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    Samanthaaa [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi all this is my first ever post so hi (waves)
    Ok so yesterday I thought I would do a bit of shopping on lh and buy a few toys to use with my boyfriend of 8 years, ive always loved toys and wanting to introduce them for ages but I have always been shy and lost my libido and self confidence after 2 children, now after baby number 3 its all come back in tenfolds, he's introduced me to the world of porn which I was hung up on for years and now completely addicted too, so thought this is my cbance to bring toys into the mix, I ordered a vibrating cock ring, a toy for my own personal use and the Lola realistic vagina, last night I showed him a picture of the ring and his reply was wtf is that, so after getting him to read up on it he said OK we will give it a go, now my predicament how do I introduce Lola to him? I think he will enjoy it once he gets his head round it? Won't he?

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    Onlyones [sign in to see picture]
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    You could try blindfolding him and then you can introduce Lola without him actually being able to see what is happening,pretty sure he will be pleasantly surprised.Also the blindfold may lead to further experiments with restraints and then who knows where you will end up.Glad your self confidence returned.

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    Samanthaaa [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you, I have mentioned blindfolds and restraints to him before to test the waters as Ive always wanted to be tied up Myself, he wasnt against the idea but think he can be a bit shy, I have showed him strokers before too which never got a yay or nay, I may do as both of you have suggested and leave it hidden for now then maybe use it on him without his knowing

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    Samanthaaa [sign in to see picture]
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    That's good to know thank you

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    Couple looking to spice things up [sign in to see picture]
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    When we started introducing toys into our sex life we started with a cock ring. I then bought my hubby a lovehoney ultimate stroker he really enjoys that but isn't keen on the realistic strokers.

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    I'm a bit worried about the vibrating cock rings. I'm not exactly in the premature category but definitely not in the porn star level of stamina and think these would be just a bit too much stimulation.

    It's weird, I buy toys mainly for my other half and we have great fun using them together but admitting to using/having a stroker seems a bit too much for some strange reason. I think the blindfold idea is a great one and that he'd love it.

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    The advice to blind fold him then use will only work if you already discuss it and he agrees. If he takes his blind fold off and sees you using something on him without his agreement he could be pretty mad. I know I would be.

    My best advice would be to tell him you got him it, and you love the thought of him using it alone or letting you use it on him, if he agrees, brilliant, if not, leave it in the bedside draw, either curiosity will prevail and he'll try it out or he won't, but you can't be trying to convince him, it's not fair to try and pressure him.

    the thing I always think is: what if the shoe was on the other foot, if he wanted to try water sports or anal or even scat, would you rather he let you know he's interested then leave it to you take it further or make a massive conversation about it and how much you'll love it if you just try it?

    BUT DEFINITELY DO NOT USE IT ON HIM WITHOUT HIM KNOWING.

    would you like it if he peed in you without you knowing because he wants water sports and you don't?

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    Samanthaaa [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you, I'm defo still up for the blindfold idea and do get what your saying young and fun, so may just tell him it came as a freebie and go from there, I think I'm a bit more open minded than him so secretly wish he would suggest something a bit different to the norm, although in reference to your comment about how would I feel if he did it to me, I would be fine, If were talking like for like, I would never attempt to do something I know he would be dead against like for example water sports or anally penetrating him, I know my definate no go areas :)

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    Samanthaaa [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you, I'm defo still up for the blindfold idea and do get what your saying young and fun, so may just tell him it came as a freebie and go from there, I think I'm a bit more open minded than him so secretly wish he would suggest something a bit different to the norm, although in reference to your comment about how would I feel if he did it to me, I would be fine, If were talking like for like, I would never attempt to do something I know he would be dead against like for example water sports or anally penetrating him, I know my definate no go areas :)

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