• The things you'll live without

    McGlovin [sign in to see picture]
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    I have had to realise the things in life that I'll never achieve is growing as my age increases. Many of these things are sexual as my wife and I just don't share many of the same sexual desires. She is very vanilla and I've discussed here before her lack of desire to even wear lingerie for me let alone anything more. I am trying to find ways to release these wants (not porn) and not have them pent up inside maybe leading to an issue.

    I would list the things I want most want that I'll never get are

    To eat her pussy

    To tie her up/ gentle bondage

    To watch her masturbate

    Let me cum in her mouth

    Anal (although I'm not massively interested, just want her to try it incase she's one of those rare ones that love it)

    Anyone else have desires they know will not be satisfied?

    rose hip [sign in to see picture]
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    I'll never be a mother and at this point the hope is that I might be able to work again, but with nothing like a career.

    The more you focus on what isn't, the less room you have for what is.

    McGlovin [sign in to see picture]
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    Wow nothing like real problems to make realise how selfish and douchy I sound.

    Vindico [sign in to see picture]
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    Never feel guilty or selfish for having desires and wants, we all have them and we're all entitled as individuals to do what we can to fulfill them. I've been with a vanilla person who opened up quite a bit when I surprised her with something but of course your mileage may vary and you don't want to surprise her too much and make her feel uncomfortable.

    goblingirl1980 [sign in to see picture]
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    It us very unlikely I will ever have a threesome as I'm now in a committed relationship again and although it is very bdsm orientated we don't share.

    Purring-Pussy [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm living without good health, the opportunity to work and have more children. I am lucky to have one son though. Everything else is heartbreaking and demoralising

    MrsMcX [sign in to see picture]
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    Well this thread makes me sad. But what makes me sad is the amount of wants that are expected withour any effort. We only get one life, one shot at it all. I aim to live my life without any regrets, and if I want something then I will fight for it. I don't want to live all of my life thinking 'oh I want this and I wish I could do that' then before I know it I'll be an old woman wishing I was young again so I could have a shot again at the things I wanted to have in life. But I won't be able to.

    To rosehip, and PP, why can't you be a mother? I understand that some health issues affect the physical way of having children, but that doesn't mean you can't be a mother. There is adoption, and I know a mother at school who has two adoptive children who are her world. She couldn't have children naturally, but now she has two children she absolutely adores that call her mother. A mother is someone who cares for a child, and gives as much love as possible to them. A mother isn't someone that bears a child, there's so many women who have children who don't look after them and don't deserve to be given the title of a mother. If you want children, then go for it, they don't have to be biological, they just need love and affection and that's what a real mother is. There are so many children longing for homes and parents to love them, and that could be you.

    McG, can you not talk to your wife and ask her to try things out at least once? I would try anything once that my husband suggests, as long as it doesn't involve me or him being unfaithful.

    I believe if you really want something in life you need to fight for it, or stop wanting it and live with it. As long as you can live with it without regrets. I would hate for anyone to be of old age, and to regret that they didn't do things when they could have.

    VirginAngel [sign in to see picture]
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    I'll never get to be a mother either, my OH is long distance and i worry i won't be good enough for him, and if i ever get married my mum won't get to be there.

    LilMissFrustrated [sign in to see picture]
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    I desire to be healthy but won't be. I also desire to own batmans car but won't. I desire that my oh get the sight back in his eye. I also desire an eroscillator and maybe just maybe....

    flaneur [sign in to see picture]
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    a fulfilling relationship

    a sex life


    a scar free face

    a straight nose

    a hair colour I don't hate

    absense of growth disorders and its effect

    being free of speech impediments

    complete set of teeth

    social skills

    asset balance in the black

    a name that my parent gave more than a seconds thought to

    Wildcherry [sign in to see picture]
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    It would have to be being a mum aswell. I found out 2 days ago the reason for my miscarriages is because i have an abnormaility with my womb. I've wanted to be a mother ever since i was a little girl, its really crushing and i dont think i could carry on trying with the risk of heartbreak everytime.

    As for adopting, my Oh is adopted its not something he ever wants to do so itll just be us two but we have each other and our families.

    Wildcherry [sign in to see picture]
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    Reading back I think my post was a little depressing so to be more humorous, my partners butt!

    He won't even let me put a finger on a cheek! Guess I could come to terms to live without it, its either that or I get him very drunk..

    rose hip [sign in to see picture]
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    Did anyone catch the second part of my post?

    "The more you focus on what isn't, the less room you have for what is."

    If you think the first part was about being sad or making anyone feel bad, please read that line again very carefully. Does that sound like someone who hasn't put a good deal of effort into finding ways to be content?

    And no, MrsMcX, I will ALWAYS regret not being able to be a mum. But adoption agencies have rules about being healthy enough and capable of raising a child. I'm not. And I'm not going to do a quarter-assed job with something as important as a young person.

    McG, that line was what I hoped you'd take from my post. It's one of the most important things I've learned.

    tinytheturtle [sign in to see picture]
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    yip have mmf threesome with her just watching if nothing else she use to want to but never did get it going we have had a 3way ffm but she aid the other lady just wanted all the attention which was trueso now she will not even talk about that stuff anymore so i just keep dreaming of it me and another guy

    rose hip [sign in to see picture]
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    Hugs amanda of the mm's. You'll find a way through all of this.

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