• Too much too soon?

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    MrsMcX [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm sorry if you think this is rude, but a lot of people have given the same opinion on this matter, but you're only replying to what you want to hear.

    You want to believe that he wants this, but at the moment all you know is that you want this. He might not be interested in the slightest and that is why you need to talk to him properly.

    You "yes stacey i wonder if it was just i hadnt gotten him into the mood yet." - maybe it's just because you've brought out all of these kinky toys without telling him and it's totally overwhelming for him.

    You need to listen to others opinions and talk with him and find out the real problem rather than just guessing. You'll get no where and make things so much worse if you can't learn to communicate with each other and presume that strangers will give you the answers you want to hear.

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    Kittyondrugz [sign in to see picture]
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    I am planning to buy a crop or a flogger and hope the same doesn't happen..Got me a little scared,guys.

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    StHubbins [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm coming from the opposite side. OH likes an occasional spank with my hand, but I'm worried she'd run for the hills if I got lots of hitty things or even talked about it if we're not in the heat of passion.

    If I'm lucky I'll get something to test as this has worked in the past. "Look what LoveHoney have sent to test". Then we give it a go and it gets accepted (or not). Alternative might be something for her birthday that she can use on me and then we end up both using it.

    Maybe start again. Ask to be spanked in the heat of passion (just by hand). If that goes OK, leave it a few sessions then ask to be spanked with a hitty thing in the heat of passion.

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    DavidB1986 [sign in to see picture]
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    Communication is key guys. Just put yourself in their shoes. If there was something you weren't sure of, and they ambushed you with it and said "I want us to do this" - I'm sure you'd feel the same.

    Its like my other half saying "oh I've booked a table at a fish restaurant" when he knows I don't like fish even though he really does. "oh but I really want you to eat fish because I really like it". Ok it's a silly example but I think the point stands.

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    matyhaty [sign in to see picture]
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    Comms is the key.

    Wrap them up, take time in prepping them. As with many things, your timing is everything, so pick the first day to 'give' him this, with all the instrcutions you want off him.

    Start it all off on the right foot, and your get great things

    Pick your times badly, and your be disappointed!

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    I am reading all the replies and taking them all in. I just don't know how to respond to them so I'm not lol. But I am reading everything and grateful for all the help and tips.
    The heat is a huge factor as Is tiredness but with 3 dogs and 2 kids will we ever not be tired? :/

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    StHubbins wrote:

    I'm coming from the opposite side. OH likes an occasional spank with my hand, but I'm worried she'd run for the hills if I got lots of hitty things or even talked about it if we're not in the heat of passion.

    If I'm lucky I'll get something to test as this has worked in the past. "Look what LoveHoney have sent to test". Then we give it a go and it gets accepted (or not). Alternative might be something for her birthday that she can use on me and then we end up both using it.

    Maybe start again. Ask to be spanked in the heat of passion (just by hand). If that goes OK, leave it a few sessions then ask to be spanked with a hitty thing in the heat of passion.

    Love! Lovehoney needs a category for hitty things!

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    Yes lol bondage is a scary word. Let's reword them to hitty things

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    FrozenAngel [sign in to see picture]
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    If you search 'Hitty things' in the shop part of the site, you will get spankers, floggers ect! :P

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    capricorn13 [sign in to see picture]
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    We have bought a couple of beginners "hitty" things but have never really given them a full trial as I'm always afraid our adult children will hear (or the neighbours, as the windows are wide open in this heat!)

    However, we have just been sent this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26090

    to test so we had better get practising so I can write a full and honest review.

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    BrumGuy [sign in to see picture]
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    We've got a draw under the bed full of toys. They don't get used every session, as there would'nt be enough hours in the day or night put together. Some don't see the light of day for months, but they are there if we both get the desire.

    Sometimes I may look at something and think about it several times, if I went and bought it without her approval then she may have the same reaction as your partner. It's just means that we're not on the same page.

    The time will come when you will both want the same thing. Then you'll be glad you have them and you'll just have to dust them down.

    Don't be despondent.

    You will enjoy. x

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    Well apparently tonight I'm getting attached to the door and spanked!!!

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    Whoooo!! Have fun!

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    Well y&f he's thought of a new use for the hard restraints kit.
    Lol on the door!!!
    I can't wait!

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    MattB [sign in to see picture]
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    Have fun!

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    Young and fun95 [sign in to see picture]
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    That's a brilliant idea! I'm too lazy to stand up the whole time lol hope it's amazing for you. I'm being tied up again tonight too, love the hard restraints kit!

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    BrumGuy [sign in to see picture]
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    Good for you Girl. Hope it goes well for both of you.

    I'm in the process of welding an 'A' frame to slot into the chimney breast above the over mantle mirror. I think it will work well with wrist and ankle spreaders, along with a blindfold of cource.

    No rest for the wicked. lol

    Enjoy yourselves x

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    Nice brumguy. Hubby's a welder :)
    Lol

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    pinkanimal [sign in to see picture]
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    Well what can I say??
    Last night I found myself tied to a door while he used the paddle, crop, flogger and feather tickler on me.
    Then tied to the settee while he used three different toys on me and then finally taken from behind over the back of and then on the sofa as well!!!
    I must have leaned on a nerve as my front of my leg went numb and still is!!!
    He admitted he doesn't get anything from spanking me but did notice I was wetter than I have ever been.
    Hubby admitted that he had to look at a lot of videos and pictures to work out what he was doing! Bless him! I had no idea he researched! That must be love!
    Certainly was an experience to say the least!
    It's not going to become a daily occurance but as a treat once in a while.
    The hard restraints kit however I imagine will be a weekly used thing !!
    Very happy, content and loved up today xx

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    wildflower [sign in to see picture]
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    Sounds like you had a great night Pink! Lovely that your husband made all that effort to please you. He sounds a bit like my husband, don't think he gets much out of spanking but he knows how much I like it. We haven't had the chance to try out our restraints kit yet ( we only have the house to ourselves weekdays ) Hubby's not massively into being restrained but I can't wait, even just being held down during sex is a massive turn on for me. Hope my experience will be as good as yours sounded!

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