What's The Best Way To Tease During Bondage?

Posted on: January 12, 2008 09:01 | Posted by: Tracey Cox

You don't need whips and 'stuff' to enjoy tie-up games. Being tied up appeals because it's about power and increasing the suspense of sexual pleasure...

Question:
My girlfriend and I recently bought some bondage ropes to tie each other up. We're not into whips and stuff so at a loss as to what exactly we're supposed to do tease each other?



Tracey Says:
You don't need whips and 'stuff' to enjoy tie-up games. Being tied up appeals because it's about power and increasing the suspense of sexual pleasure.

The person who is tied up can't control when someone touches, teases, licks or penetrates them.

If you're the one doing the tying up, you get the kick of having someone completely at your sexual mercy.

This, of course, feels wrong because it's completely politically incorrect - which is why it also feels so goddamn good!

I'd start your sessions quite simply: take turns to tie each other's arms behind your backs, then playfully kiss, lower your genitals into mouths, then pull away.

Try adding a blindfold to up the suspense. If that feels good, tie them to something (the bedhead, a chair) and continue to have your wicked way, perhaps including intercourse.

You can also try tying legs as well as hands, though this only works for intercourse in certain positions. Try her on her hands and knees while you enter her from behind. Add some extra excitement by role-playing - she pretends to 'struggle' and pushes back against you increasing the pressure (and pleasure).

She could tie you up and sit astride you, facing away, riding you while fantasising you're the hot guy from Prison Break (come on, you do it too!).

The golden rules are: don't use knots that tighten if either of you start to struggle: slip one finger between the bond and their wrist or ankle before tightening knots and keep a pair of scissors handy in case you suddenly go into 'Get me out!' panic mode.

Never keep someone tied up for more than half an hour and resist the temptation to leave the room, pretending to pop out for a pint.

Hilarious on your end, not so funny on theirs.

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