• confused....help?!

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    kayliixx [sign in to see picture]
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    Ok so I would class myself as straight, I have only ever had sexual experiences with men other than kissing a few girls when drunk. But recently ive found myself thinking bout girls aswell, none in particular but more what it would be like with a girl. I dont know if this is because ive became more open with my sex life with OH and been more open to trying things or if there is another reason.

    I have no issue with what sexual orientation I would fall under just always considered myself straight and these thoughts etc are new. Any suggestions? Thank you xx

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    Mr-Mrs-Sexy [sign in to see picture]
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    perfectly normal and i reckon there will be alot of the female members coming along shortly to reasure you that your not alone :)

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    blonde vixen13 [sign in to see picture]
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    Just because you have thoughts about people of the same sex as you it does not mean you are gay/lesbian/bi. It's perfectly normal to be curious.
    I'm a straight married women. I've experimented with other women in my late teens/early 20s because I was interested. I personally enjoy kissing women more than men but I would never say I was bi or lesbian. I know I would not want a relationship with another person of the same sex because I personally love sex when a willy is involved.
    I think about women and threesomes when I have naughty dreams but if I walked into a club I would never actually fell the urge to try it on with another women.
    If you feel the need to act on your fantasys then maybe your sexual orientation is not straight. Only time will tell, but relax and go with the flow x

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    kayliixx [sign in to see picture]
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    I wouldnt say I feel the need to act on feelings, but I have considered experimenting to see if I can figure it out. I tried to talk to OH but he just went on one abouthow he didnt want a 3some as im insecure etc etc.

    So its hard to talk it through xx

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    northern boy [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi K

    I`ve been with myOH for nearly 4 years,it was`nt long after i met her that she told me that she had a ffm with her previous partner and when they split up she had a ffm with her friend and her husband twice.She said it was just fun she enjoyed it,but at the same time she does`nt feel drawn towards women.I asked her if she would do it again and she said that it would be up to me. I dont mind her being with another woman as this is something she tried before she met me and obviously enjoyed it.The outcome of our conversation is that she would do it again if the time was right and she felt attracted to another woman,so i`m ok with that. She also likes watching girl girl porn.

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    kayliixx [sign in to see picture]
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    Yeah I like watching girl on girl porn but wouldnt say it turns me on as such haa xx

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    sensuali.tea [sign in to see picture]
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    Personally, I think it's normal to have thoughts about the same sex. It's natural curiousity. My situation is quite similar, as my sexual experiences have always been with men, (apart from drunken kissing with women) but I realised that even if I did find some women sexually attractive and even though I am turned on by lesbian porn, I wouldn't want a relationship with a woman.

    It's difficult because the more I thought about what orientation I was, the more I couldn't explain it and then I just became more confused. In the end, it's easier to not give myself a label, because at the end of the day, there isn't always a label for everything. I wouldn't worry to much about what orientation you are. You're you and that's what counts.

    I hope you can find some sense in my rambling, and that it helps x

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    kayliixx [sign in to see picture]
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    Yeah it makes sense, thank you everyone xx

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    Bluebells [sign in to see picture]
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    I know this is easy to say and harder to do - but my suggestion is not to worry about labels and just follow your instincts. You are who you are, and all of go through little phases of fancying something a bit different. And most of us probably are aroused by the thought of something which we might not actually want to do in real life.

    if your thoughts about women continue, well then maybe you are attracted to women, and if so, although that realisation might take a bit of getting used to, ultimately the best thing is just to go with the flow. You don't have to translate those desires into actual activity, but if you did - well, you might have fun!

    Personally, I have only ever been attracted to women, as I now know, but growing up it took me a long time to realise and accept that was who I was and that I'm a lesbian. But as I got older I was able to embrace and enjoy my sexuality.

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    Suzywong [sign in to see picture]
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    It is wrong to put a label on what is in effect human instinct. Its only society as a whole that seems to have done this so that it can put people into pigeon holes and form opinions on who we are what we do etc.

    I'm a married women with children ...I concider myself Bi because thats the label that society has said describes what my sexual likes are...But there are lots of sides to this, me being bi is a sexual thing. I do not and would not have a relationship with a women although I do have reg Fem partners I play with. The only tie is sexual enjoyment and being able talk openly and freely and indulge in whatever sexual play we want without being judged.

    I do find women attractive as well as men and both sexes offer different things to a sexual relationship. As others have said I too prefer to kiss women but could not do without the penetration of sex from a man.

    Modern day society has to lighten up to peoples sexual like dislike etc and stop connecting these to how they are as people.... Go with the flow and enjoy the feelings there is nothing wrong with them they are natural and lovely.

    As I said I have a very open Married relationship...My Husband is a TV and is also on here...Fionanwtv. We love each other dearly and respect each others likes dislikes etc and respect each others sexuality without it being a threat to how we feel about each other.. We are both Bi and love being so but that does not mean we do not love each other or that it changes us as people inside.

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    kayliixx [sign in to see picture]
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    Thank you everyone, I think I will just go with flow n see what happens haa. Although I defo am still maybe up for some experimentation at some point though xx

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    happyfeet69 [sign in to see picture]
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    hi kaylii, thats exactly what i was feeling like a few years go, then one of my close friends and myself ended up kissing after a drunken night out , we were both embarrassed the next day as we hadboth never never done anything like this before , couple of weeks laterwe ended up in bed together having sex (even tho we didnt have a clue what to do lol) it was really lovely ,so sensual and erotic. since then we have had a couple of threesomes with a man aswell and that was awsome ,and the man loved it too ha ,

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    kayliixx [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi happyfeet69 yeah im going to take everyones advice and just go.with the flow and if it hapens it happens if not no big deal xx

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