• How to tell my OH i want to try things

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    Iwish [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi I am after some advice and opinions from you lovely people,my and my wife have been married for 14 years and our sex life has been ok'ish nothing out of this world just pretty vanilla,we have never talked about fantasies or sex related things before and sex has felt a bit of a chore,we are still young I am late thirties and my wife has just turned 40,married life has been stressful I lost both my parents and my wife lost her mum all within a short time of each other and my wife hasn't regained her body since our daughter was born 6 years ago and has now been diagnosed with IBS.but I want to try different things in the bedroom but I don't know how to broach the subject without feeling a fool and embarrassed, I have bought her lingerie in the past but didn't go down well but I have a thing for nurses and also would like to try domination I would love her to be a domme these are quite recent feelings but don't know how she would react and would it spoil things,so how do I broach the subject of trying new things and discussing what we both want.sorry for waffling.

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Iwish, I'm sure you'll get plenty of replies, but there are quite a few threads with hints and tips on this kind of subject already, if you go digging into archives.

    Here are a few recent ones:

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/942424-so-frustrated/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/943270-how-do-i-bring-myself-say-what-i-need/

    http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/941633-partner-not-on-the-same-page/

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    Iwish [sign in to see picture]
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    Thanks I will go digging when I get chance,but I would still like people's advice as well.

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    snow38 [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi Iwish,

    Please do havea read through the threads that sum sub has posted, there is some brilliant advice on there. Im working my way through the advice myself.

    :0)

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    Gentle giant [sign in to see picture]
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    Hi I wish welcome to the forums. Sorry it does seem a little cold or impersonal but we do all want to help and the reasons for the guys referring you to these threads, they are all current and are very close to your question. Please keep posting.

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