• D/s & Pain

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    KinkyX2 [sign in to see picture]
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    I've always found that being psychologically dominated is a much more powerful experience than being physically dominated.

    The mere suggestion that it may be weeks or even months before I can have sex again with the OH unless I behave, is enough to make me behave. More so than any threat of whipping or spanking, etc.

    The mind fuck is the greatest weapon any Dominant could have over me.

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    Liquidsugar [sign in to see picture]
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    Fluffbags wrote:

    Liquidsugar wrote:

    I agree totally Fluff, that's how I see it too.

    Power exchange is great fun!

    I think porn is a big "offender" for putting across the idea that domination equals rough sex at the very least...but usually pain. This happens in almost every BDSM style porno but when you think about it, its logical....People watch porn to watch a fantasy. Mind fucks, teasing and denial do not make for a 30 minute movie. These are the kind of things that happen over days, weeks, heck years and it can be subtle...so not a great story for a quick porn movie. I think that is one of the main reasons porn tends to focus on BDSM = pain....because it is the most visually striking and can be completed within that movie time.

    Maybe? Just a theory! lol

    That's a very good point! I hadn't thought about it like that before, but that certainly sounds very plausible.

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    You can easily do a mind fuckery shoot which would sell and last for 30mins. You just need to make sure it's done well. There are a good few out there =) I focus a lot on mind fucking, and often make it last as long as possible, but have learned how to also fit it in an hour session if needed =)

    That's reminded me, I need someone to come and eat some chocolate for me, so I can replace the the content within the wrapping with pink sweets. Ah having a sub with a phobia of pink = awesome.

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    lumberjack [sign in to see picture]
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    Lady ness do you allow your sub pleasure whenever they want, or do you restrict them.

    Have you used prostate milking if there gender is male,if so what method and do you give them pain at the same time as orgasm, so they feel pain as a nice stimulation.

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    lumberjack [sign in to see picture]
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    Lady ness do you allow your sub pleasure whenever they want, or do you restrict them.

    Have you used prostate milking if there gender is male,if so what method and do you give them pain at the same time as orgasm, so they feel pain as a nice stimulation.

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    lumberjack [sign in to see picture]
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    Lady ness do you allow your sub pleasure whenever they want, or do you restrict them.

    Have you used prostate milking if there gender is male,if so what method and do you give them pain at the same time as orgasm, so they feel pain as a nice stimulation.

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    Allybeatle,

    I use various methods depending on the submissive and the client.

    For example they may pay for one thing but not be able to cope with it, so I work to find things that leave them fulfilled in one way or another, within the time we have.

    I restrict some subs pleasures, and others I multiply them. Other do want pain, they desire it, love it, and even nurse their bodies to be able to withstand their desires, then I will provide what I can within the realms of the law and safety for them.

    Although what you're talking about, I'm not sure what you mean. I always make sure my subs are comfortable with strap-on, as the rectum is a very delicate area. I do push some past pleasure which makes them feel pain but determination to go on.

    Anyway, really, it's just different from person to person, and if I listed everything that went on, we'd be here forever =)

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    Ness, where would I find those porn videos? Would love to see more porn like that around.

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    Ashe66 [sign in to see picture]
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    While I love the control aspect of it all, for me personally, pain is an essential part of dominating someone, but not the only part, for example when the sub is going to smoke, I often take the lighter and light it for her, a small thing, but yet still controlling.

    For me the dynamic is about much more than control (or lack of it), but evolving together and exploring new things, to in a sense become better people, as BDSM offers limitless potential to help you in day to day life achieve things you might struggle with otherwise, exercise, sleeping at the right time, etc, etc, even housework... but over all making you happy.

    Pain and D/S isn't bad at all, it's just pretty much the most common thing linking most people together in the community. People on the outside might not understand it, but for a community so determined to be secretive, do you really blame them for not understanding?

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    @fluffbags check out clip for sale, many professional doms use them and then their info gives more to others.

    I'm on the wrong device to link now.

    But @ashe on my site I talk about some mental 'pains' I put a sub through via control.

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    @fluffbags check out clip for sale, many professional doms use them and then their info gives more to others.

    I'm on the wrong device to link now.

    But @ashe on my site I talk about some mental 'pains' I put a sub through via control.

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    @fluffbags check out clip for sale, many professional doms use them and then their info gives more to others.

    I'm on the wrong device to link now.

    But @ashe on my site I talk about some mental 'pains' I put a sub through via control.

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    lumberjack [sign in to see picture]
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    I feel if you want control. you should take away pleasure for a bit. To get good control over your sub.

    prostate milking makes perfect sense as you feel empty and not in the mood at all.

    maybe lady ness needs to get this into her repertoire of tricks as it is easy to achieve with a tens and a special tens rectal probe!!

    If pain is what you want just put the power up a little lol!!

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    ERM no. Remember different things work for different people. It may not be for you, but for others, different things work for their body, mind, and sense of well being.

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    Lady Ness [sign in to see picture]
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    ERM no. Remember different things work for different people. It may not be for you, but for others, different things work for their body, mind, and sense of well being.

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    lumberjack [sign in to see picture]
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    Sorry lady ness again I have not proofed my writing before sending did not mean to offend. I am truly sorry no offence intended!!

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    lumberjack [sign in to see picture]
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    Sorry lady ness again I have not proofed my writing before sending did not mean to offend. I am truly sorry no offence intended!!

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