• Many questions about Anal vibrators (Bad Boy 7 in particular) and use.

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    rudeboy7 [sign in to see picture]
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    I bought the 'Rocks Off' Bad Boy 7 after reading tons of reviews about many people who swore by it (and anal vibrators in general), that they were some of the best things on earth.

    Upon recieving this thing. It is absolutely massive, far bigger than what I thought the measurements would equal up to.

    http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/31r-JO18FjL.jpg

    After checking it out, and looking at some diagrams:
    ---> http://youtu.be/tlaQh8emsrE?t=53s

    ^^(This guy swears by anything from 'Rocks Off')

    I kinda realised that perhaps that final huge bulge is also supposed to fit inside you. As you can sorta see from the video review. Also this guy says here: http://www.amazon.com/review/R3LNDNL7Y90422/ref=cm_cr_pr_viewpnt#R3LNDNL7Y90422

    So I figured that perhaps I wasn't using it correctly, and the toy wasn't actually reaching my prostate. I mean it didn't necessarily feel bad at all, but it definitely didn't feel as good as I expected, or as anyone else swore by.

    The real 'dilemma' here is that, I don't think that final bulge is going to fit inside me. Under any circumstance. If it's supposed to go in, I have noooo idea how I am going to be able to do that. Perhaps with months of training or something. I'm not even sure if it's just, too big, or if the rest of me is too narrow.

    Which brings me to the question, is this thing even safe XD? I mean okay, maybe for a first time anal experimenter, I bit off a bit more than I could chew, and I should have gotten one of the far smaller models. But I kind of wanted the best thing, and everyone swore by this one, so I threw down a lot of money on it.

    My first experience using it wasn't bad like I said, but it wasn't enough to make me try again with it if I can't get anything more out of the toy. It's a pain in the ass to prepare and use over just regular masturbation (pun intended). Though I keep reading about how people are almost religious over pegging, anal vibrators/dildos and basically anything else. I'm open minded and I want to discover almost all avenues of sex and foreplay. So I figured this could be good for me and could be a bit of a gold-mine. (Ok, I'm so sorry, too many anal puns).

    However I don't want to permanently (or even temporarily) hurt myself from exploring, and when I tried to stretch myself so I could fit that final bulge inside. It just really felt like no matter what, it wasn't going to work.

    Before you ask, I was using a good quality water-based lube that almost every site (including this one) sells, and I think I used like 40mL of it or something haha.

    Am I expecting too much out of a first time, with such a big toy? Or am I just bitting off more than I can chew, or am I using this thing incorrectly? Or is it a bit of all three?

    Usually I can sort out everything myself and I find the most pleasure from trying things on my own without having to ask for advice or whatever. (It's part of the fun) but in this case I think I need a bit of advice.

    In addition to that... it got a bit dirty. I took it out once to properly examine again if i was using it correctly and I had to clean it a bit. After I finally came I had to clean it again. Is it normal that anal vibrators get so... dirty? I went to the bathroom about 45-55 minutes before using it and I hadn't eaten anything in about 8 hours. I figured this is probably the right time to give it a go, and I'd read that you should consider using anal toys/vibrators around this time. Still I wasn't expecting quite the mess.

    The final question is that my balls got pretty sore afterwards. Sore-r than the rest of me actually. They were aching pretty bad after I came and I didn't even really touch them. Though I did have a pretty big orgasm. I'm not sure it was due to the toy though but it may have helped. Is that a normal thing after using anal toys?

    Anyway, I think that's enough questions for now. Most importantly I want to know how to use this thing, and if I am just not inserting it far enough. And if possible how I am going to fit that large final bulge inside me.

    If you could tell me your experiences with anal vibrators/dildos also that would be great. I just kind of hope that I am not one of those people who 'it's just not for me' :/ I'd like to enjoy this thing, it was expensive and obviously I can't return it.

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    Finding your prostate isn't something that necessarily happens first time, it take a little bit of experimentation and learning to listen to your body.
    Yes maybe you've started at the wrong end of the scale but I'd stick with it a few more times before you abandon hope.
    Everyone's different and I personally have never really gotten on with anything by RO

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    B52 [sign in to see picture]
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    Personally, I didnt find the Bad Boy any good. The shape was more of an issues than the size as there was no way in hell it was ever going to go in all the way as designed to do without the end seriously damaging my internals. I could get the bulb in if I faced it the opposite way round (vibrator to the back ) but then the prostrate is never going to to be in contact. I also found that my balls ached a bit after using the Bad Boy. Mine ended up in the bin and was a complete waste of money. A far less expensive P spot vibrator or vibrating butt plug is a better option in my opinion.

    good luck.

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    DavidB1986 [sign in to see picture]
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    rudeboy7 wrote:

    The real 'dilemma' here is that, I don't think that final bulge is going to fit inside me. Under any circumstance. If it's supposed to go in, I have noooo idea how I am going to be able to do that. Perhaps with months of training or something. I'm not even sure if it's just, too big, or if the rest of me is too narrow. Practice makes perfect. When experimenting with anal play for the first time, you need to take it slow and small. Start with just a lubed finger, then maybe a slim plug/dildo - and then work you're way up. Like any muscle in the body, the sphincter needs to be trained. The more you work it at, the easier it will become.

    Which brings me to the question, is this thing even safe XD? I mean okay, maybe for a first time anal experimenter, I bit off a bit more than I could chew, and I should have gotten one of the far smaller models. But I kind of wanted the best thing, and everyone swore by this one, so I threw down a lot of money on it. Not quite sure what you're getting at, but yes, it's totally safe - provided you use plenty of lube and take it slowly. If it any point it feels painful or uncomfortable, then you stop. Listen to what your body is telling you.

    My first experience using it wasn't bad like I said, but it wasn't enough to make me try again with it if I can't get anything more out of the toy. It's a pain in the ass to prepare and use over just regular masturbation (pun intended). Though I keep reading about how people are almost religious over pegging, anal vibrators/dildos and basically anything else. I'm open minded and I want to discover almost all avenues of sex and foreplay. So I figured this could be good for me and could be a bit of a gold-mine. (Ok, I'm so sorry, too many anal puns).

    However I don't want to permanently (or even temporarily) hurt myself from exploring, and when I tried to stretch myself so I could fit that final bulge inside. It just really felt like no matter what, it wasn't going to work. Again, just referring back to my earlier point - patience, practice and lots of lube is what's needed here. It's not going to magically happen overnight - but keep at it.

    Before you ask, I was using a good quality water-based lube that almost every site (including this one) sells, and I think I used like 40mL of it or something haha. Is it an anal specific lube, or just a standard water-based lube? Anal lubes tend to be a bit thicker, and therefore last a bit longer than standard water-based lubes. This also makes them perfect for easier insertion of toys.

    Am I expecting too much out of a first time, with such a big toy? Or am I just bitting off more than I can chew, or am I using this thing incorrectly? Or is it a bit of all three? It's a little bit of everything. Even the most advanced anal explorer can find it difficult to find the prostate and derive pleasure from it. And even when you do get the right spot, you need to train your prostate to respond to the stimulation. I have only in the past few months been able to achieve something akin to a prostate orgasm - but it's taken me YEARS and lots of experimentation. So jumping in with a bigger toy, and expecting things to happen straight away isn't the best way to approach this. But remember - everybody is different.

    Usually I can sort out everything myself and I find the most pleasure from trying things on my own without having to ask for advice or whatever. (It's part of the fun) but in this case I think I need a bit of advice. Well that's why we're here!

    In addition to that... it got a bit dirty. I took it out once to properly examine again if i was using it correctly and I had to clean it a bit. After I finally came I had to clean it again. Is it normal that anal vibrators get so... dirty? I went to the bathroom about 45-55 minutes before using it and I hadn't eaten anything in about 8 hours. I figured this is probably the right time to give it a go, and I'd read that you should consider using anal toys/vibrators around this time. Still I wasn't expecting quite the mess. If you are finding it excessively dirty, then you could douche before playing. Whilst the colon is generally fairly empty after a bowel movement, if your movements aren't (and I don't know any other way to put this) - the healthiest, or you suffer from any sort of digestive complain (ie. IBS or anything) then you will find that there can be some residual debris left over. A basic bulb douche will help clean that out, making it safer and cleaner to play. Of course, you are not going to want to over-do the douching either - but for added peace of mind, then it's worth a shot.

    The final question is that my balls got pretty sore afterwards. Sore-r than the rest of me actually. They were aching pretty bad after I came and I didn't even really touch them. Though I did have a pretty big orgasm. I'm not sure it was due to the toy though but it may have helped. Is that a normal thing after using anal toys? I can't say this is something that I have ever personally come across, but an internet search revealed it's not totally uncommon - but if it's happening regularly and you are concerned, then a trip to the GP might be an idea, just to put your mind at rest and rule out anything untoward.

    Anyway, I think that's enough questions for now. Most importantly I want to know how to use this thing, and if I am just not inserting it far enough. And if possible how I am going to fit that large final bulge inside me.

    If you could tell me your experiences with anal vibrators/dildos also that would be great. I just kind of hope that I am not one of those people who 'it's just not for me' :/ I'd like to enjoy this thing, it was expensive and obviously I can't return it. When I first started out playing anally, I just used a very small butt plug. As I started to get used to the sensations, I would gradually start increasing the size of the plug, before moving onto dildo's. I only have a couple of prostate toys, but they are probably more at the advanced end of the spectrum (L'Amourose Rosa & Nexus Revo Stealth). I also got a lot of prostate pleasure when I was using the Fun Factory B Balls Butt Plug and the Lovehoney Deluxe Magic Wand - pressing the head of the wand against the T-Bar of the plug whilst it was inserted was something that I can only describe as being like a religious experience.

    Only you know you're body - but the general advice is:

    1) Always take it slow. Make sure you are relaxed.

    2) USE PLENTY OF LUBE. I can't stress this enough. Make it a good quality anal lube (Sliquid and Lovehoney's own Anal Lube are highly recommended).

    3) Practice. Practice. Practice. If nothing explosive happens on the first try - don't give up. Just keep going and you'll soon get there.

    Hello and Welcome :)

    There were a lot of questions, and i've tried to answer as many as I can - and hopefully you'll find it useful and informative - see my bolded responses above.

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    Thanks ever so much guys.

    Now the sad thing about these comments and many others that I have read in other forums is that I'm not really sure how to proceed with this... This toy is really big, and I haven't used it again since the first time. One of my biggest mantras in life is to never try something only just once. However the more I look at this thing, the more that I think I am way out of my league.

    I've read some reviews of L'Amourose toys, and that they are worth every dollar in which they cost.

    Part of me thinks that my toy is going to end up like B52's (great band btw if your name is in refence to it or great shot too!) in the bin, or at least in the storage for a considerable amount of time, i.e. years until I work my way up to being able to enjoy it.

    I won't say that the vibrator was bad, it felt... interesting, maybe evene nice. A few very discreace amount of movements really caused somewhat of a strong 'jump' in my penis, and I must say that when I finally did cum. There was more ejaculate than normal. But after reading what everyone else is experiencing with regards to prostate stimulation. I am starting to feel (with this product) that I am just not going to get there. The biggest and best reviews come from the smaller Rocks Off's toys, and I can't find that many people who really enjoy this toy. I can find a few, but most of them have reviewed hundreds of products (i.e. they're pros and obviously experienced).

    As for lube. I'm using Rocks Off's own Water-Based lube. But no, it's not so sticky.

    My last question is that, how long should I generally wait after going to the bathroom in order to reduce mess? I couldn't find even a vague answer to this anywhere except obviously just "Go to the bathroom beforehand". Like I really actually searched around for some sort of written or videoed explanation and I couldn't find a thing...

    Thanks again to everyone for helping me broaden my sexual horizons. I'll give this thing another shot and see how it goes.

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    DavidB1986 [sign in to see picture]
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    Re: douching, I get best results after a movement, but you'll want to do it at least an hour before you plan to play - just to ensure you are completely clean - sometimes, you don't expel all the water and if you leave anything inside and start playing... Can be messy!

    That's how I do it anyway and I've never had a problem..

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    rudeboy7 [sign in to see picture]
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    My Rocks Off Bad Boy 7 is in the bin...

    I tried again with it this afternoon and to be honest it was a disaster.

    I spent a long amount of time turning myself on. Watching porn and playing around normally. I also used one of my cheaper fleshlights just to start to tease myself. Then I moved to the shower and I started to experiment with trying to find my prostate on my own. It wasn't going too badly but I did notice that I was tighter than usual.

    After a shower and a lot of fooling around, I moved back to the bedroom. The toy had been sitting in some warm water for about 30 minutes and it was nicely warm. I set myself down on the bed, played around for a bit and watched some porn, used my fingers a little more and then covered the toy in lube before trying it.

    This time I couldn't even get it in all the way to the end of the first curve. I tried slowly and carefully, took it out a few times to reapply tons more lube and I tried some differen postions. The thing was, at times it felt like it would almost go in further but when I tried it just seemed to not remotely move. I couldn't really see how far it was in but I could feel that it wasn't very far.

    It was a disaster. In addition to a small amount of mess, there was a solid tablespoon's worth of blood. It didn't hurt that much at all at the time and I had spent a lot longer teasing myself and playing around and basically taking every necessary precaution and action in order to enjoy myself as much as possible.

    In the end with a defeated sigh I took it out slowly, and gave up. After turning myself on really strongly one last time, I resorted back to using my fingers and I am quite sure I found my prostate, or something similar. Maybe not exactly that, but whatever it was that I found, I brought myself into an almost painfuly tense orgasm with 2 to 3 times more ejaculate than normal. It definitely felt a lot more like a deep orgasm than before.

    So... unsure what to make of the toy, except that it resulted in me bleeding. I threw it and my older fleshlight in the bin, along with the towel that I put under me. Then I washed my sheets in 95C because a little tiny bit of blood at seeped through the towel.

    In the future, I will experiment more with my hands (though I must say that the toy did a good job of making it easier to use my fingers, though I think any toy would achieve this and in a far less painful way) and I will also get a smaller, more suitable toy.

    Thanks again for everyone's help and I learned a lot of lessons with this purchase.

    I'll write a review momentarily.

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    B52 [sign in to see picture]
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    rudeboy7, sorry to hear about your misfortune. You should never experience bleeding and sounds to me that you probably put a bit too much pressure on yourself to enjoy this toy and werent relaxed enough . My suggestion would be to give yourself a week or so for your arse to heal up before trying anything else and then after that try a p massager or butt plug to get used to having something up there. You will be amazed at just how much you can stretch once you are able to relax the muscles fully but the key is never to push yourself too hard as it's quite easy to cause an injury. And as you already know, use a good lube. Personally, I wouldnt be trying to arouse my self before hand but rather concentrate on the task at hand and relaxing by deep breathing and chilling out since once your arse is stressing out and clentching, you aint going to be able to get a toy up there.

    good luck

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    I'm sorry you had a bad experience. You know lovehoney has a great returns policy right?

    Get it out of the bin, clean it. Contact customer support and arrange to send it back then You haven't lost any money!!!

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    pinkanimal wrote:

    I'm sorry you had a bad experience. You know lovehoney has a great returns policy right?

    Get it out of the bin, clean it. Contact customer support and arrange to send it back then You haven't lost any money!!!

    I'm not sure he bought it from LH. The way the first post reads, it seems like that, and if he had, he probably wouldn't have had the issues he did RE: not realising sizing.

    But.

    On the off chace he did, and has rescued it from the bin; clean it, save it. Take advantage of the 2 for £15 plug offer and buy a medium and large plug. Or a small and medium. Whatever, like, a 2" and 3" girth plug. Play with them for a bit. In six weeks, buy a bigger one, depending on what feels comfortable.
    You mentioned that to be comfortable with the Bad Boy, you were expecting years of training. You probably aren't. I went from no experience to comfortably using a 4.5" girth plug in three months. With pretty infrequent play, if I'm honest. If you go steady and listen to your body, you can get up to that magical 5.5" in very little time.

    Equally, if you haven't kept it, but still want to explore anal play, proceed as above pretty much anyway. Bullets on the base of plugs give good vibes, and when you feel you want something deeper, you can try a new prostate massager, or vibrating plug or yadda yadda..... There are a lot of options, basically, so don't be disheartened!

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