• Anal toy for use on boyfriend

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    Vohaman [sign in to see picture]
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    Myself and my boyfriend have experimented with anal (him on me) and I really enjoy it, although I have never done it before. We haven't used any toys or anything, just fingers and anal sex. But the other day we were joking around and he mentioned that he would like me to try anal on him, to see why I like it so much. He hasn't done anything like that before.

    I was wondering if you guys could recommend me something to have a play with? Ideally something not too intimidating and suitable for a beginner. Should I put a condom over the toy when using it on him?

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    Doug [sign in to see picture]
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    one finger is always good, washed and trimed nails is a must. There are loads of toys out there, here are a few good starter ones:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16053

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=2219

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17166

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    Pixieking [sign in to see picture]
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    Since you've already had experiences with anal i'm assuming you know about the importance of lots and lots of lube and all the good stuff. Do you know if he's had any experience with his own fingers? If not, that's a really good place to start. Massive fun can be had with prostate massage finger wise (you really, Really want to find the prostate, it's a winner.) It'l also give you a chance to work out if he likes bum fun before you invest in a toy, and will get him more comfortable with having things up there.

    There are a good lot of toys in the anal section of the site, so it's a good idea to head over and have a dig through what the both of you like the look off. There is even a section for beginner toys which tend to be in the smaller sizes. http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/beginners-anal-toys/ The prostate toys hide in the male section, so i'll just throw in a link. http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/prostate-massagers/

    Since it's going to be for his bum i'd definatly get him involved in picking it out, even if he only approached you jokingly, this will be a good way of showing him that you are really okay with it and that you're fine with him getting into it. Some people can feel a little nervous admitting or declaring that they want to try something, so him saying it jokingly might be a sign that he is unsure. He might have been trying to gauge your reaction. Also, it's just generally good for the person to choose what they want.

    Course anything you go with should have a flanged or larger base just to stop it disapearing. Unless he has the worlds most intense medical fetish, then having the toy greet the light of day in the gloved hand of an A&E nurse wont be fun.

    Putting a condom over a toy is a good idea, especially if it's a toy you are going to be sharing, but it isn't essential so long as you give it a really good clean and it isn't a porous material. Silicone, while it tends to be more expensive than things like jelly and rubber, is a wonder material for anal toys. Easy to clean, non-porous and can be boiled. Stay away with silicone lubes with silicone toys though cause they can go to war and it'll be the toy that looses.

    If I haven't covered anything then i'm sure all the other lovely folks here will. Or just ask more questions. =)

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    Vohaman [sign in to see picture]
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    Wonderful answers, thank you very much =)

    Oh yes I'll be sure to use plenty of lube etc whatever we do, and try with fingers first. Thank you both for the links, I will take a look and if he does feel comfortable with it after some experimentation with fingers I'll broach the subject of a toy with him and see how he reacts!

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    Gyrator53 [sign in to see picture]
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    I agree about making the toy purchase a joint venture. It will allow him the opportunity to indicate what sort of activity he has in mind - it's possible he has pegging in mind in which case he can guide the search to the LH strapon page as a way of 'testing the water' as to your thoughts on that idea. In my experience it's hard to summon up the courage to tell your SO about this desire.

    I would also point out that softness in a toy is almost as important as keeping the size in check. If you tense up a hard toy can really hurt even if its small.

    You might want to consider a douche as one of your purchases. He may find it easier to relax if he knows there are going to be no unpleasant intrusions (extrusions?) into your fun.

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    occhiverdi [sign in to see picture]
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    I used anal beads on the OH!... worked a treat... although I did go right upto the last one when he thought I'd only put 3 in!!!

    Any advice on what else I could try on him :) ... I was thinking prostate massager but they are all so intimidating!

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    I would recommend the assberry, not to big so good for beginners and the removable vibrator is great, plenty of lube. Hope this is helpful and still relevant.

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    @S&S thats intersting... will see what I can find but I may go for that! :D

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    i am a fan of the glass dildo, its nice and smooth so its not as threatening when i see it go in.....

    maximus lube is a must

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    occhiverdi wrote:

    @S&S thats intersting... will see what I can find but I may go for that! :D

    I'm sure it counts as one of your 5 a day.

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    DrtyBoy wrote:

    i am a fan of the glass dildo, its nice and smooth so its not as threatening when i see it go in.....

    maximus lube is a must

    the mini glass plug is also good. I got it as a starter anal toy and its quite comfortable. http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=4736

    graded sets are usually good for beginners too as buying anything really small it can become usless in no time

    there's several sets in the anal toys category http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17929

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16561

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    occhiverdi [sign in to see picture]
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    We used these last night http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=2219 and he liked the sensation of them being moved in and out.... Im not sure he'd go for much bigger to be honest!!

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    Occhiverdi - a completely unrelated note, but you should update your blog!

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    occhiverdi [sign in to see picture]
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    guy3232 wrote:

    Occhiverdi - a completely unrelated note, but you should update your blog!

    haahahah... doing it as we speak!!!!

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    Wow! Great update!x

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    My Husband is very unsure about anal for himself, but see's the joy I have and has been gently using this...

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17166

    I think a finger would do the same job, though this vibrates and has a tiny tip, so you can litterally go from nothing and build up to a finger sized insertable, if a finger is too much/too frightening!

    MrsPx

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    I highly recommend these two for beginners..

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=2041

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=12174

    and at thoose prices you can't go wrong!!

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    occhiverdi [sign in to see picture]
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    just waiting to show him the first one when hes home from work

    totally off topic but can you trim anal beads... the ones we have are just too long and well the top two balls are small!

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    The liqourice triplets are great

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=3539

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    Wxx [sign in to see picture]
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    My first proper anal toy was this: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8987

    But it is pretty extreme if you're a bit nervous about it. I deliberately went right in at the deep end!

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