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    macspants [sign in to see picture]
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    Well that certainly opened my eyes! I guess I am fortunate in that I am generally ignorant about the monthlies for the two women in my life (wife and daughter) as they are both lucky enough to not have it impede on their lifestyle.

    That was some uncomfortable reading but also very enlightening. Huge respect to all those who have such difficult times.

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    MBE did you go to see your GP in the end? How are you doing now?

    Hope you're feeling better

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    macspants wrote:

    Well that certainly opened my eyes! I guess I am fortunate in that I am generally ignorant about the monthlies for the two women in my life (wife and daughter) as they are both lucky enough to not have it impede on their lifestyle.

    That was some uncomfortable reading but also very enlightening. Huge respect to all those who have such difficult times.

    FWIW, I (and I'm sure I'm not the only one) appreciate the crap out of guys who are willing to read and learn rather than going "ew, periods, gross!" and clicking the back button (or, in real life, shutting down the conversation, or whatever). Wish more men would!

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    Hey everyone no i am going this week...however my friends mum works in the ObGen at the hospital nearby and i spoke with her. She seems to think all signs are pointing to PCOS and that i need to see a doctor straight away...including how i am now at 23 getting bad spots when i never once got them as a teen.

    I'm just not sure what to think right now, all i know about that condition is that it really affects your ability to get pregnant so now i'm on a downer again and am promising myself to see a doctor. THEN once i know whats going on i can decide if my life is worth it anymore. I just can't imagine my life without being a mum.

    My cycle is messed up. I bled heavy for a day. Then nothing for a day then came on all over again... My skin is so bad i actually broke down today and cried because no amount of make up will cover it. I think i read somewhere on here that someone suffers from this condition. Any info would be a great help. I want honesty though please give it to me straight.

    Blah im sorry for blabbing on. I've been debating all afternoon and evening if i should post on here because i knew for a fact i would blab. So i've caught up on some reviews and then got on here. Sod it. This place helps me so much!

    And macspants i agree with the above comment! HUGE RESPECT FOR YOU for not shutting this page down and reading. Hence why i actually titled this as 'question for the ladies' because i was sure all men would just be grossed out.! Respect and kudos coming your way! Thats what a REAL man is about!

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    PCOS led to me developing "late onset acne" when i hit my 20's, and not just on my face. The usual places were big, angry boils on my chin, all down my sides from ribs to hips, and in my groin. This has now passed, i get the occasional spot but not boils like i used to, my sides have cleared up (i was left with huge red and purple marks i honestly thought would never go away) and i no longer get them in my groin either, although i do have a few scars on my vulva where hair now won't grow and that looks rather like burn marks.
    As for the period part, i started just after turning 13, and was irregular until i was 23. I never knew one month to the next if i was going to have 2 weeks or as long as 8 weeks between my periods, nor if they would last 3 days or a week. I wore sanitary towels constantly, as i just never knew when i would start, and when i did, it was really heavy. When they finally settled, they were 26 days apart, heavy for 3 days with day 2 the worst, and i'd know it was coming as 12-24 hours before it started i'd get awful cramps that most of the time had me usure if it was a period or if i was suffering digestive issues and would need a bathroom sharpish, as it feels very much like when you eat something you're allergic to and your body tries to get rid of it asap. I struggled massively with periods as my OCD is about using the toilet, germs, and bathrooms, which led to difficulty changing between visits to actually use the toilet. This, due to how heavily i bled let to a lot of accidental leaks, i'd be confined to my sofa sat on at least 2 doubled over bath towels. I don't know if it is part of the PCOS or if it is normal for everyone but i would get a lot of heavy clotting, i don't know if it is possible to tell if your egg was viable or even released or not though, so i can't comment on my fretility as i honestly have no idea if i ovulate. I have never felt the mid cycle pains my mum used to get who did ovulate and didn't have PCOS, when she ovulated, but that may just be i don't get ovulation pains. Again i don't know if this is PCOS related but i had a very heavy discarge the rest of the month that felt like being on a lighter day of a period.

    I did get the implant last june, and until last month i never had any periods, massively reduced discharge, and no cramps. Last month i spotted for around 9 days, and had very mild cramp for a day or two. This month i've been slammed with incredibly bad pains in my stomach, but also my hips and back which i've never had before, although there's been no "fresh" red blood, so i don't think it will last as long as the 9 days, unless its just taking its time getting started. This is normal for the implant though, i had assumed i was one of the 20% who never get a period, but instead it would seem im one of the irregular infrequent menstruators. Either way, it is a damn sight better than dealing with an actual period.

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    Hey, MBE.

    I suffer from PCOS and if you want it straight I'll give it to you that way. It's effin horrible.

    I was diagnosed when I was 24. We wanted to try for our second baby so I had my implant removed and my periods didn't comeback. Then they did, then they went away again ... I gained loads of weight and started getting hair in places I shouldn't, I had hair falling out of places I wanted it and my skin went all to shit ... When my periods did come I was in agony and I could hardly walk at the time I was supposed to ovulate.

    I was diagnosed with PCOS and I do my very best to control it with diet and lifestyle. It's a hormonal imbalance (too much testosterone and estrogen, not enough progesterone if I recall correctly) so weight, stress and all the other things we all contend with in daily life has a massive impact on it. A clean diet is best, though it's best for everyone I suppose. Dairy products aren't too good because of the hormones in them and white carbs are really bad for your insulin levels.

    Pregnancy is very possible, though we've been unsuccessful and are no longer trying. There are many drugs you can be given depending on your circumstances, the first one they usually try being metformin, which controls insulin levels and testosterone to a degree making ovulation more likely. I do actually ovulate, just not particularly strongly and my husband and I don't qualify for further fertility treatment under the NHS as we already have a child so for me my PCOS is classed as subfertility.

    If there's anything else you'd like to know just ask and if I can answer I will :)

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    Ah yes i forgot about the "hair" thing. I have to pluck a few unsightly chest hairs, have to use a hair removal cream for my lady stache, and my eyebrows if left to their own devices for one big inch thick unibrow. I have been told myself like OUCH that i may need to go on metformin, i wasn't told about the white carbs and dairy though, explains my weight problems!

    Having an anxiety disorder doesn't help with the stress factor though, which causes a lot of digestive issues. Not sure if my ridiculously oily face is to do with PCOS, but i am forever having to use a cleanser every few hours or powder and blotting papers as otherwise its shiny and slippery and just awful like i've put babyoil on my face, and i scar VERY easily, every spot i've had in the last 2 years i still have ugly blotches and discolouration from.

    Can also ask any specific question you may have, i'm an open book on this :)

    Quick question OUCH, do you retain water really badly on your period, sometimes no matter how much i drink i retain really badly and don't pee for 48 hours.

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    VirginAngel wrote:

    Quick question OUCH, do you retain water really badly on your period, sometimes no matter how much i drink i retain really badly and don't pee for 48 hours.

    Yep. My ankles swell so badly I can't get my boots on and I have to wear flats for about four days before and a couple of days after my period. I pee like a trooper though, I don't think I've ever gone more than half a day without going. Have you tried drinking highly caffeinated stuff? It's a diuretic, it might help you there :)

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    This is SO badly me! I get hair bad on my belly and over my boobs i have to wax all the time. Do you get stabbing pains randomly in your groin? Like out of no where. My periods are stupid they just dont have a clue how to work. It makes it worse than when i lost my baby my ex told me that it was simply my fault for not being able to look after my own child.

    This is just so much like me its actually painful, im getting butterflies in my belly.

    In answer to the clotting yes i do get that very badly. I get sickness and nausea. I also have to suck alot of engery pills (like lucozade in solid form) because i come over really faint alot.

    VA the toilet part! I am so much that person. I will line a toilet with half of a loo roll before i will even touch it.

    I cant think of any questions now im emotionally ehausted but i will have a think and let you know! Thank you so much ALL of you for the advice. Just the fact that i've been able to talk about this on here and get so many points of view is a massive help.

    THANK YOU. I promise to keep you all updated.

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    I get random twinges and stabby pains in my groin throught the month, never atrributed it to PCOS but thinking about it, it could be.

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    MBE I'm sorry I don't have a lot of advice for you as I don't have PCOS, but I just wanted to tell you that I completely understand your fear of infertility as I'm in the same situation with my endometriosis and anovulation.

    It's a terrifying thought to think I might not ever get pregnant, and it's easy for others to say "you can adopt" etc etc, but I've always dreamed of having my own baby and wouldn't feel I was a proper woman unless I'd been able to carry a baby myself. I often have panic attacks thinking about it, especially when I look at my charts every month and see that they're getting worse. Every month it's like I'm waiting to ovulate and hoping this will be the month, then all my fertility signs dwindle away and I'm left with an anovulatory chart again. When I do ovulate (rarely) my luteal phase is so short that it's highly unlikely implantation would be able to occur.

    However, there is a happy side to this post. I know of several people personally who have PCOS who have managed to get pregnant without any fertility treatments. For pretty much all of them it happened when they'd stopped trying for a baby, and just had just had unprotected sex. Perhaps the stress of trying made their condition worse, IDK. And to make me feel better, one of them had PCOS and endometriosis at the same time! But she has a beautiful little boy now :)

    I know it's not easy to see the good side when it's happening to you, and I understand that. Please come back and chat to us though as we're all here for you, and it's not something you should have to go through alone xxx

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    Sorry i dont have any advice on this .hope you find somewhat solution to feel comfortable

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    Thanks everyone. I have an appoitment for the doctor first week in may (the ealierst i could get seen!). Today has been a bad day i'm cramping up really badly and it actually hurts so badly argh!

    I will keep you posted xx

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    MissBrownEyes92 wrote:

    Thanks everyone. I have an appoitment for the doctor first week in may (the ealierst i could get seen!). Today has been a bad day i'm cramping up really badly and it actually hurts so badly argh!

    I will keep you posted xx

    What happened to your docs appointment today? Please dont say you chickened out.... Tbh...speculation is not good for you, as these symptoms could be anything from the most benign to to the rare... And only the right tests and a gp or specialist can really sort out the various symptoms to come up with a diagnosis, and or a solution if possible. Psos is a tough conditions, and I know several ppl who have this..and still have kids..so try to put that to the back of your mind. Even ppl without this, can have difficulty in having kids, as they put so much stress on themselves while trying, and as soon as you don't...you catch😜 I must admit that with you mentioning the acne and extra hair in places that women don't tend to get hair, does also give me the light bulb it could be psos ..as that is one of the key things that pick it out from the other possible issues. But even if so...there is plenty of support and research into it, and it isn't something that you should get too worried about...as there are ways to manage it. I am the worlds worst at self diagnosing myself, and looking up my symptoms to get answers, but the end of the day...only a pro will be able to get to the bottom of this. And D ON'T skip out of appointments!! Fanny at gp...right?!😄
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    Glad you've got an appointment sorted MBE, hope it all goes well and turns out to be nothing! Will be thinking of you xxx

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    Urgh cramping up so bad.Mainly on my right side but low down and across my left side too :(

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    Have you got any cocodamol to hand? It's the strongest you can get OTC, I sometimes find it helps with strong cramps. Other than that, a heat pad/hot watter bottle as other members suggested might be helpful, if you're able to dig one out.

    Hang in there hun, mind over matter! You can do this! Just lay back and pretend you're on a mountain top in the middle of nowhere, surrounded by happy little goat kids leaping around with an endless stash of pop tarts, or cheese, or whatever floats your boat ;) Maybe a few dozen happy rabbits? It is the wilderness after all...

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    Oh how ilove my rabbit. I want to get the other pink one so i can always have one at hand 24/7 haha.

    Yeah i've taken codiene and mefenamic acid and have my hot water bottle. i'm gonna have a word with my folks tomorrow and see if they can loan me some money to get the heat stuff off of here.

    Meh...

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    I also recommend a magnesium supplement for muscle tension / cramping relief.

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    Vanessa8 wrote:

    I also recommend a magnesium supplement for muscle tension / cramping relief.

    I'm gonna get on this!!! My period is done with (for now but i'm cramping so bad and so hard still i'm ready to cry! So this is a good idea! I actually give my horse this lol! Although maybe it's better i buy a human version ;) haha

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