• Is LH a den of sexual deviancy?

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    kittencub [sign in to see picture]
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    Alastor wrote:

    kittencub wrote:

    I love it on here, I had teething troubles with my tablet I kept making sentences and full stops where they weren't needn't sorted my spacing out, now no problem love the advice here and the brilliant laughs people have with about my PC crush hubby has no problem me being here.

    Does one want one's crushes to be politically correct?

    No incorrect then Peter can spank me, Oh Yes got my audio book.got the tenplate for the duvet cover looks gorgeous can't wait to roll about on that

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    MrsMcX wrote:

    To be totally honest with you, I kind of agree with him. Most of the forum is really friendly, and you're right, there is some awfully good advice and I genuinely do believe that this forum helps hundreds of relationships...mine included!! The advice given here is amazing, and expands across a broad range, from sexual health problems to what butt plug to buy next. However, specifically on the good morning thread there is some flirting, but I just think of it as people being nice to other people and giving them a compliment, but as an outsider looking in, it could look like it was something it's not.

    +1

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    myghost [sign in to see picture]
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    when it comes to adult forums attached to sex toy retailers you always get good advice good discussions good banter nothing too hardcore in the off topic chat threads there is some flirting but i don't think it's anything you wouldn't do with friends down the pub.
    if your on the outside looking in you don't get the full picture if the boyfriend spent a bit of time browsing he'd see it's not all flirting and perving
    during my time here i've learnt some really helpful stuff certainly better than any advice you might get on yahoo answers

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    SexiBexi13 [sign in to see picture]
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    My husband was a little sceptical to start with but after I showed him the whole site and that almost all of the threads are for fun or advice, he was much more welcoming.

    It has actually opened his eyes a little and we have bought more toys because of it.

    I think its a great site and it gives people a chance to talk about things they are worried about and get advice without being embarrassed for any reason.

    I also agree with the others, I think if he had his own account and could see how innocent it is, he wouldn't be at all worried :)

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    Mike13 [sign in to see picture]
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    How sad that anyone can see this site as sexual deviation. My OH introduced me to the site and our sex life and togetherness has entered an upward spiral. We have made a number of purchases from the site and found them a great enhancement to our closeness.

    My OH has become a new woman since joining (or the first OH has been abducted by ET's gang) and I wouldn't change her back. Both of us have improved our basic skills and knowledge.

    There needs to be a suck-it and see approach to life experiences and to write something off, such as this site, after a brief look would appear facile. LH has been a positive experience for us. Sorry but I must say if you are averse to sex and making it optimum for your OH, don't comment or get involved

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    Peitho [sign in to see picture]
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    Again, thanks to everyone who's commented here. Should clarify Mike sexual deviancy was my term for what I felt he was saying. He's not in any way adverse to sex and optimising it for both of us, he is just offended and has a "moral" problem with some of what I considered to be completely innocent day to day chit chat.

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    naughty mum [sign in to see picture]
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    I think this site is a bit like the embarassing bodies motto." There's no shame.... We are all the same"
    I have found this site a breath of fresh air in the face of porn/ social hookup sites. This is FAR from what is on offer here
    I find that PPl are allowed to almost have group therapy here! Anything and everything can be discussed, without judgement.. Or dare I say it shame.
    Our country is full of ppl that find it hard to discuss things about sex and sexuality in a safe environment where it is not seedy.
    What tends to happen in bedrooms stays there.... And misconceptions and in some cases suffering in silence, are aired safely and I feel quite responsibly by the fellow posters here.
    Many years ago, it was frowned on to be masterbating as a woman.... Here ppl get advice and support. At 42, I am learning so much from this site and the recommendations here. You can find a few bad apples in any barrel, but I have not seen any Here
    Tell your partner that this is group therapy if anything!
    I used to have issues with my ex constantly on porn and hookup sites, as I found it demeaning. This forum and website is liberating helpful and supportive, and help ppl. explore more of themselves without judgement.
    I would get your partner to sign up and tip a toe in the water... We don't bite... Get him to look up say something he feels happy reading/ talking about. If he isn't into bondage..... Well you don't have to open the posts.
    Curiosity might tempt him to look into areas of play that he had not thought of before, and there is usually someone here that can give real advice. I have taken a look at things that I never got to do with my ex, and am looking forward to putting some advice into practice;)we all can do with a bit of flavour in our lives,... Having a play, and experiment and find info from ppl how to start etc can be very helpful
    As a mum of 2 boys and a divorcee, if and when my boys get to the stage of exploring their sexuality( I am not nieve that they won't) I would be Much happier them being on this site than any other.
    There's an endorsement for you. :)
    Naughty mum xx

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    naughty mum [sign in to see picture]
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    Peitho.... Hugs.... You never know yourself till you push yourself outside your comfort zone. In my youth.... I went on a diving hols with our college scuba club... To a naturist resort! I never thought I would go in the nud..... Let alone do the ultimate challenge of breakfast shopping in the on site food shop starkers!!
    We need colour in our lives, and every so often, a helping chat with ppl that will not judge can help us put that smile in our cheeks;)

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    Mike13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Peitho Hugs from me too. If I got it wrong I'm sorry. Sounds like some hand-holding and TLC is needed. I wish you well in all matters. LH has enhanced my/ our togetherness, so I'm a fan.

    Good luck for the future.

    mike

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    Hello,

    I personally do not post in the chatty threats like Good morning etc. I just stick to the advice seeking onces or discussing particular toy etc. So if there is mild flirting in the chatty ones, I do not know. I guess there may be very mild flirting going on, but if both parties are ok with it, then fine. This is definitely not forum for people having cyber. So he is worried bit too much I guess.

    Lot of us just come here for advise, or to advise others.

    I think he is bit worried too much. Maybe he should go and spend bit of time here reading? I mean my ex did not have any problem with me being here. He knew I would not do anything behind his back and I came here just to chat and get maybe some opinions.

    And honestly, lot of us do not have revealing pictures. I decided not to put my photo up and neither did others. Potentially someone could come and check the pictures up, but you have to be registered to do it plus all pictures get checked by LH so that person would be much better off somewhere else on the internet.

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    Treacletoes [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Peitho, I can totally sympathise with you as I have had a similar experience with my oh recently, and what you explained at the start of this thread was exactly the same situation.

    One of the things that I feel is that is a really safe enviroment on here and I do not feel embarrased asking questions etc as we are all like minded people who give us their honest opinions which I think is great. Yes, I understand where the other halves are coming from that some sites have people on it that are looking to be pervy or whatever and we do have to be a bit careful but I would not say that of this site. I have gained some fantastic information from the people on here and yes we all have a little flirt once in a while but it is all done with great care and with consideration to others. My oh has access to all my posts and he can view these at any time, I just feel that sometimes they may get a little jeaulous that we are getting some attention or a compliment.

    I will continue on here like you but just so that you know that there are others that have been in a similar situation. For me this is a great sourse of information for us both and if I can get this with the added bonus of sharing some ideas with others who is going to benefit??

    Best wishes FF x x

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    my hubbys always said that Lovehoney has broaden my mind i think hes right ;)

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    This is a great site for mature adults who like to be adventurous in their sex lives. The only downside for me is that if I'm not getting sex it kind of frustrates me reading about people who are, so I go awol for a bit.

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    Peitho [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks again guys and especially FF, very good to know we're not the only ones so really appreciate your input. Will stick to reviews, a few word games and straight forward advice threads :-)

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    Peitho

    Your husband needs his eyes opened. I turned to this site for help with a major problem and had some fantastic support and help. Tell him from me (a long-term married man) that he's got nothing to fear here, and perhaps might learn something.

    All the best

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