lover Realistic Dildo 6 Inch, you’ll need to approach it from the other end. Gently pinch the flared base and work it through the O-ring.

    Either way, a little water-based lubricant can help ease the dildo through the O-ring.

    To help you choose the best strap-on, it's important to understand how a harness is put together.

    What is a strap on?

    A strap-on harness is made up of three main parts:

    1. Harness

    The strap-on harness itself, which usually has a padded front section and a series of adjustable straps that you step into and then adjust at the waist and/or the legs.

    2. O-ring

    Either a fixed hole to put dildos through, or a flexible ring that attaches to the harness.

    3. Dildo

    A dildo that fits the hole or O-ring (a harness usually comes with at least one dildo to get you started).


    Compatible Strap-On Harnesses and O-Ring Sizes

    1.25 Inch O-ring

      • Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Kit with 5 Inch Dildo

      • Sportsheets Newcomers Unisex Strap-On Starter Kit 5 Inch


    1.5 Inch O-ring

      • Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 3 Realistic Dildos

      • Tantus Beginner's Unisex Vibrating Strap-On Harness Kit (6 Piece)


    1.75 Inch O-ring

      • Fetish Fantasy Unisex Vibrating Strap-On 6 Inch Dildo Set

      • Red Rider Unisex G-Spot Strap-On Harness Kit 7.5 Inch


    2 Inch O-ring

      • Sportsheets Sedeux Divine Fully Adjustable Extra Comfort Harness

      • Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit with 7 Inch G-Spot Dildo


    Now you have the perfect strap-on, so how do you use it?

    You'll find that the best way to get the most from your new strap on is to experiment with speed, depth, and position, but there are some key things to remember that will make your strap-on sex easier and more comfortable for everyone involved.

    1. Use lube. Whether you're penetrating a vagina or an anus, a good lubricant will make everything much smoother and more comfortable for everyone. And if you're dabbling in anal plan, it's extra-important! Remember, though, if your dildo is made of silicone, don't use a silicone lube - go for water-based instead.

    2. Take it slowly. It's important that both of you take the time before hand to 'warm up' and relax into your play, particularly for anal penetration, so take your time, experiment with fingers and smaller toys first, and only move onto penetration when you feel ready.

    3. Communicate with each other all the way through play. Remember, the wearer won't be able to feel their new appendage, so if you're receiving, you'll have to tell or show them what feels good and what doesn't. If you're the giver, be sure to listen not only to your partner's words, but their reactions, and let them guide the depth and speed of penetration.

    4. Find a position that is most comfortable for both of you, and puts the receiver in control. Some popular favourites are them-on-top, doggy style, and spooning.

    5. Agree a safe word. This is a word or phrase that, once said, ceases play immediately, and is vital for safety and peace of mind during play.


    Customer tips for great strap-on sex

    "Keeping yourself clean up there is always a first, it's probably the most off-putting thing if you're new to the experience and unsure.." - DraeneiShaman

    "Don't forget that you can use cock sleeves and extensions to give extra length and girth to your dildos." - Gyrator53

    "Although we do not do pegging in a femdom context, empowerment and domination / role reversal can be great psychological enhancements." - SSLH

    "To get a strapless strap on to stay in place you need to do your Kegels. A strong pelvic floor will allow you to squeeze around the toy and keep it in place. In the meantime... I'd suggest looking into an underwear-style harness for some extra support." - NatandTom

    "It is the ultimate form of trust for a couple to engage in having sex with a strap on." - wee_bear


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    Comments (27)

    • Iris: September 22, 2009 22:11
      Hi, I (female) am searching for a good strap-on that can be used by my male partner to give me double penetration. Any recommendation?
      Thanks
    • LoveHoney - Carly: September 23, 2009 10:37
      Hi Iris,

      You may like to take a look at the brilliant Sportsheets Double Penetration Harness: www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8748
      Not only is it designed especially for double penetration, but it is well made and durable too!

      Alternatively, why not take a look at the Manline Tag Team Strap-On Harness set: www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14869
      Developed especially to be worn by a man, it's secure, safe and easy to use!

      If you want something more discreet, then there are some brilliant cock rings which do the same, such as:
      Anal Special Strap-On Cock Ring Dildo - www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=11056

      Porator Cock Ring and Anal Probe - www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=11596

      Hope that helps!

    • mm: October 02, 2009 13:33
      hi im a female and im lookin for a big strap on dildo that can be used for my girlfriend im looking for a big one and thick but i dont know where i can find them.

      this is my first time buyin a strap on dildo ...
      do you have any advice??? i would appreciate it ..

      thanks

    • LoveHoney - Carly: October 05, 2009 08:37
      You've come to the right place - we sell all sorts of strap-on dildos here!

      We have a whole section of harness kits (complete with dildos) - www.lovehoney.co.uk/store.cfm?cat=18

      But we also sell the strap-on dildos separately - www.lovehoney.co.uk/store.cfm?cat=21314

      One of the biggest ones we sell is the Doc Johnson Bam Black Dildo which is a whopping 13.5 inches long with a 8.5 inch circumference - www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=12107

      This will comfortably fit our Huge Leather Strap-On - www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14690

      Hope this helps!

    • bee: October 13, 2009 14:00
      Hi. i am a bisexual female looking for a jock-style harness and a small and not very thick dildo to try with my female partner. It's the first time we are trying it, so i was hoping to find something a bit below the usual mesures. Everything looks too big in size. Thank you for your help.
    • LoveHoney - Carly: October 13, 2009 16:10
      Hi Bee,

      Why not take a look at the gorgeous Sportsheets New Cummers Strap-On Starter Kit - www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=2442

      It has Jock-Strap style straps and comes complete with a small dildo which is just 2.5 inches in circumference and 4.5 inches in length.

      In fact, you can sort the harnesses and dildos within the Dildo Harnesses and Kits section, simply by choosing the length of the dildo you want in the 'Length' drop down at the top. Go here and give it a go: www.lovehoney.co.uk/store.cfm?cat=18

      I think you'll find something you like!

    • nick: October 13, 2009 18:22
      hi,i'm looking for a newcomers strap on which will also give my wife pleasure ?
    • Liza Fishnets: November 23, 2009 14:38
      Hi my name is Liza a bi transvestite, my girlfriend enjoys using a strap-on when i'm made up & dressed in my maids outfit. I enjoy tremendously the feeling of her penetrating me but we would like her 2 get more out of it as the strap-on dildo does not stimulate her very much!
      What do u suggest we have a double ended dildo that we use but my girlfriend prefers being in control are there any doudle ended dildos that do not require a harness but will not slip out of her & that will stimulate her while she penetrates her "french maid"?
      Kisses Liza ur "Maid 2 Order"
      xXx
    • LoveHoney - Carly: November 30, 2009 08:50
      Hi Liza,

      Have you taken a look at the Mantric Sysil - www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17044

      This nifty bit of kit is truly unique as it's a strapless strap-on with its own special positioning system! So not only do you get extremely pleasurable penetration, but your partner also gets some satisfying stimulation too!

      And it looks great as well!

    • bigben: January 01, 2010 22:43
      can someone please tell me a harness that keeps the dildo firmly upright and in place.i dont care about the price any one that will meet those requirments.i have tried the sportsheets but sadly did nt work out
    • LoveHoney - Carly: January 04, 2010 08:50
      Hi bigben

      If you could tell us which dildo you plan on using with your harness and what your waist/hip measurements are, we should be able to help!

    • Liza Fishnets: January 05, 2010 07:43
      thnx 4 the advice hon we will definately b ordering 1 it looks fantastic & hopefully will give both myself & my gf lots of pleasure when she uses her "maid 2 order" french maid liza!
      kisses
      liza
      xXx
    • Jack: January 09, 2010 05:18
      I sleep with a dildo inside me when my girlfriend is at her house and I wish there was a harness to hoid the Super Victor Giant Dildo inside me. I am a bisexual guy and a harness for men are not really available in this size :-(
    • LoveHoney - Carly: January 11, 2010 11:17
      Hi Jack,

      Sadly the Super Victor Giant Dildo isn't harness compatible but you might find that wearing tight latex or PVC underwear whilst using a butt plug or dildo will hold it in place securely. It's worth remembering that you should only insert things anally that have a flared base or a way to pull it out safely though.

      Hope this information helps!
    • Robert: January 12, 2010 12:56
      hi there.
      i am a male looking for a stra-on my girlfriend can use on me. i like it rather big. the best would be if there was a strap-on to penetrate and give pleasure to both at the same time!
    • LoveHoney - Carly: January 12, 2010 16:38
      Hi Robert,

      How about a strapless strap-on such as the Feeldoe (www.lovehoney.co.uk/s.cfm?term=feeldoe&x=0&y=0)? These come in a range of sizes and allow you to both enjoy some fantastic sensations!

      Alternatively, how about the Mantric Sysil - it's a LoveHoney favourite! www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17044

    • bigben: January 15, 2010 13:52
      sorry carly for taken this long to reply,but the dildo we plan using is the tantus p spot silicone anal dildo and perhaps something bigger in the future.waist measurments are 24 and hips are 35.hopefully them measurments stay that way
    • LoveHoney - Carly: January 18, 2010 09:02
      Hi bigben,

      Hmmm, sounds like it may be a combination of the material of the harness and the O-ring size that are giving you problems. As the Tantus P-Spot Silicone Dildo has an unusal O-ring diameter, getting it to sit comfortably and ridigly in a harness can be difficult.

      You might like to try a leather harness as these provide a much firmer grip on the dildo. My recommendation would be for the Spartacus Leather Ulti-Mate Dildo Harness - www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8074

      Not only is it adjustable for a perfect fit but you can change the O-ring to fit any size of dildo! We recommend using a stretchy cock ring as an O-ring as these are much more adjustable - www.lovehoney.co.uk/store.cfm?cat=43

      Hope this information helps!

    • bigben: January 19, 2010 13:24
      thanks,that spartacus looks the part we will just have to put it to the test now.you could be right about the p-spot dildo as it is akward but hopefully that will be in the past and thanks again for your time
    • LoveHoney - Carly: January 19, 2010 15:26
      You're welcome, bigben. :)

      Don't forget, we have a 365 day return policy so if you try something but it doesn't fit the bill, we are more than happy to refund, exchange or replace!

      www.lovehoney.co.uk/help/returns-policy/

      Have fun!

    • sissycowgirl: March 09, 2010 23:56
      Hi, I'm looking for a strap-on which can fit over a chastity device, so I can still pleasure my girlfriend even though I am caged, do you have any suggestions?

      Thanks in advance. :-)

    • LoveHoney - Carly: March 10, 2010 09:14
      Hi sissycowgirl,

      It all depends which chastity device you're using but for the most part, you'll want something that is quite roomy and that allows you to adjust the position. Any jock style harness should do but here are some recommendations for you.

      The Sophia Santis Red Rider G-Spot Strap-On Kit is really adjustable, allowing you to position it above or on your chastity device: www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16971

      Alternatively, you might like the look of the Spartacus Leather Ulti-Mate Dildo Harness which has a special curve in the leather that allows it to sit on or above the mound of your chastity device: www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8074

      Hope this helps!
    • marie: April 26, 2010 06:33
      Hello,
      I am looking for a stylish, but not to expensive harness. This would be my first harness and I would like to be able to use it with a double ended dildo. I Really like the silver Jaguar Harness, but wonder if will suit my needs.
      Also, have you heard anything about the Feeldoe slipping out?
      I'm wondering if there might be a harness to use with that.
    • dave: June 07, 2010 21:43
      hi i really enjoy my fiance penetrating me anally - but i dont think it does much for her! i would love it if there was something that she could get penetrated at the same time - to give herself a ''workout' ' while she is taking me. i dont like the look of the strapless contraption that ive seen on here. any suggestions?
    • peter: October 11, 2010 11:12
      Hi my wife & I are interested in a Doc Jonson vac u loc harness & dildo are the harness male friendly or are they just for females to wear
    • archie: March 26, 2011 18:45
      im a female lokking for a strap on to penetrate my girlfriend while stimulating me without penetration..
    • mal: September 22, 2014 16:12
      Hi me and my wife enjoy a hollow strap on but sometimes its hard for me to get a snug fit my wife now wants to try one that is thicker rather then long which do advice to buy
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