• How to suggest trying role play

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    Iwish [sign in to see picture]
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    Have you lovely people got any advice on how to suggest trying some role play with my wife without feeling stupid and embarrassed.we have never discussed anything like this before.

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    Scorpius12 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Iwish, I have found a couple of previous threads about role-play, which could be worth you having a read through, as they may be useful. Hope this helps :) xx

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/lingerie-and-clothing/902096-role-play-ideas/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/off-topic/676184-role-playing/

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    Frankie21 [sign in to see picture]
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    I recommend having some good old fashioned vanilla sex first - lots of loving, lots of kisses, lots of caresses. Woo her. Make her feel special. I think it's easier in the afterglow to feel able to be frank. Then just tell her - maybe it's something you've seen, something someone has talked to you about and that you'd really like to try it. It would only be courteous to then ask her if there's anything she'd like to try! You may be surprised at the answer.

    If you get a tentative agreement of interest from her, set aside a special date to try it out. Shop together for props, explore any story line together. Sometimes texting each other that sort of stuff can be both easier and more thrilling.

    Alternatively, if she doesn't mind porn, what about finding some that features that particular type of role play? As you watch you can tell her how much it's turning you on.

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    DavidB1986 [sign in to see picture]
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    Have you discussed fantasies with each other? There could be something there already. I also agree with a slow passionate session - lots of romance and it works wonders. It's how I got the OH to consider bringing toys into the bedroom, when he was completely prudish and considered it 'too dirty'.

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    Iwish [sign in to see picture]
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    DavidB1986 wrote:

    Have you discussed fantasies with each other? There could be something there already. I also agree with a slow passionate session - lots of romance and it works wonders. It's how I got the OH to consider bringing toys into the bedroom, when he was completely prudish and considered it 'too dirty'.

    No we haven't discussed fantasies at all and we have been married 14 years.so I feel a bit embarrassed bringing it up now.

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    Never feel embarassed! Communication in relationships, regardless of how long it has been, is KEY! Maybe discuss it over a bottle of wine - just keep it casual. And make sure that you make her understand that you are not suggesting this out of dissatisfaction with your current sex life (which we know it isn't) but some people might be sensitive and take it as a criticism! Maybe just say it's something you'd like to try once - if it works - then great - she will probably more open to it in the future - just keep it nice and simple.

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    OR you could do what I did, got a sexy maids outfit for her and had been saving it as I wasn't sure how to approach it, one night we were going out and she was doing the usual moaning about not knowing what to wear and not wanting to really go out, so I went in grabbed the outfit, threw it on the bed and said "well here's something you haven't worn yet, and it's up to you if we go out or not"

    Heard from from it was a sh1te night and we were lucky we missed it..... if only they knew how lucky

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    Iwish [sign in to see picture]
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    Don't think I would have the guts to do that but I like your style.

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    Don_Don [sign in to see picture]
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    Well you never know until you ask, I know afterwards she actually said she'd always wanted to wear something like that but wasn't sure if I'd be freaked out or thought she was wierd..... She's ordering the next outfit

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    Never works for me. Married 30 years', but er indoors' still wants the light off. Would not matter if you praise her til kingdom come. Yet she loves reading "naughty novels", but never seems to want to try the simplest of things. Have a great sex life otherwise, so cannot moan, but would be nice to maybe try an outfit or something.

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    Iwish [sign in to see picture]
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    Tiswas wrote:

    Never works for me. Married 30 years', but er indoors' still wants the light off. Would not matter if you praise her til kingdom come. Yet she loves reading "naughty novels", but never seems to want to try the simplest of things. Have a great sex life otherwise, so cannot moan, but would be nice to maybe try an outfit or something.

    I know how you feel.

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    malechauvinist [sign in to see picture]
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    I want to try roleplay too!

    It's such a vicious circle though - suggest it to someone who's experienced at it and they're not interested because they have to wait for you to learn the ropes. But suggest it to someone who's never tried it before and generally they laugh and think it's just something teenagers do.

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    kittencub [sign in to see picture]
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    I wish we could do role play hubby was fantastic at it before now I'd be on my knees him doing the accent. Mind he loves phoning me and pretending to be PC Pity it can't lead anywhere. Talk fantasies if you can biggest turn on going, if you do her favourite one it can be mind blowing

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