• How to use butt plugs

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    Steve Stevenson [sign in to see picture]
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    Not literally. On my search for information and ideas I have found many people saying "I don't know how they work" as if there is some magic way of shoving a lump of silicon up your ass...

    Anyway I have used butt plugs in solo play in the past and want to introduce them to play with my partner. We tried last night, but it ended up turning a very horny time in to an awkward moment as I messed about with lube then pushing it in me while she watched a little board.

    Now, she has no problem with anal play, but I am wondering how people play with butt plugs and anal toys without awkward fumbling and killing the mood. It felt like being a horny teenager trying to undo a bra for the first time, which was funny in a way, but killed the mood.

    Do you normally put one in before sex, or is there RP games you play?

    I'm very confused. I love anal play so want to do it with her, but not sure how.

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    Lou22 [sign in to see picture]
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    We use them at any point during a session whether its in foreplay or during sex, whenever really my advice really would be to try getting her more involved in using them on you if she will.

    Although i like to watch my partner use toys i like using them on him to and when it comes to anal toys we rarely use them on ourselves its usually the other doing it for us. I like knowing that im involved in his pleasure.

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    KinkyFuckery [sign in to see picture]
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    Trend to go with the flow, while either OH is putting plug in my ass or if I am doing it to myself he kisses and carrys on while I insert in to keep the moment going . Just very natural go with flow . I love using toys on my OH very horny .

    Best advice relax and just go with the flow and dont panic if you have to stop and start x

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    Steve Stevenson [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you for the advice. I have had a chat with my OH and it seems that the problem from her point of view was something unrelated. She wasn't "in" to it as I hoped because of something else that had been a problem. Thanks to you guys we have talked this through and are going to try again.

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    BDSM [sign in to see picture]
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    could you ask her to put it in for you?

    that way she will be involved

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