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Posted on: August 29, 2008 09:08 | Posted by: Tracey Cox
Anal creams that desensitise the anus are not your friend. They all do a fantastic job of numbing the area but that's the problem. Pain is nature's warning.
Question:
My boyfriend and I want to have anal sex and I have enjoyed it in the past. But it seems like the head of his penis is too big and any attempts have been very painful.
I am considering using a muscle relaxant but as I don't know how this may affect my body, I thought it would check first to find out if they're safe.
Tracey Says:
Your previous partner was clearly smaller than your current boyfriend, which made it easier to enjoy. It could be his penis is simply too big for your rectum - and if this is the case, you'd be silly to push it. Literally.
Bottoms aren't really meant to have penises inside them - which is why any decent guide on how to have anal sex, includes advice on building up to the big one. My Anal Beginners Kit has both an instruction leaflet, good quality lube and a butt plug. It's designed to gently ease you into anal sex, with minimal or no pain.
I would strongly advise you to use a butt plug to 'train' yourself to accept your boyfriend. If this doesn't work, give up on anal intercourse and instead simply enjoy penetration with a finger, butt plug, dildo or vibrator.
Anal creams that desensitise the anus are not your friend, neither are 'poppers' or cocaine. They all do a fantastic job of numbing the area but that's the problem.
Pain is nature's warning. Yes I know that's something your mother would say but there is a right and wrong way to enjoy anal play and pain will tell you which path you're on.
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