How can I get the confidence to become a dominant Mistress?

Posted on: December 01, 2008 08:12 | Posted by: Tracey Cox

Although 89% of women choose the submissive role in a bondage situation, those who dare to be dominant find the power of being boss an aphrodisiac.

Question:

I recently tried on a leather body suit in a shop and found I enjoyed it. The only thing is, I'm not very confident.

I've worn things like police costumes, lace bodies, babydolls and basques.

Do you have any ideas that would help boost my confidence so I can wear leather pieces and become a Mistress?

Tracey Says:

Just as you took on a different persona when you pulled on the other outfits, you can do the same with this one.

Although 89% of women choose the submissive role in a bondage situation, those who dare to be dominant find the power of being boss, in a world dominated by men, a potent aphrodisiac.

As a bossy-boots dominant, you call the shots. It's up to you to set the scene. You get to be selfish, cruel, superior without getting in trouble!

Think about classic dominant/submissive situations and you'll have an idea of what's expected of you: teacher/student, stern governess/naughty schoolboy etc.

Pitch your voice deeper than usual and start ordering him around.

No please or thank yous, simply bark orders that will usually revolve around him doing naughty things to you or himself.

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