• Being kinker than the OH

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    Nikki and rich [sign in to see picture]
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    I'm a 26 year old lad and I love a bit of kink love cumming on her and haveing a bit of bum play and bondage however the OH isn't that kinky dose anybody have any ideas to how I can open her eyes to the world of kink and not to be scared of exploring .

    I love her to bit just missing a bit of kink

    Any and all input welcome

    Thanks Rich x

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    Talk

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    MrsMcX [sign in to see picture]
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    Talk, and tell her to get on the forums! Lovehoney really brought out the kink in me! Maybe buy her some erotic fiction.

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    miss_s [sign in to see picture]
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    Talk, be honest. You might be surprised at what she does like, or want to try 😊

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    Gentle giant [sign in to see picture]
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    Sum Sub wrote:

    Talk

    +1 & Subby should know he's the Kinkmeister.

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    ShannonMarlene [sign in to see picture]
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    Yup, communication is the number one thing.
    Take things slow and easy and let her get used to the idea.

    I'm much kinkier than my OH but he's trying for me (:

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    Sum Sub [sign in to see picture]
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    ShannonMarlene wrote:

    Yup, communication is the number one thing.
    Take things slow and easy and let her get used to the idea.

    I'm much kinkier than my OH but he's trying for me (:

    ^ you know you've got a keeper if they're willing to try things for you, but remember it's a two way street. Kink for you, romance for her, Rich

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    ShannonMarlene [sign in to see picture]
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    Not all women want romance, SS :P

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    Fluffbags [sign in to see picture]
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    I think both sexes like a little kink and a little romance now and again. It would be boring if it was always the same! I could live with an 80% kink 20% romance split lol I would say "kink all the way" but I know if two years passed and he never did ANYTHING romantic...id be a sad panda...I want it all! lol

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    ShannonMarlene wrote:

    Not all women want romance, SS :P

    I know Shan but I get the impression Nikki does :p
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    rose hip [sign in to see picture]
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    What do you all suggest he communicate to her?

    The first man who wanted in my bum communicated very effectively how important it was to him, which meant I had a real good idea how disappointed he was when I didn't get off from it. Knowing I'd let him down was worse than the sore arse.

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    It has definitely been a gradual thing with me. Do you watch porn together? If you see something you'd like to try, you could tell her that it's something you might try together. Or talk about your fantasies. Many times they stay just that, fantasies. But you may be surprised at what she is willing to try. I never in a million years thought I would do, never mind enjoy, anal. However, it's one of the things I enjoy most now. We took it VERY slowly at first. Good luck with bringing a bit of spice to your sex life!

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    Nikki and rich [sign in to see picture]
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    Iv tryed talking time and time agen it's really hard to get anything out of her for instance iv asked her do you have any fantasys her answer is no and if I suggest something we might try she kind of says ok but with no intension to try. I'd never pressure her into anything she may feel uncomfortable with I don't want her to feel uneasy about stuff hmmm it's tricky. X

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    Rose Hip has a very good point. Maybe you could try communicating by trying to draw her out a little on her desires? Finding any that match with yours will be a good place to start together. You have to find a way to raise the subject, without making her feel like a failure if she just doesn't enjoy what you want to try, because it could make her shut down more. Communicating is still important, but you are best taking baby steps than letting your excitement get the better of you and going all in. xx

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    When I ask my guy "What are your fantasies" he does the same as your lady. I think I have come to realise this is an overwhelming question for those who are maybe a bit shy or inexperienced or just not used to talking about sex our loud.

    You could try breaking it down into more manageable peices by suggesting or asking if she wants to experience something, or if she would like you to do something. For example, during sex with her you could ask "Would it feel nicer for you if I also stroked your bum" and this can gradually lead into more chats or experimenting with anal...likewise this can be applied to other kinks.

    You might find it easier on her if you start by asking her if it will feel better if you.... or if she would like it if you...or even say stuff like...I read about this online...does that interest you (In a kinda nonchalant way) I think this is better than "can I do..." because if she doesnt want to, she might feel a bit more forced. Asking her if she would like it, puts across that you care that this gives her pleasure. x

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    I don't have any useful imput, but I'm so tired I just read the title as 'Bacon kinkier than the OH' and thought - is that a problem?!

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    Nikki and rich [sign in to see picture]
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    I'll give this approach a try thank you fluffbags very help full. There's so much more to sex than clit bullets doggie and missionary I whan to open her eyes alittle and enjoy the ride together x

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    Nikki and rich [sign in to see picture]
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    Haha are you hungry too ?

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    PPD? In the nicest possible way... SLEEP!

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    ShannonMarlene [sign in to see picture]
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    You could try writing it done if you're finding it hard to say it aloud?

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