Bedroom Bondage techniques explained

Posted on: June 26, 2008 15:06 | Posted by: Bonny

The act of bondage is a sensual experience for you and your lover, so if you want to learn about the different bedroom bondage techniques, here's a few to get you started...

Bedroom bondage is a sure-fire way to broaden your sexual horizons and spice up your bedroom antics. Think of bondage as an arena to play out your sexual fantasies such as being ravaged by a captor, rescued by a knight in shining armour, or satiating your lover's fantasy of being straddled by a dominatrix vixen.

When most people think of bondage they think of a man or woman being tied to a bed with rope, silk ties or handcuffs. While that's true, there's a lot more to bondage than just tying someone up any old fashion.

Basically, bondage can be used to pull parts of the body together; spread or open-up parts of your body; tie your body down to another object such as a bed or chair; wrap your whole body or part of it for mummification-style bondage, or it can be used to constrict normal movement.

Bondage toys and what they're used for

If the thought of taping your lover's limbs together so that they are completely immobile gets you both hot under the collar, then the Mummification or Cocooning style of bondage could be just what you're looking for.

This form of bondage involves wrapping specially designed PVC bondage tape around each of your lover's limbs – paying particular attention to their arms and legs – wrapping their arms to the sides of their body, and then wrapping their legs together.

See bondage tape in action! The best bondage toy for Mummification is Bondage Tape, which has a self-cling property so that it can be easily and painlessly removed without taking your bodily hairs with it!

Be careful to ensure that your lover (or 'bottom', to use the BDSM term) doesn't overheat during this style of bondage, because the body releases heat through sweating and if your lover's skin is wrapped in tight PVC they may get too hot too quickly. As always, keep communicating with your lover and they will let you know when they want the session to end.

Most people have a penchant for arm restraints when it comes to bondage play. Most armbinders or restraints come in leather (with the exception of Furry Handcuffs) and are ideal for binding your lover's hands or arms together during roleplay.

The Leather 3 Piece Neck & Wrist Restraint Set is perfect for binding your lover's arms so you can dominate them as you please, while the lockable collar will leave them in no doubt as to who's in charge.

If arm restraints do it for you, give the Ultimate Leather Collar or Leather and Chain Lead a whirl and turn your lover into your personal sex slave. You could also opt for a two-in-one option and explore the delights of constricting your lover's normal movements with Wrist to Thigh Cuffs or Wrist To Ankle Bondage Cuffs.

More bondage toys

Don't underestimate the effects of nipple clamps during bondage play! Most nipple clamps feature two clasps connected by a chain or two separate clamps that work by applying pressure to you or your lover's nipples.

Depending on how hard you tug, you can experience anything from a gentle squeeze to a tingling tweak. Most nipple clamps, such as the Vibrating Nipple Clamps and Squeezer Teaser Nipple Clamps, are adjustable, so you can tighten them for increased pressure.

Try using them during oral sex for a riot of steamy sensations.

Not only do some people like the sensation of writhing against restraints during bondage, they also love the feeling of being tied up in a standing position. Most women fantasise about the idea of being in the sexual grasp of a captor, so restraints that can be fitted over doorframes or wardrobes are ideal.

The Sportsheets Door Jam Cuffs, for example, slide over the top of your doorframe to provide a thrilling role play arena for acting out your most erotic captor fantasies.

Bondage techniques for beginners

So, we've talked about the toys you can use for the different types of bondage, but now it's time to get more specific with sexy tips for beginners. Firstly, all you bondage virgins should discuss what you want to try. Just remember, you won't really know what you like until you get started – you may surprise yourself! – but don't push each other into anything you're unsure of.

Most importantly, devise a safety word you can use so that if something feels uncomfortable for either of you, say this word and the bondage session stops until any problems you encounter are resolved.

For bondage beginners, verbal bondage can seems just as kinky, naughty and taboo as physical bondage. Simply commanding your lover to perform a sexual act on you, or telling them that you're going to do something to them, is immensely thrilling for both of you.

Once you're up to speed with the dirty talk and sexual commands, start by tying your lover's hands either in front of them or behind with ties such as Japanese Silk Bondage Rope Cuffs or the Sportsheets Beginners Bondage Kit.

The next step up is to try anchoring your lover's hands to the front or back of a waist belt. Try the Wrist To Waist Cuffs for an easy introduction to this style of bondage. Once you're accustomed with bondage that pulls your lover's limbs together, try bondage that spreads limbs apart.

This can be easily achieved by spreading your lover's legs and arms across your bed, securing each of their hands and wrists at the four corners of your bed. Sportsheets Under The Bed Restraint System is excellent for this practice.

Advanced bondage techniques

For those of you who are a bit more advanced with bondage and are looking for new thrills, The Reverse Prayer Position is ideal if your lover (or 'bottom') has flexible shoulders. For this bondage position, your lover should kneel in front of you while you tie their hands behind their back and towards their feet.

You could also tie your lover's arms are over their head to meet their wrists, then fasten the gap between them with an extended chain or bondage strap. Again, you lover will have to be quite supple to pull this move off, but it's extremely rewarding if done properly.

One of the most advanced forms of bondage is self-bondage, which involves just one person performing acts of bondage on themselves without the help of their lover. This advanced style carries greater risk than the other styles, simply because if you run into trouble, there's no one around to help you escape your restraints and as such the consequences could be dire.

However, self-bondage can be performed relatively safely as long as you avoid using any mouth gags or hoods, allow your partner to be present in the same room while you perform your self-bondage, ensure your toys have quick-release mechanisms and avoid overly tight cuffs, ties and straps. So whether you choose to play (safely) alone or with your lover, bondage is a beautiful and kinky way to awaken your sinful side.

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