I've looked at the best toys for men out there, and with the exception of full size fleshlight, most don't seem to be able to accommodate some of the bigger guys. I've personally had one toy fail on me because it had an insertable length of 5.5 inches. I've heard of many other toys not being up to the big guys' standards either.
One final question. If you're big yourself, what toys have worked for you?
My man fully erect if 9/10inches. The only thing I've found so far that fits is just simple vibrating cock rings. As a girl, I actually have a similar problem! I'm basically a 'forever Virgin' I'm as tight as a virgin no matter what. Most toys are just too big for me!