Tracey's Sex Tips

In today’s politically correct climate, suggesting you have ‘duty shags’ – have sex purely because your partner fancies it now and then – is guaranteed to offend. When I first suggested this in my book Supersex for Life, I got more than a few sniffy remarks - and the odd ‘How dare you!.’ But I still stand by it. And hell, someone’s got to say it regardless or we’re all going to end up divorced, celibate or so desperate the old man next door in the button-down cardi looks hot.

So here it is: if you’re in a long-term, monogamous relationship, I think you should accept that you will have to have sex when you don’t feel like it sometimes. Maybe more than sometimes...

Full story: The Argument for 'Duty Shags'

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If she ever asks you outright if you lied, admit you did and explain why (I suspect she’ll find it funny rather than be upset).

Full story: I exaggerated about my sexual experience - should I come clean?

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Oh for God’s sake! I’m writing my Closer Magazine column for the week and answering a question about age-gap relationships.

The person wants to know if I honestly think age-gap relationships work - she’s contemplating seeing a guy who’s 17-years older/younger (she doesn’t say which). “Is there any hope of it working out?” she asks...

Full story: Things that wind me up: Thinking a relationship is a 'failure' if it doesn't last a lifetime

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Have you offered to trim the hair around all those areas to make it pleasant for her when she’s close to you? You never know, you might like the look and the feeling.

Full story: My girlfriend won't shave 'down there' unless I do. Is she being unreasonable?

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Today is Valentine’s Day - otherwise known as National Single Awareness Day. Just the right time to remind any singles out there (I’m one this year!) that while being single might suck (just a little) on Valentine’s Day, it’s not all bad!

Full story: Tracey Cox's Advice for Valentine's Day - Single Doesn't Suck!

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It’s four days to Valentine’s Day and if you’re like most couples I know, the emphasis for February 14th will be on doing something ‘romantic’. Go for it - but when you’re done with the flowers and bubbles and three-course dinner, sign up for my 10-day sex challenge to make sure you keep sex as well as love alive!

Starting on Feb 14th, I’m going to give you a daily task designed to push you both out of that comfortable but heading-for-a-rut routine lots of couples find themselves in once they’ve past the horny honeymoon period. Some of the tasks are simple and doable on the day. Others need a bit of planning or time to get right. Ideally, you’d do the tasks daily but if that’s not possible (babies, jobs, life) turn it into a ten week task and do one a week instead of once a day. (Just don’t do less than one a week or the whole thing will lose its momentum!)

The idea behind the challenge is to remind you that great sex doesn’t just happen, you have to make it happen! By the end of the challenge, you should know more about each other’s wants and needs, have a few new techniques or positions to add to the ‘favourites’ pile, had sex more regularly and - most importantly - had more interested, varied sex.

With everything from bed picnics to three-ways (not that type), sex contracts and how to master the world’s most popular intercourse position, there’s something to tickle everyone’s fancy.

Sign up for the challenge on Tracey Cox's Facebook page, or follow Tracey Cox on Twitter.

Official Twitter hash tag: #hotsexchallenge.

Full story: The 10-Day Hot Sex Challenge

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1. Rushing into it.

A few pathetic fumbles to check if she’s wet does not make her ready for you to plunge on in. Unless you’re both fired up for a quickie, keep that penis away until you’ve paid some lip service and at least inserted some fingers to check she’s lubricated and ready for you.

Full story: His Top Six Sex Sins

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Dare to do the clichés: Like chocolate body paint poured on and licked off. The reason why they’re clichés is because they’re often what people want to do, but are too scared to.

Start a ‘sex jar’: Each write down 10 things you’d like to try. Rip into separate points, fold and put all of them into a jar. Pick out one a week to try. (Insist on pre-approval if you think ‘lure the hot 18-year-old next door in for a threesome’ will simply be repeated by your partner.)

Send sexts: “I’ve been thinking about you inside me all day”; ‘If you want it right now, I’m in the upstairs bedroom’; ‘Remember when we did it on the beach? The kids are asleep….’ Or, when you’re feeling particularly horny (and they seem like they’d be receptive), ‘I want you to fuck me. Hard’.

Shave each other’s bits: It’s a laugh….and sexier than you think!

Have phone sex... from the other room. Call and tell them they have to do exactly what you say. Get them to go to the bedroom, take off their clothes, fondle themselves, lie down on the bed and start masturbating. Then walk in to finish the job for them.

Full story: Simple Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

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Ready to shake up your sex life?

These ten positions from Tracey Cox 100 Hot Sex Positions are ideal for injecting new ideas.

From romantic to raunchy, comfortable to challenging, a new sex position is a great way to have a healthier, happier sex life with minimum effort on your part.

Full story: Tracey Cox's Top 10 Sex Positions

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1. You need access to his testicles, anus and perineum as well as to be able to grasp the base of the penis and slide the other hand up and over. In other words, you need room. Also make sure you’re not at an angle where your hand’s going to end up in a weird position and get twisted or cramped.

Full story: Seven Steps to Giving Him Great Oral

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