When it first appeared, My Secret Garden created a storm of outrage and exhilaration. Women who read it were astonished to find in its pages the hidden content of their own sexual fantasies. More outspoken, graphic, and taboo-shattering than any book before its time, My Secret Garden quickly became the classic study of female sexuality.
Today, millions of women have made Nancy Friday's groundbreaking bestseller a mainstay of feminist literature - a liberating force that adds a sensational new dimension to their sexual fantasies and lives.
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My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday 9 out of 10 (5 reviews) Write your own review
A fab read
Reviewed: 11 June 2007 by OA Scrumptious
This was the very first 'rude' book that I purchased. I came across it when I was in the Toys in Babeland store in the US (this is the first time i've seen it available in the UK!). Anyway I bought my copy and spent the rest of the afternoon reading out the fantasies to my partner in our hotel room... lets just say was didn't make it out for an early dinner!
There is so much choice and lots of short and long real fantasies to dip in and out of. Some of them I related to others didn't do anything for me - but as there are so many it doesn't matter. It really is amazing the kinds of things that happened to women in this book that have made such a strong impact on their lives. Some of the stories are difficult to read as they're a little bit too real whereas others are mind blowing.
I highly recommend this book to everyone. If you've read the Black Lace Book of Sexual Fantasies and enjoyed that then you'll like this one even better. I would also say it's the best of the Nancy Friday Books! Enjoy x
- Perfect for flicking through - fantasies to suit every mood.
- Nothing - I've not bored of it yet even after 5 years!
- Bottom line
- A classic - every erotic book shelf should contain a copy!
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A wander through the world of fantasy
Reviewed: 17 June 2012 by laceandglitter
I'm fascinated about all kinds of human sexuality and so was very interested to read this book. It's a very quick, easy to read, and well laid out book, and I found that Nancy Friday's commentary and analysis of some of the fantasies were very illuminating and liberating, even if I didn't necessarily agree with every single one. Her ideas about things like where the root of sexual fantasies lie was particularly thought provoking, and I would have loved to have a chat with her about it! It was great to read about the sexual fantasies of all kinds of women, young and old, and especially to learn that so many themes recur between completely different women.
Although many of the fantasies are universal and still relevant to women today, I do feel that some of them were a product of a society that no longer exists, especially as we now live in a more sexually liberated time. Equally, I was disappointed to find that there was so much emphasis on things like cuckolding and group sex and very little on other forms of sex like BDSM, but that could simply be due to the women she was talking to. This does give it merit as a somewhat historical study, as it's very interesting to see just how many women were married young and may have only discovered after marriage that their husbands were unable to sexually satisfy them. However, if you're looking for a book of sexual material purely to get off, then this might not be what you're looking for.
Nonetheless, the subject matter being what it is, it's still quite arousing. Particularly when you come across fantasies that are similar to your own, or that actually surprise you by having an effect on you. Some, however, might just not be your cup of tea, but I don't see this as a particularly bad thing, as it's interesting to read about other people having fantasies that I would never have considered.
All in all, a worthwhile book to get hold of if you're interested in that kind of thing, but some of the fantasies probably won't interest everybody, and I wish there had been a wider range of subjects covered.
- Really interesting to read, and still quite sexy!
- Now seems a little dated.
- Bottom line
- Fascinating study, and definitely worth a read.
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The First of Its Kind
Reviewed: 12 June 2007 by mcbirdie, a Straight Going Steady Female
This is the first of Nancy Friday's books (as well known, are Forbidden Flowers and Men in Love, which both came a few years after) and perhaps her most important. This was the book that broke the barrier against the perceptions of women's fantasy lives in a big way.
Published in the 70s, Friday was fighting against the perception of the establishment that only women who had something wrong with them had sexual fantasies--coming out with this collection of real women's fantasies and thoughts on sex went a long way towards making other women feel much more comfortable about their sexuality and start getting over their shame.
Like her other books, her focus is more academic than erotic. The material being what it is, it cannot help but be arousing at times, but the focus is more on understanding why women have the thoughts they do, what the common features are, and helping women to understand that this is completely normal. For this reason, you may find that this is not necessarily the book you want if you were just looking to be titillated for a few hours.
That said, however, it is a deeply moving book and one I think is important to everyone who wants a healthy sex life to read. It is good to remind us all of how far we have come and how lucky we are to have the openness of our sex lives that we do. The bravery of the women who sent in these fantasies is to be commended--also, more than one of them will give you thoughts for later.
This is the thinking woman's (and man's) erotica. It is also a very good book to start with if you are interested in sexual fantasies, but aren't sure you're ready to start with the more explicit and raunchy titles.
- Absolutely seminal in the field of sexuality; full of beautifully brave and open women's fantasies.
- Can be a bit dry and unerotic in parts--some of the fantasies are disconcerting.
- Bottom line
- Such an important book deserves to be read over and over. It is eye-opening to see how women think about sex.
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